Essere single non è mai stato un colpo di sfortuna, ma è sempre stata una mia scelta e una mia decisione.

Quando vedete una ragazza come me, la maggior parte di voi prova pietà.

After all, I’m, without any false modesty, a good looking, attractive, intelligent and successful girl.

Tuttavia, ho un difetto critico che annulla chiaramente tutte le mie buone qualità: I’m single e non sono pronti a mescolarsi.

Secondo molti, devo avere qualcosa che non va. Everything in my life is going smoothly – everything besides one thing: relationships.

I’ve been alone for ages so people end up making conspiracy theories. They can’t believe that I haven’t been seeing anyone for such a long time.

Mi aspetto troppo? I miei standard sono troppo elevati? Gli uomini mi vedono come una fidanzata?

What is even harder to believe for most is that I’m not desperate about my relationship status. In fact, I’m not in the dating market and I’m not actively looking for a boyfriend.

Of course, most think that these are just false pretenses and that I’m lying when I say I’m not bothered by the lack of a boyfriend.

Pensano che io passi le mie notti solitarie piangendo fino a dormire e pregando Dio di mandarmi finalmente qualcuno.

Beh, lasciatemi dire una cosa: As hard as this is to believe, I don’t think of my single status as a curse or bad luck. In fact, I’m single by choice.

Sì, avete sentito bene: Trascorrere tutto questo tempo lontano da qualsiasi tipo di coinvolgimento sentimentale è stata una decisione esclusivamente mia e la cosa che ho considerato la migliore opzione per me.

Vedete, non c'è niente di più facile che mettersi in gioco e accalappiare il primo che capita.

Some might call it spontaneous – and I don’t like to meddle in anyone’s choices – but that’s just not my cuppa.

In effetti, questo è probabilmente ciò che farei se avessi paura di essere soli.

It’s exactly how I would behave if I thought that I needed a man to complete me and expected another human being to make me happy.

Questo è ciò che farei se mi preoccupassi di ciò che pensano gli altri.

If I were to fall under pressure from my friends and family who keep asking me when I will settle down or if I’m too embarrassed to keep on showing up to different events without my plus one.

This is how I would behave if I was a regular girl who lives her life by the book and according to someone else’s rules. However, this is just not how I roll.

Don’t get me wrong. This doesn’t mean that I’ve sentenced myself to an entire life of solitude.

It doesn’t mean that I’m running away from the possibility of ever trovare l'amore o non lo farei mai entrare nella mia vita.

Ma, Non mi farò mai coinvolgere in una relazione per i motivi sbagliati.

I won’t settle for less than I deserve just out of fear of dying alone. I won’t go around dating a bunch of guys who want to get into my pants just so I could have someone to sleep next to at night.

I won’t be in a loveless relationship just because I’m tired of being an outcast. I won’t lower my standards because I’m afraid that everyone will accuse me of being too picky.

I won’t trade my perfectly ordered life for a relationship that will make me miserable and heartbroken. I won’t trade my peace for chaos!

Most importantly – I won’t seek happiness elsewhere until I acquire it by myself. I won’t be searching for my other half. Instead, I’ll do my best to complete myself.

You see, I don’t need validation from anyone. I don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to see my value or consider myself enough.

I don’t need a man to respect me in order for me to feel confident in myself and I certainly don’t need one to love me so I could love myself.

Therefore, if true love ever appears in my life, I will welcome it with open arms. If a man who deserves me crosses my path, I won’t chase him away.

However, if none of this happens, I’ll be perfectly fine the way I am.