4 cose che non dovrebbero mai lusingarti negli appuntamenti

When we are into a guy, we all have this strange habit of falling for nonsense. Don’t get me wrong: little things are actually the biggest, but that doesn’t include crumbs of someone’s attention.

Alcuni gesti significano il mondo per noi se provengono da un ragazzo che ci piace. Ma indovinate un po': nessuno di questi gesti dovrebbe lusingarvi.

They’re not proof of his love for you, nor do they assure you a special place in his life.

Calling you when he’s drunk

Let’s be real: what girl hasn’t had an ex or an almost who tried to hit her up whenever he was drunk?

He is nowhere to be found during the week, but as soon as the booze takes over, he’s all over your DMs.

So, you think to yourself that he must be crazy about you. After all, you know what they say: “A drunk mind speaks a sober heart”?

È così follemente innamorato di voi che ha paura dell'intensità dei suoi sentimenti. Oppure cerca di reprimere le sue emozioni, ma semplicemente non ci riesce.

Alcohol serves him as a truth serum. You’re the one he remembers whenever he gets wasted, so that should flatter you, right?

Beh, NO. Se questo ragazzo tenesse davvero a te, he would call you when he’s sober.

He would do everything in his power to make you his – he wouldn’t only reach out to you when he doesn’t even know what he’s doing.

Affidarsi a voi

La fiducia nel proprio partner è uno dei fondamenti di una relazione sana. Sapere che ci sarete l'uno per l'altro e che contate l'uno sull'altro è come dovrebbero essere le cose.

But, hey, you’re not this guy’s girlfriend. Maybe you are his ex, or what you two have is senza laboratorio, but officially, you’re not his girlfriend.

Tuttavia, si affida ancora a voi. Apprezza la vostra opinione e si fida di voi più di chiunque altro.

Whenever he is in trouble, he asks for your help or advice. And whether you like to admit it or not, deep down, you’re flattered by this.

Come on, just look at him. He has all those girls, but it’s clear that you’re special.

You’re the only one he feels much more than vestigial attraction. He appreciates you as a person and sees you as a friend and not just as a hookup or an ex.

Bullshit! He relies on you because you’re the only one who lets him.

This man is using you. The moment he gets himself into any kind of trouble, you’re the first one he calls.

But later on, as soon as you help him, he goes back to his old ways. So, what’s exactly flattering about this?

Riapparire nella vostra vita

It’s been ages since you two broke up. Or maybe you were never a real couple. Either way, the bottom line is the same – ever since he left, this man keeps coming back to you.

Succede ogni poche settimane o mesi, ma la verità è che ogni tanto riappare nella vostra vita. Quindi, lo vedete come un segno della sua incapacità di dimenticarvi.

He’s been with all those other women. He tried moving on, but he just can’t. Every time is the same: he always comes knocking back on your door. So, you must be special to him.

As much as he tries, he can’t seem to forget you. It’s apparent that he loves you, as he can’t control his urge to see you.

O almeno, questo è ciò che si vuole credere. Tuttavia, c'è un solo motivo per cui si comporta così: perché può farlo.

You’re the only woman in the whole wide world who would always take him back. It doesn’t matter what he’s done or how long he’s been away: you’re there waiting for him with your arms wide open.

E lui lo sa. Non solo: lo usa a suo vantaggio. Ma chi può dargli torto?

Dicendoti che gli manchi

It’s super cute if your BF tells you gli manchi because you two hadn’t had a chance to meet for a few days. It’s also acceptable to hear this from your long-distance partner.

Ma if a guy who is a few minutes drive away from you tells you that he misses you but doesn’t do anything about it – don’t be flattered.

He doesn’t miss you, and he doesn’t give a damn about you. Instead, he is doing this to keep you on hold.

He is deliberately playing with your mind. This man is making sure you don’t forget him while he is somewhere else, putting effort into another girl.