10 modi per riconquistarlo (senza sembrare disperate)

Chiedersi come riprenderlo senza sembrare disperati o troppo insistenti?

Don’t worry, here are some tips and tricks that will help you accomplish this!

If you’re trying to get your ex back, you have to be very careful and smart while working on your plan.

Because when your pride gets hurt and when you want someone back so badly, it’s not unheard of to become a bit desperate, because you want it so much.

You’re not thinking clearly because you’ve been hurt and you definitely haven’t gotten over him yet, you still love him.

E quando c'è di mezzo l'amore, nessuno di noi ragiona. Siamo in grado di fare ogni tipo di follia di cui non siamo nemmeno consapevoli.

But let’s say that there is another way to get him back, without looking desperate or needy.

If you go in the needy direction to make your plan come true, you’re only going to make things worse. When he sees that crazy and needy side of you, he’ll be glad that he broke up with you.

And we don’t want that. We want him to realize that he made the biggest mistake of his life, which he probably did but anyway…

10 MODI PER RICONQUISTARLO (SENZA SEMBRARE DISPERATE)

1. Don’t disagree with him about the end of your relationship

Listen to what he’s got to say about why he broke up with you and don’t argue with him. It’s so much better to accept the truth.

Prendetevi un po' di tempo per riflettere, assimilare ciò che vi ha detto e accettarlo. Potrete riparlarne in seguito.

Dimostrategli che siete un adulto maturo e che accettate di aver fatto qualcosa di sbagliato.

If you really did, apologize to him, and if you didn’t, talk to him normally without screaming and arguing but don’t try to change his mind.

If he sees how maturely you’re handling the whole situation, he might just change his mind after all.

2. Don’t beg him to come back

This is just desperate and as I said, you don’t want to be desperate.

Lei è una donna che merita un uomo che la tratti come merita.

So don’t ever beg him to get back with you. It will make you look needy and you will only confirm his decision is the right one.

Agli uomini piacciono le donne che si sentono bene con se stesse e lo dimostrano. È una cosa che rende sexy. La fiducia in se stessi li eccita.

Quindi, se volete attirarlo di nuovo, dimostrategli che state bene e siete felici di voi stesse, a prescindere da tutto.

3. Ammettere che anche voi siete responsabili della vostra rottura

Non date mai la colpa a lui. Pensate alla vostra relazione e, anche se ha portato alla rottura con voi, prendetevi anche la vostra parte di colpa.

Forse qualcosa che avete fatto lo ha spinto a lasciarvi. Ammettete a voi stessi che non siete perfetti e che c'è sempre più spazio per crescere e trovare un modo per essere più maturi.

If you also take the blame, he’ll see that you are reasonable and maybe he’ll give you another shot because you showed him that something has changed, unlike in the past.

4. Regola di non contatto

While the wound is still fresh, you have to play by the ‘no contact’ rule if you want a positive outcome later.

Also, when you just break up, you are angry and there is the possibility that you might say something to him that you will regret later on, something that you didn’t mean but anger made you say it. You mustn’t call or text him for at least four weeks.

Avoid hanging out with your mutual friends because you’ll probably run into him and don’t pretend you don’t know where he goes and then accidentally run into him on the street.

Se riuscite a evitare queste cose e a dargli un po' di spazio, quando gli mandate un messaggio o lo chiamate potrebbe essere contento di sentirvi e potrebbe rendersi conto di aver commesso un errore.

5. Non c'è spazio per la gelosia

I know this is easier said than done, because let’s face it, it’s not easy to see your ex dating another woman shortly after you broke up.

Maybe when you see him with someone new you’ll think that there is no way you’ll ever riprenderlo. But that doesn’t have to necessarily be true.

Di solito, una relazione che avviene subito dopo un'altra relazione è un ripiego, che non è serio. Servono solo per dimenticare e lasciarsi andare.

And while he’s at it, he’ll realize while being in another woman’s arms how much he misses being around you. And if you act jealous, you will only drive him far away from you.

6. Lasciate che vi contatti

You’ve typed the text and you’ve read it a hundred times to make sure it’s perfect and you still don’t know whether it’s a good idea to send it to him or not.

Well, don’t send it because it’s definitely a mistake. If you keep contacting him, you won’t give him a chance to miss you.

When you’re feeling down or in a crisis about contacting him, call a friend and ask for help or chat randomly about things just to keep your mind off of him.

Lasciate che si chieda cosa state facendo e chi frequentate.

Let him contact you first. And when he does, don’t show that you were waiting for him to contact you.

Siate gentili e un po' indifferenti, ma non troppo, finché non vedete che la sua conversazione sta andando in un'altra direzione, quella che vi si addice di più. Lasciate che sia lui a fare tutto il lavoro.

7. Aumentare la fiducia in se stessi

La cosa più importante a cui dovete prestare attenzione è lavorare sulla vostra sicurezza.

Se vi comportate come se aveste zero voglia di rilassarvi o vi stressaste facilmente, il vostro uomo lo percepirà e non vorrà farne parte.

So, the best thing you could do for yourself is to work hard on boosting your self confidence because it’s the only way to tell him that you’re feeling awesome and nothing and no one can stop you from doing what you want.

Migliorare la vostra fiducia in voi stesse vi aiuterà a migliorare la vostra vita e con essa le possibilità di tornare con il vostro uomo.

E potete essere certi che non sarà in grado di resistere a dare un'altra possibilità alla vostra relazione.

8. Apparire al meglio per sentirsi al meglio

Lavorate sul vostro interno e sul vostro esterno. Apparite al meglio per sentirvi al meglio e trasuderete felicità!

I’m sure you already know that guys are pretty much visual beings and you can never work too much on your appearance.

Buy some sexy outfit, spoil yourself with enchanting perfume and you’ll instantly feel ten times better.

You want to show him what a total catch you are and he won’t be able to take his eyes off of you.

Il segreto è occuparsi di cose e hobby che vi ispirano e vi ricaricano di energia.

By doing what you’re passionate about, you will become a free-spirited, energetic woman who doesn’t need a man to make her happy. And that’s the message you want to send him.

You want to let him know that you want him but you don’t need him and there’s a huge difference between the two.

To get him back, you need to let him know that you’re having the time of your life on your own and if he wants to join you, he’s welcome. But if not, you’ll continue living your high life without him.

9. Don’t play games

Inoltre, dovete evitare di fare qualsiasi tipo di gioco con lui, perché non vi porterà nulla di buono.

Instead, they will confuse him and he’ll think that you’re just playing with his emotions. Whatever you say or do, do so in a calm manner.

Don’t let him think that you’re desperate about volere il suo ritorno because if you do, he’ll take you for granted.

You need him to realize that you’re serious and honest about everything you say and do and that your ulterior motives are pure.

Even if he doesn’t like something, don’t force him into it. You want to give him space as much as possible so that he doesn’t feel pressured to decide or do anything that he’s not ready for.

You want him to decide that he wants you back and you’ll achieve it by staying cool and avoiding playing games.

10. Essere disposti al compromesso

Se volete avere successo nella vostra strategia per riconquistarlo, dovrete essere disposte a scendere a compromessi e a fare qualche cambiamento.

Ciò che è accaduto in passato rimarrà nel passato e ora dovete concentrarvi sul presente e sul futuro.

Dovete sistemare le cose che non funzionavano e che sono state la causa della vostra rottura.

For example, if you weren’t giving him enough alone time for himself, you want to fix things by giving him space and letting him know that you understand his need for it.

But always have boundaries. Never approve of something that you’re not quite comfortable with because getting him back is not about repeating your past.

It’s about fixing things from your past and building new, stable foundations for your future.