13 modi per amare se stessi dopo essersi liberati da una relazione tossica

Armatevi di positività.

You’re going into war – a war with yourself, a fight for your survival. Staying positive is the hardest thing dopo aver vissuto una relazione tossica.

You’ve been emotionally neglected and abused for a long time so that it in a way became your surrounding.

Negativity was all around you, and now that you’ve broken free, you still feel beaten and destroyed.

Cosa fare dopo una relazione tossica è creare una zona priva di negatività. Dovete dimostrare a voi stessi che vi rispettate e vi amate scegliendo una prospettiva positiva nella vostra vita.

Essere single è ciò di cui hai bisogno in questo momento.

Don’t go looking for someone to heal you.

Don’t look for love when you are not ready to love someone yourself. Staying single at this point when you’re hurting is essential.

Rimanere soli con i propri pensieri e la propria lotta interiore è qualcosa che si deve affrontare da soli.

If you start a new relationship, it won’t help you heal—you can only destroy the person who is truly falling in love with you.

Rimanete soli e diventate amici di voi stessi. Ascoltate voi stessi, i vostri bisogni e le vostre aspirazioni. Assecondatele tutte.

Nutritevi e date una possibilità alla vostra vita da single.

Cancellate ogni ricordo della loro esistenza nella vostra vita.

Delete every photo of him you have and every text he’s ever sent you.

Block him on all social media, so you won’t be tempted to check out his profile on your bad days.

You have a mind of your own; you have a voice of your own. Don’t let his toxicity mess with you, even through memories.

Never take back what you’ve said or what you think.

In the moments of anger and when you felt abandoned, you’ve realized you were abused emotionally.

In those moments, you were angry, and you’ve accepted what was happening to you and what kind of a person he is.

You’ve said things, bad things, but after the critical moment passes, don’t take those words back.

Don’t justify his behavior when your head cools off. It’s as bad as it was. It’s you who is taking a different view on the situation.

Questa volta, pensate solo a voi stessi.

You’ve been imprisoned. You’ve danced to the music he was playing. Only his wishes mattered, and you were completely ignored.

Now that he’s gone, go crazy. Humor your every need and wish. Eat what you want, go where you want. In other words, spoil yourself – you deserve it.

Seek beauty because it’s around you.

When your world is falling apart, when you’re in a bad place, it’s easy to miss the fact that the world surrounding you is a beautiful place.

Le persone si lasciano facilmente trasportare dai propri problemi e non vedono ciò che le circonda.

Quando ne avete la possibilità, uscite all'aperto. Fate una passeggiata o sedetevi in veranda ad aspettare il tramonto.

Godetevi le bellezze che la natura ha da offrirvi. Guarirà il vostro spirito e vi restituirà l'energia necessaria per rimettervi in sesto.

Seppellite i vostri difetti nel passato.

Quando si rompe con qualcuno, l'autostima si azzera.

You feel worthless and rejected. So you question why you’re rejected. Is there something wrong with you?

So you start looking for flaws. Actually, all you see are flaws and reasons why you’re not good enough.

Rifiutate e seppellite quei pensieri tossici nel profondo del vostro passato.

Invece di commiserarvi, pensate a quanta forza avete dovuto avere per lasciare la relazione tossica che stavate vivendo.

A lot of women stay because they don’t see the way out.

Lei è uno dei pochi che ha avuto il coraggio di fare il terrificante passo verso l'ignoto.

Che cos'è l'amore per se stessi?

Ognuno definisce l'amore per se stesso in modo diverso. E a prescindere dalla vostra risposta, dovete fare una cosa.

You have to convince yourself that you’re so much stronger than the negative thoughts haunting you.

You won’t be able to move on with your life and continue your journey to healing if you’re still holding on to the insecurity and to what happened to you in the toxic relationship.

Perdonare se stessi.

Perdonarsi per aver commesso un terribile errore.

Perdonate voi stessi per non aver riconosciuto tutti i segnali che vi avvertivano di uscire da quella relazione.

Perdonare se stessi per essere rimasto al suo fianco molto più a lungo di quanto avresti dovuto.

You don’t have to forgive him for hurting you. You have to forgive yourself for letting him hurt you.

Tracciate i vostri confini.

If you set them low, you’re going to get hurt again.

If you set them high, you’re going to protect yourself. So basically, it’s up to you whether you’re going to live through the same story once again.

Dimenticate il passato.

You’re going to have weak moments when you wish things could have ended differently, but don’t let that make you do something you’ll regret later.

You’re going to remember the old times and all the happy moments.

Because no matter how toxic the relationship was, you had moments which you’ll remember, happy moments when he wasn’t such an asshole.

Make a list of people you’ve neglected or hurt.

Throughout your toxic relationship, you’ve probably hurt a few people you love.

You‘ve probably excluded them from your life either because they were telling you the truth about the man you’re dating or because the man you dated distanced you from them.

Anyhow, what you did isn’t fair or friendly to anyone, no matter if you were forced to do it or you did it on your own initiative.

Look for the people you’ve hurt and apologize. Those who truly love you will forgive you in a second and pick up where the two of you left off.

Datevi un po' di tempo.

Despite the fact that you’ve broken free from a toxic relationship, you still need some time to mourn your loss.

Even when your relationship fails and it was a horrible experience, you’ve engaged your emotions, and you’ve invested in it to make it work.

E tutto il vostro duro lavoro è andato sprecato. Prendetevi un po' di tempo per voi stessi e lasciatevi andare alla tristezza e alla solitudine.

Question your existence. Question your faith in God because even when you’re doing everything right, you can’t seem to find happiness.

Siate arrabbiati e sfogatevi!

Never keep it inside because that toxic poison will come out at the moment when you least expect it and destroy you when you’re the happiest.