La dura verità sull'essere innamorati della persona sbagliata
It’s not so hard to innamorarsi. There are so many handsome man around, so many sweet talkers and heartbreakers. It’s so easy to fall in love with anyone, but it’s so hard to fall in love with the right person.
Si può cercare di evitare di innamorarsi della persona sbagliata. Si può stare attenti, ma una volta che ci si innamora, si diventa letteralmente stupidi. Ogni logica scompare improvvisamente.
All the warning signs that scream ‘he is not the man for you’ are there, but you simply can’t see them. You’re in a delirious state of infatuation, and all you see is the person you fell in love with; the person you idealize.
Si finisce per essere uno sciocco per il suo amore. Ti ritrovi a percorrere la strada dei rischi. Metti in gioco il tuo cuore perché i tuoi occhi sono chiusi.
Every next minute is a gamble for you because that is not the man you’re supposed to be with.
Maybe you even know it deep inside, but you’re happy at the moment. And people don’t usually look that far into the future, especially if the present is so pleasant.
They don’t want to step out out of their comfort zones.
The honeymoon phase which lasts too short and too long at the same time blinds you. When you’re happy in your ignorance and when it’s over, you’re sad because it lasted too short.
But when you wake up from the dream you were living in that period and see you’ve been in a wrong relationship, you realize your ignorance lasted for far too long.
Molti di noi commettono lo stesso errore. Dentro di noi sappiamo di essere su una strada sbagliata, di aver fatto la scelta sbagliata con quel ragazzo. Ma seguiamo la corrente e ci godiamo la nostra felicità temporanea perché l'alternativa è semplicemente dura.
We don’t want to admit to ourselves that we made a wrong choice. Reality is harsh and frankly, who would like to be aware of it and live in it?
It’s so much better to live in a fairy tale ruled by your own rules.
Why do we do this? Why do we pretend real life doesn’t exist and creare la nostra realtà?
Perché ci hanno insegnato che è la strada giusta. Ci hanno insegnato a evitare il dolore e le delusioni, ma nessuno ci ha detto che vivendo il dolore diventiamo più forti.
No one told us that it’s the way we grow to become even better. We reach our maximum, and life becomes everything but a challenge to us. Then, we have to break the cocoon of our life because we can’t fit in anymore.
That process is painful and long. It hurts. We use the last of our strength to get out. But once we do, we have a world of opportunities and options ahead of us. A whole new world. We’re stronger and better than ever.
But what they are teaching us—the society, the TV, the social networks—is to avoid pain and be satisfied with what you get. Stick to it because who knows? Maybe that’s the best you will ever get.
They tell us that we have to have that person next to us to take care of us when we’re sick. They have told us that romantic getaways are a must. It’s normal to expect roses at your doorstep, but is that the real definition of love?
È questo il senso dell'amore? Piccoli segni di affetto e cose materiali?
It’s not important where he takes you or what he owns. It’s not important whether he buys you flowers or not. That isn’t love, and it’s not supposed to be. But if you watch any kind of romantic movie, all you see is romance and gestures, and you’ll think it’s love.
That’s why you keep choosing ragazzi sbagliati.
Queste cose rendono felici solo per un po', ma la vera felicità è molto più grande e migliore. La vera felicità si trova nell'amore vero e puro.
It’s when you love someone because of the way they walk and talk. Because of the way their hair falls on their cheek. Because of the way he pronounces words. Because of the trivial things he does that make you happy. That’s the real deal.
Tu innamorarsi di una persona sbagliata because you’re scared to be alone. You’re becoming obsessed with the idea of love. You just want to be with someone, so you’re not alone.
The biggest mistake you’re making is that you’re not going to be happy with a wrong person. You’re not going to find peace with someone that doesn’t give you what you need and deserve.
The right kind of love is not supposed to drain you. It’s not supposed to make you feel bad and sweat in the middle of the night because you’re having nightmares—because your conscience kicks in when you least expect it.
Il giusto tipo di amore dovrebbe farvi desiderare di lottare di più e di essere migliori. L'amore giusto vi metterà alla prova. L'amore giusto dovrebbe farvi sentire felici e speciali senza grandi gesti e regali costosi.
The right love should make you feel excited all the time. You should feel butterflies in your stomach every time you see him, no matter how long you’ve been together.
When you’re in love with a wrong person, you just know it. You see that you’re unhappy and dissatisfied, but you’re afraid to admit it. Because when you do, what’s next?
Dove andare a parare?
Cosa fare?
