Come far arrapare una ragazza (l'unica guida di cui avrete bisogno)

Siete uno di quegli uomini che pensano che far arrapare una ragazza è un gioco da ragazzi? Pensate che le ragazze la pensino come gli uomini quando si tratta di fare l'amore?

Prendetevi un po' di tempo per riflettere prima di continuare a leggere.

I know you didn’t take some time because you’re curious about what I’m going to write next which is good because it means you’re interested in the topic. I’ll try to be as clear as possible:

NO, women don’t experience arousal the same way men do. Far eccitare una ragazza non è una cosa casuale che si fa con poco sforzo.

Far eccitare una ragazza è un'arte in sé, e i veri uomini se ne rendono conto.

I’ve seen men bragging about themselves, thinking that this or that will make a girl fall for them in record time.

I’ve seen men ignoring women thinking that playing hard to get will make them wet. (Love this rhyme.)

I’ve seen men wasting their time accentuating trivial things like their biceps, triceps, or bank accounts. Don’t get me wrong. Some women are turned on by a six-figure salary, but the majority of them aren’t.

If you think that all this time you’ve been doing it wrong (and even if you don’t believe that), it’s high time you step up your game and learn how to make a girl horny the right way!

Cari uomini: Per la maggior parte delle ragazze, andare a letto con qualcuno ha un significato molto più profondo di quanto possiate immaginare.

This is going to be really challenging for me, but I’ll try to explain physical intercourse from a girl’s perspective.

Here’s the thing, men. When we see a good-looking guy, we don’t immediately get horny (well, most of us don’t) or express a will for him to jump into our pants and make us his goddess.

A hot, handsome, good-looking guy is just that. He’s nice to look at, and he’s a great source for our wild imagination.

But would we really throw ourselves at such a guy without him lifting a finger? I don’t think so.

Quando si tratta di imparare come far bagnare le donneè necessario capire una cosa: It’s all about the amount of EFFORT you put in.

You could be the hottest guy on the planet with a six-figure salary, but if you don’t know how to treat a woman the way she deserves and desires, you will not make her wet. It’s as simple as that.

Again, there are exceptions, but I’m talking about the majority of women out there.

Ora, pensate che una ragazza si innamorerebbe immediatamente di voi se le diceste alcune delle seguenti cose: OMG, you’re so pretty. You’re really hot. Do you find me handsome? I would like to get to know you better (if you catch my drift)…

Yes, it’s flattering to know that you think of us being pretty or hot, but this doesn’t make us horny at all.

Actually, words don’t play an important role when it comes to far eccitare una ragazza.

It’s all about your actions. It’s all about making a girl feel special.

Come si fa a far sentire speciale una ragazza? Imparare l'elenco definitivo delle domande sconce a memoria e recitarli davanti a lei?

Beh, le domande sporche e messaggi sexting per lei può sicuramente aiutare farla eccitare, but you shouldn’t overdo it or rely only on that one source.

The best way to make a girl feel special is by showing her that you’re different from the rest of the men out there. You make a girl feel special by paying attention to her personality and not only her looks.

Una donna vuole essere ascoltata.

Una donna vuole essere corteggiata.

Una donna vuole essere accudita.

A woman wants to know that you’re making a damn effort.

Pensate che pagarle l'affitto la faccia eccitare? O comprarle quel gioiello costoso? Certamente, questi sono alcuni dei metodi di eccitazione preferiti dalle cacciatrici di dote, ma non dalle ragazze comuni.

Come si fa a far sentire speciale una ragazza?

Semplice. Invece di riempirla di regali costosi, esprimete il desiderio di conoscerla meglio.

You accentuate her personality’s unique traits and let her know how different she is from the rest of the girls out there.

You pay her a compliment or two, but you don’t overdo it. Most importantly, you don’t rush her into anything but give her some space to make her own decisions.

Did I mention courting? Given that I have so much to say about the importance of courting, I’ll make another heading just for that purpose.

