7 suggerimenti per convincere un giocatore a impegnarsi con voi
So, you’ve met this guy who makes you feel so special and he’s cute, caring and kind.
Ma vi dice che non ha mai avuto una relazione seria e questo vi fa pensare che abbia o meno problemi di impegno.
Also, he doesn’t show any signs that he wants to start a relationship with you.
He’s surrounded by beautiful girls who make you feel uncomfortable and awkward and you get to the point where you see that you’ve been dealing with a player.
Of course, this doesn’t change the fact that you still want to show him how relationships are a wonderful thing.
Ma, prima di buttarvi a capofitto in questo pasticcio, lasciate che vi dia qualche consiglio su how to get a so-called ‘player’ to commit in 7 semplici passi:
1. Mostragli il tuo valore
There is nothing sexier than a confident woman who knows what she wants in her life and she’s eager to get it.
Sai quanto sei intelligente, quanto sei attraente e anche quanto sei un buon partito.
He’s not going to play with you that easily. And even if he does play with you a bit, it’s because you let him.
You are a busy woman who doesn’t have time to wait around for him forever, so make sure that he knows that.
Se vi manda un messaggio per uscire, fate un piano e lui lo disdice all'ultimo minuto, fategli capire che siete una donna con un certo piglio.
“You know what, dear, how about you figure out what you want and then you can text me?” This is a way of making his ego run into the corner crying, because you didn’t break, but you played the player.
2. Know what you deserve and don’t settle for anything less
Sapete cosa volete in una relazione e non c'è nulla che possa farvi cambiare idea.
You have high standards and you don’t need to settle for anything less.
The thing with ‘players’ is that they need to have the woman they have their eye on, so they will do some crazy sh*t to get her.
So, you know what you want in a relationship (a best friend, someone who’s there for you, someone who respects and appreciates you), then he will become all that you want.
You will show him that it’s not that bad to be with someone who loves you dearly and he will get addicted to it.
3. Non parlare del futuro
Lo spaventerete se iniziate a parlare di un futuro insieme. Si spaventerà e si nasconderà in un angolo. Piuttosto, divertitevi e godetevi il momento.
Make him think that you are as easy-going as he is and don’t scare him by talking about how you two could be a cute couple or something like that.
Volete sapere perché? Beh, lo spaventerete a morte se inizierà a pensare che sarete l'unica persona che si scoperà per il resto della sua vita.
4. Fatevi amare dalla sua famiglia e dai suoi amici
Se vi presenta al suo gruppo di amici stretti o alla sua famiglia, assicuratevi di fare una buona impressione.
Volete essere il fratello femmina tra i suoi amici, ma anche la donna perfetta di fronte ai suoi genitori.
Probabilmente siete già sufficientemente in gamba e meravigliose per entrambi gli scenari, ma assicuratevi di essere consapevoli del fatto che gli uomini amano che la loro ragazza vada d'accordo con le persone che lui ama e con le quali trascorre più tempo.
Also, his friends will put in a good word for you if you chug down that beer—just sayin’.
5. Divertirsi
Most men don’t want to hear a word about a committed relationship because they are afraid that the fun will be over and that they will turn their life into everything they didn’t want it to be.
They certainly don’t want someone who is boring and doesn’t have any fun in their life.
So go out and dance like there’s no tomorrow, because there isn’t. All you have is the right here and right now, so have fun!
Dimenticatevi di impegni e relazioni e divertitevi davvero. Lui verrà da voi più velocemente di quanto pensiate.
6. Non fare sesso con lui
At least not until you’re sure that there is an emotional connection coming together with the physical.
Sappiate che gli uomini amano fare sesso e faranno di tutto per entrare nei vostri pantaloni. Quindi rallentare e aspettare un po'.
Vedrà che non siete come le altre ragazze e gli dimostrerete che deve fare un passo avanti se vuole vedere le vostre mutandine.
7. Tutto ciò di cui ha bisogno è cibo e sesso (e forse una birra)
Men are very simple creatures. They don’t think about stuff as much as we do and they don’t complicate things.
There is a saying that a man will never cheat on you if you don’t let him out of the house horny and/or hungry.
So hand him a sandwich when he doesn’t have a boner and he’s yours for good.
This is the point where he will also do anything he can to please you, because he has finally realized that relationships and love aren’t scary, but rather fun. But only with the right person. And you? You are his right person.
