Non ci sono codici o scuse, il modo in cui vi tratta è come si sente nei vostri confronti

Suvvia, siamo onesti: quante ore, giorni o addirittura settimane della vostra vita avete sprecato per analizzare il comportamento di un ragazzo?

How many times have you called your girlfriends to ask them one simple question: “What does this mean?”

Cosa vuole questo tizio da me? Come si sente? Ha qualche progetto per il nostro futuro? O sono solo temporaneo?

Perché continua ad apparire e scomparire dalla mia vita? È solo un'avventura? Sono la sua ragazza? Ci stiamo frequentando esclusivamente? O si vede con altre persone?

Cosa si nasconde dietro il suo comportamento caldo e freddo? Da che parte stiamo?

If he loves me, why does he behave like this? On the other hand, if he doesn’t care, why doesn’t he leave me alone?

Sounds familiar, right? The list goes on and on. The bottom line is that you’re racking your brain, trying to get to the bottom of a guy’s behavior.

You’re dissecting his mixed signals, looking for a hidden message. The worst part is that too often, you ask for the help of a friend.

Si riunisce un vero e proprio comitato di gestione della crisi in cerca di risposte.

Si ispeziona ogni suo testo, si analizzano i suoi modelli di comportamento fino in fondo e si indagano le sue azioni, cercando di trovare un raggio di sole in questa oscurità.

E what do you conclude from all of this? That’s right, nothing. You’re always left more confused than ever, with all of these question marks still floating around your head.

Why? Because you don’t have the courage to look the truth in the eyes.

Yes, I know you’ve tried talking to him about all of this a million times. But let’s face it – he tells you the same things over and over again; he tells you what you want to hear.

Probabilmente questo ragazzo vi assicura che vi ama. Vi convince che è proprio così, che ha bisogno di tempo per aprirsi o che questo è il massimo che può dare.

Tuttavia, he doesn’t give you any logical explanation of why his actions don’t back up his words.

Look, I don’t mean to judge you. Yes, you’re wasting your time and energy on all of this nonsense. But I get you. We’ve all been there, and I’m no exception.

Well, precisely because I’ve been you, I’m here to tell you the harsh reality: all of this is pointless.

You see, there is absolutely no need to decode anyone’s behavior. Putting in the effort to get to the bottom of a guy’s attention is pointless, and it won’t get you anywhere.

Non vorrei essere io a farle scoppiare la bolla di sapone, ma non esistono segnali contrastanti. Se ti amasse, lo sapresti. If you two were in a steady relationship, you wouldn’t have these doubts.

He doesn’t play hard to get just to make you fall for him harder – he’s just playing mind games with you. Gioca con il vostro cuore per aumentare il suo fragile ego.

He is not too busy to give you a place in his life. Instead, a man’s lack of attention always equals a lack of love.

It’s not that he is non pronto per una relazione right now – he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

He doesn’t come to you when all those other girls turn their backs on him because he realizes that you’re the one.

He does it because he knows very well that you’re the only one who will always take him back, no matter what.

He doesn’t come asking for a second chance every time he screws things up because he realizes that he can’t live without you.

He is not scared of losing you – he is scared of losing his safety net and backup option.

He doesn’t push you away to see whether you’re worthy of him breaking down his walls. He is not treating you like shit because he is scared of getting hurt – he is just an asshole with zero empathy.

He is an asshole who does all of this for one simple reason: because he can. You’re the one giving him the green light to continue with his toxic behavior every time you justify his actions.

Quindi, per favore, basta con le scuse vuote. Basta con la giustificazione delle sue azioni tossiche.

Enough of waiting for a miracle that will never happen. Your efforts and love can’t change him, so you better give up before wasting more of your time.

Stop hoping that things will work in your favor because they won’t. Stop giving him endless seconde opportunità perché ogni volta che lo fate, finirà allo stesso modo.

The bottom line is that this man is not emotionally unavailable or broken – he is just not emotionally invested in you.

This guy doesn’t love you enough, and he never will. When a man acts like he doesn’t care for you – you better believe him.