20 cose da sapere per aiutarsi a guarire da un cuore spezzato

1. Un cuore spezzato non è qualcosa da cui si guarisce in un attimo.

Prima di guarire, dovete rendervi conto di essere stati gravemente feriti. Siete stati traditi e usati emotivamente.

Your trust was violated and no matter how hard you try, for some time, you’re not going to be the same person as before.

La guarigione richiede tempo. Periodo. 

2. La tristezza è la chiave per una felicità duratura.

Heartbreak hurts like hell, but you’re in for a surprise after it’s done.

Life is kind of fair and it can reward you if you stay persistent and don’t give up. 

3. Lasciarsi addolorare in pace.

The tears that want to burst out – let them. The pain that desperately wants to see the light of the day – let it.

Don’t hold anything in, because if you do, it will sit inside you until it rots and corrupts the person you once were.

Vi trasformerà in un'ombra amara e cinica della persona che eravate un tempo. 

4. Si può scegliere una vita senza amore a seguito di un colpo di fulmine.

Potrete vivere da soli per tutti gli anni a venire.

You can choose to look at happy couples and reassure yourself that you’re happy, that it’s your choice to be single per sempre, and that it’s the best thing you’ve ever done.

Deep down, you know that’s a lie. Stop it! Face the truth. 

5. Embrace the negative thoughts, don’t fight them.

Più li combattete, più li ignorate, più sarete infelici. Accogliete i sentimenti negativi e trovate un modo per affrontarli.

Make them your friends – help them if you need to. In that way, you help yourself. 

6. Fate sapere ai vostri amici di cosa avete bisogno.

Don’t hide anything from anyone.If you feel like shit today and you’re not up for company or hanging out, don’t pretend you are.

Gli amici ci sono per voi, a prescindere da tutto.

If you need space, if you need company, if you need a shoulder to cry on, a real friend will give everything you’re asking for without thinking twice about it. 

7. Accontentarsi non è mai una buona opzione.

Rimanere in una relazione infelice Restare e ignorare l'inevitabile futuro non lo renderà meno doloroso.

If nothing, it’s going to be even worse in the end.

8. Attenzione a non cadere nella trappola della depressione.

La linea che separa il lutto dalla depressione è piuttosto sottile e bisogna essere consapevoli di averla oltrepassata.

But, it’s not that hard to see the difference after all.

The first and the most important sign telling you something more than just grieving is happening to you is if you simply don’t care about anything.

If you don’t have the strength to get out of bed for anyone, if you’ve lost the reason to live, that is depression.

And if you let yourself get stuck in that state, you’re not going to find your way out that easily. 

9. Fate spazio a voi stessi.

You’ve been putting others before yourself for a while now.It’s about time to put that poor self-treatment to an end.

It’s about time you start asking yourself what it is that you want and what ultimately makes you happy.

Fate spazio nella vostra vita per voi stessi e lo strazio sarà molto più facile da sopportare. 

10. I know that you’ve put yourself in “protection mode.”

You’re being extra careful not to fall into another heartbreaking trap.But, la vita non può essere giocata in modo sicuro.

The line of life you’re supposed to walk on is not straight all the time.You can’t see what’s next and it’s foolish to even assume.

Detto questo, non c'è modo di andare sul sicuro.

È necessario correre dei rischi; è necessario ricominciare a fidarsi di qualcuno se si vuole assaporare di nuovo l'amore.

Even if you think you don’t, that’s just anger and denial talking out of you for now. 

11. La vendetta è infantile.

You’re not going to feel better if you get back at your ex.Nothing will change and your heart will remain broken.

Invece di trasformarvi in una stronza vendicativa, cercate di trovare il coraggio di perdonarlo. A pensarci bene, cercate anche di essere gentili con lui.

Let him know that you don’t hold any grudges and go through your heartbreak in a dignified manner. 

12. Il dolore arriva a ondate.

Prepare yourself for the days when you’re going to feel extraordinary and the next morning you’re going to feel like shit like your whole world has come crumbling down.

È del tutto normale e non c'è nulla di cui preoccuparsi. Non c'è nulla di sbagliato in voi.

It’s how the human mind works. But, the thing you can truly take from your behavior is that you’re on the right road to “Healville.” 

13. In this excruciating pain and agony you’re going through, you’ll see something inside of you that you never knew existed.

You’re going to see a new side to yourself.You’re going to see that when things get rough, you know how to keep yourself standing.

You’ll see the strength you never knew you had.In short, you’re going to surprise yourself. 

14. If you’re feeling pain, give love in return.

Don’t unleash the pain you’re feeling onto others.That won’t affect you positively. Give love to anyone, anywhere.Love is never enough to give or receive.

Be the one to spread it despite that you’re hurting.You’ll be paid back with interest. 

15. Accettare l'accaduto e andare avanti.

Non hai fatto nulla di male, hai avuto una mano pessima e hai dovuto perdere.

Non potevi fare nulla per evitare che il tuo cuore si spezzasse.

Era il destino e forse anche una buona lezione da imparare. 

16. You’ve been to the bottom and you know how it feels down there.

That’s why you’ll always be grateful in your life for everything you get.

You’ll have loss and deep despair to compare everything positive happening.

The bottom line is, you’ll apprezzare la vita e il proprio ruolo in essa.

17. You can’t predict when the pain will come or how long it will last.

You can’t time the pain, so you can’t feel it only when you’re alone in your room.

No… the cannonball of sadness can hit you in the middle of the street, in a crowd of people.

Don’t try to stop it or put it off for another time, because… you simply can’t. 

18. Heartbreak isn’t just reserved for the ones who’ve been in a relationship.

L'amore unilaterale provoca anche il crepacuore.

Recovering from being in love with someone who doesn’t love you back is as awful as being dumped.

It’s a process that lasts as long as any other recovery.

It’s something you need to sort out in your head and deal with like with everything else. 

19. Quando qualcuno ti spezza il cuore, tutto sarà diverso.

You’re going to look at the world around you differently.You’re going to see people in a different way.

You’re going to think differently.Heartbreak is going to change you, but it’s going to change you for the better. 

20. Non si può escludere il cuore e pensare in modo razionale.

That’s impossible because you’re not a machine.No matter how hurt you are, you’re always going to let your emotions run wild.

The catch is, don’t let them overrule, but don’t exclude them either.Find the balance and you’ll find the peace.