8 micro-impegni che dovrebbe mettere nella vostra relazione se è quello giusto

Una relazione è una strada a doppio senso e le coppie dovrebbero impegnarsi in egual misura l'una per l'altra. A volte le donne lo dimenticano e vanno oltre, mentre gli uomini danno per scontato tutto ciò che fanno.

Questi micro sforzi servono a ricordare agli uomini tutte le cose che dovrebbero fare per l'altra persona senza pensarci troppo, a ricordare alle donne che meritano qualcuno che sappia ricambiare tutto quello che sta dando e che solo un uomo che si sforza è quello giusto.

If he is the one, he should…

1. Mandare prima un messaggio (almeno una volta al giorno)

Dovrebbe esistere una regola secondo cui le coppie devono sentirsi almeno due volte al giorno. Anche se 3 messaggi al giorno sarebbero semplicemente perfetti: buongiorno, pomeriggio e un testo della buonanotte per dormire meglio.

This is especially important for couples who don’t see each other often, so the texts are what gives them that feeling of togetherness.

If he is the one, he will text you first at least once a day because he won’t be able to stand not hearing from you for an entire day. A man who says that’s not true is a liar.

2. Mostrare affetto senza un ordine del giorno

Coccole, baci, abbracci often say ‘I love you’ more strongly than words ever will. They are there to show love, affection, warmth, and even comfort.

So if he hugs you a lot, kisses you every time he is saying goodbye, and cuddles with you often without trying to get into your pants every single time, it’s all a good sign that he is the one and that he has feelings that are stronger than anything he can say aloud.

3. Creare il tempo

This is really a micro-effort even though most men today act like they should get a reward for finding time in their busy schedules. If you are making time for them, they should make time for you. It’s that simple.

So don’t buy into the “I am too busy.” BS excuse. When he is the one for you, he will make time—there is no doubt about it. No matter how busy he is or what he has going on, you will see that he is making an effort to be with you.

4. Invia un messaggio a caso per ricordarvi che vi sta pensando e che gli mancate.

Non sto dicendo che dovrebbe inondare la vostra casella di posta elettronica di messaggi, ma quell'emoji di bacio a metà giornata o un testo semplice di poche frasi avranno Mi manchi scritto su di esso.

This text doesn’t have to arrive every day, but it’s nice if he sends one every now and then just to remind you how special you are. I bet you are doing the same for him.

5. Preoccuparsi dei propri pensieri e sentimenti

Most men are not in touch with their feelings like women are, and a lot of things can happen to a woman emotionally that they won’t even detect.

But if he takes the time to ask you how are you or notices that you are behaving differently, that’s exactly the micro-effort you need. It shows that he cares about your wellbeing and that he wants to contribute to making you feel better.

6. Fare piani

It doesn’t have to be all the time, but it’s really nice when a man plans a date regardless if it’s going out or staying home.

It can be something as simple as making you lunch after a hard day’s work, making you a bubble bath or planning a night out full of fun things to do. The important thing is that he tries and that his efforts are visible.

7. Fare piccole cose significative

Farti compagnia quando ti addormenti sul divano, ricordarti qualcosa che hai detto tempo fa, prepararti il caffè al mattino, perfino buttare la spazzatura: gli ci vorranno solo pochi minuti, ma ti renderanno la giornata intera.

Doing things that he knows will help you and make you feel good is what it is all about. If he is the one, he won’t waste his words in reassuring you that he loves you. He will do these little big things to show you he cares.

8. Rendervi soddisfatti

If he is selfish in bed, he will be selfish in every other aspect of the relationship, and that’s just wrong on so many levels.

That’s why the right one for you should show you the differenza tra fare sesso e fare amore mettendo al primo posto il vostro piacere.