Se credete che la vostra relazione sia finita per colpa vostra, leggete questo articolo
Le rotture non sono mai facili, ma quando sappiamo che l'altra parte è il colpevole e che, nonostante quello che proviamo, sappiamo che stiamo meglio senza di loro, la nostra mente si rasserena.
But, when we know we are the ones to blame, it’s a whole different story. Our wounds and pain are deepened by the feeling of guilt that consumes us.
Per me, la parte più difficile è stata accettare che era colpa mia se tutto era finito. Sono stata io a sbagliare. Ero io che ero troppo appiccicoso e troppo geloso, e in pratica ho soffocato il nostro rapporto.
Questa confusione nella mia testa faceva male a entrambi.
Mi ci è voluto molto tempo per accettare il fatto che era finita per sempre e che, in gran parte, era a causa mia. Ma qualunque sia il motivo della vostra rottura, sappiate anche che bisogna essere in due per rimanere in una relazione, così come bisogna essere in due per rovinarla.
When it comes to love wrecks, nothing is ever black or white. And I am not saying that to justify myself or anyone else in a similar situation. It’s just the reality of things.
Sono pienamente consapevole di dove ho sbagliato e ho pagato con lacrime, cuore spezzato e notti insonni. Ma ho anche imparato molto. L'intera esperienza mi ha fatto crescere come persona.
You see, time gives you clarity, and once I took a step back, I realized that there was a reason I unconsciously sabotaged my relationship: it wasn’t going to last anyway, and I just kept on fooling myself.
I wasn’t ready for the relationship I was in because I came into it carrying baggage from my last relationship. I was filled with trust issues and insecurities, and I just couldn’t shake them off so easily.
On the other hand, he couldn’t understand me. He couldn’t understand what I had gone through and why I behaved the way I did. I don’t blame him for that, though. It wasn’t his job to heal me and make me happy. That was always in my hands. I just didn’t realize that at the time.
That’s why I am trying to do that now. I am rebuilding my life brick by brick. I am learning to love myself. I am learning to depend on myself. I am learning to forgive myself.
I kept on wishing to turn back time and do everything differently. Sadly, that can’t be done. That’s why I did the only thing that was left for me to do. I made peace with the situation. I accepted that the damage can’t be undone.
Still, I wanted him to know that I am sorry. I wanted him to know that I know now what I didn’t know back then and that my intention wasn’t to hurt him. It was good to get that off my chest.
Don’t wait too long to say you are sorry. It won’t fix anything, but it will benefit you, and it will let other people know that you care for their feelings.
Don’t be too hard on yourself. We all screw up from time to time. We are only human, and mistakes are the ones that make us grow. Learn from them; don’t be their prisoner.
Alla fine tutto andrà bene, lo giuro. Devi solo vedere il lato positivo sotto le nuvole scure che ti sovrastano.
Qualunque cosa abbiate fatto, perdonatevi. Datevi la possibilità di rimediare. Create una vita di cui sarete orgogliosi. Lavorare su se stessi, by yourself for yourself, and make sure you don’t make the same mistakes next time around.
And there will be a next time; don’t doubt that for a second. So start the work immediately and be the best version of yourself.