COURTING – the forgotten art of seduction.

Quando qualcuno nomina la parola corteggiamento, cosa vi viene in mente? Immaginate cerimonie all'antica come parlare con il padre di lei prima di decidere di passare al livello successivo e andare a letto con lei?

Forget all about that. I’m talking about modern-day courting. I’m talking about the things that any man can do for a woman regardless of his bank account, social status, or anything else.

I’m talking about the little things that mean so much to every woman.

Sia il corteggiamento antico che quello moderno prevedono l'essere un gentiluomo. Quindi, come si fa a mostrare i propri tratti da gentiluomo di fronte a una ragazza che si vuole far eccitare? Semplice.

La trattate come un'amica. Investite del tempo per conoscerla meglio. Le fate domande significative e vi addentrate in conversazioni profonde invece che in chiacchiere.

In effetti, l'importanza di una conversazione profonda è spesso sottovalutata nel mondo degli uomini.

Naturalmente, dovreste essere dotati di alcuni Cose sporche da chiedere a una donna nel vostro gioco di seduzione, ma dovreste anche trovare degli argomenti interessanti che le facciano capire che siete un ragazzo brillantemente creativo.

Through meaningful conversation and other courting elements, you are establishing a connection with that one girl. And, trust me, without a connection, you’ve got nothing.

Creare un legame = far eccitare una ragazza.

Now, let’s go back to what we mentioned in the beginning. We talked about how women experience physical attraction differently.

They might notice a good-looking guy who hits the gym every single day and knows tons of big words, but he won’t be able to make them horny just with his physical appearance.

Se un uomo non riesce a stabilire una connessione emotiva con una donna, non riuscirà ad eccitarla.

Come funziona un legame emotivo?

Simple. (I really like using that word.) Now, imagine that you’re on a date and only talk about yourself, your achievements, personality, goals, etc.

Obviously, if you’re only talking about yourself, a woman won’t be an active participant in the conversation.

Un legame emotivo consiste nel permettere a una donna di esprimersi, nell'ascoltarla attentamente e nel ricambiare. It is about stimulating a woman’s mind instead of her body.

Actually, by stimulating a woman’s mind, you indirectly stimulate her body because it is really hard for a woman to experience arousal without feeling an emotional connection.

By simply asking her how her day was, you are letting her know that you care about her and you’re interested in what is going on in her life.

Now, you don’t need to learn her whole life story from her childhood until today, but it’s important that you show some interest in her personal life.

Recently I’ve been texting with a guy who would shower me with nice words and compliment my passions.

No matter how many times he repeated that I’m an inspiration to him, what really made me attracted to him was his Atteggiamento di cura.

Prima di concludere una conversazione, diceva sempre qualcosa come: Ci sentiamo dopo, piccolo tesoro. Alle 16:00, ora di oggi. (Viviamo in due continenti diversi).

This is something I haven’t experienced with other guys. They would seldom be so determined about hearing me again because most guys consider texting a pain in the ass. But not this guy!

He would even text me to ask if I could talk to him in between his meetings. How wouldn’t I feel ultimately special?

A guy who always makes sure to let you know how much he cares about you is a guy who can stimulate a woman’s mind in no time!

I thought to myself: Damn, this guy REALLY cares about me given that he tries hard to make me feel special; he always finds time for me and doesn’t get in touch with me only when it’s convenient for him.

Be that guy. Treat a woman like she’s the only girl in the world when you’re courting her, and you’ll make her horny in no time.

Flirtate con lei, siate spontanei e, soprattutto, siate gentili con lei. Non ostentate la vostra mascolinità e non vantatevi dei vostri successi.

Of course, you can mention some things you’re really proud of, but don’t let that be the main topic of your every conversation.

Se volete far eccitare una ragazza, dovete fare uno sforzo, osservare il suo linguaggio del corpo e ascoltarla. Questo vi aiuterà a essere sempre un passo avanti nel gioco.