Le 6 più grandi disillusioni per gli uomini di qualità
Quality men don’t settle for anything less than what they deserve. They don’t settle for arrogant women with low standards and constant complaints.
Are you a woman with a behavior that’s a common turn off?
Non è un segreto che uomini e donne abbiano gusti diversi in fatto di sesso opposto. While there is no single formula for creating a “perfect woman”, there are certain attributes and behaviors that are just a big NO for men.
From the perspective of a woman, let’s take a closer look at what qualities and behaviors men find to be the most off-putting.
1. Donne arroganti
First things first: let’s clear out that arrogance isn’t the same as confidence. An arrogant woman will tell a man what to do, but a confident woman expects her man to know what to do because she knows what she’s bringing to the table.
Una donna arrogante si rivolge al suo uomo con un tono basso, che è molto avvilente. By doing this, she gives him the impression that his opinion doesn’t matter to her, which in turn causes insecurity.
Essere arroganti comporta molti svantaggi, ma quello più evidente è che si appare freddi e disinteressati. That’s why men can’t open up and become vulnerable around you.
And isn’t vulnerability the first step to emotional intimacy?
2. You’re the drama queen
Per quanto possa sembrare banale e scontato, le regine del dramma possono essere una vera e propria seccatura, soprattutto per gli uomini.
Some folks think that shunning drama queens is all about avoiding being taken advantage of, while others believe it’s more about not wanting to get caught up in too much melodramatic mayhem!
It’s easy to understand why men feel this way; after all, no one likes to deal with too much drama.
Gli sfoghi emotivi e le esagerazioni sono un grande NO per ogni uomo. A loro piace l'idea di un lunedì normale e tranquillo piuttosto che avere una fidanzata che crea continuamente drammi dal nulla.
So if you’re one of these girls, it’s definitely time to change!
3. Mostrare troppo interesse in anticipo
As humans, our brains are conditioned to believe that something is only valuable if it’s hard to get. If you give any indication that you’re NOT HARD TO GET, he may start wondering: ‘’Hm, maybe there’s someone more valuable than her?’’
So for example, if you’re texting him back right away all the time, treating him like a priority before he’s really even had to prove himself to you…Sì, potrebbe lasciarvi per cercare qualcuno di meglio.
Yes, you gotta act nonchalant to keep him humbled. But don’t get confused, quality men don’t think you’re desperate if you’re showing interest. They just enjoy the chase.
4. Eccessivo bisogno di aiuto
Being needy is the ugliest thing you can do as a girl. You come off as the “crazy woman” and that’s an instant ICK for him.
Neediness is not a set of behaviors – it’s a state of mind. It’s a state of mind that says “I’ll only be okay if you give me 100% of your attention and love. I can’t function otherways. That’s my default behavior and if I don’t get it, things will get tough.”
So, think about it, it makes sense why it’s one of the biggest turn-offs. No matter how many other qualities you have, when you become the “too clingy” partner in the relationship, it quickly becomes a real nightmare.
Clinginess leads to a number of problems, from insecurity and jealousy to a lack of trust, and quality men just don’t have the time to deal with those things.
5. Lamentarsi
Guys hate this! Complaining, negative mindset or when you do something that’s rude like gossip about someone…All these things will be a big obstacle to your success in winning him.
It’s simple: men just don’t like being around someone who’s always negative and pessimistic. Every relationship needs a certain level of positive energy to thrive, and complaining all the time won’t get you anywhere.
He will see you as a nag and annoyance and plus, you’re creating a sense of obligation because he’ll start to think he’s responsible for your happiness.
6. You’re talking, but not listening
Men love when you make them feel heard. That’s why not being a good listener is one big turn-off.
Being a good listener is a sign of maturity and emotional intelligence, and if you’re not, quality men won’t be interested in you.
There are many ways that tell him you’re not listening right to him, and Eros Miranda, a relationship coach, explains the most common ones in her TikTok video:
Communication in a relationship is so important and if you won’t listen to him and how he’s feeling, it’s a surefire sign to him that he shouldn’t start a relationship with you at all.
Ricorda
Se volete attrarre un uomo di qualità, ricordate che il bell'aspetto e un atteggiamento seducente possono portarvi solo fino a un certo punto.
Be confident, be yourself, and don’t be afraid to show off your playful and girly side. Gli uomini di qualità sono alla ricerca di un legame genuino e di una persona vera che si senta a proprio agio nella propria pelle.
Don’t ignore these turn-offs and if you have some of them, try to get rid of them because with the right combination (being yourself + watching out for these turn-offs) your success is guaranteed!
