13 consigli professionali per diventare un marito modello

​What Is A Trophy Husband?

Essere il marito trofeo è il ruolo migliore che si possa assumere nella vita. In pratica, non hai responsabilità reali e passi la maggior parte della giornata a bere cocktail alle feste in piscina.

According to the definition of a trophy husband, you’re married to a woman who brings home the bacon and you have all the time in the world to spend her money together with your children.

Vi preoccupate solo del prossimo appuntamento in palestra, dell'abito migliore da indossare per l'evento di gala del prossimo fine settimana e se il vostro salotto debba essere in stile retrò o moderno.

Sounds like the perfect way to spend your entire life, doesn’t it? Well, this isn’t only a dream. In fact, if you follow the tips below, you can turn it into your reality in the blink of an eye.

Ecco una guida passo passo per diventare un marito trofeo.

Take care of your looks…

Let’s be real; you can’t expect to be a woman’s arm candy if you’re not physically attractive.

You’re looking for ways to become someone’s trophy husband and taking care of your looks is the first step toward your dream becoming reality.

I know that you’re probably used to males being the ones who pay a lot of attention to their prey’s beauty.

However, in this situation, the tables are completely turned. Don’t worry, you don’t necessarily have to be naturally attractive. You see, your appearance is something that can be worked on.

You don’t have it as easy as ladies who can change their entire looks with a bit of make-up. However, growing a beard and hiring a personal trainer will help you become more appealing and, consequently, more confident.

Just remember that good looks rarely fall from the sky. The truth is that you’ll have to work hard in order to achieve your final goal.

You’ll have to invest a lot of time, effort and patience into becoming the best possible version of yourself.

Tuttavia, posso garantirvi una cosa: ne varrà la pena. Tutto questo vi ripagherà perché otterrete tutto quello che avete investito e anche di più.

… and your clothes and manners

The truth is that you’ll also have to invest a lot of money and effort into your clothes. You see, every woman who is looking for a trophy man wants a classy male by her side.

In primo luogo, ciò significa che dovete essere vestiti per l'occasione. Sappiate che la vostra potenziale moglie è una donna in carriera che si reca spesso a eventi eleganti, come prime, feste o cene.

If you are nothing more than her boy toy, she won’t give a damn about how you look to other people. She is attracted to you so as far as she is concerned, you could be walking around in your sweatpants all the time.

However, you are and will become much more than this. As this woman’s husband, you’ll be her plus-one wherever she goes, so she will expect you not to embarrass her in front of her clique.

The same goes for your manners. This woman has to see that you’re un vero gentiluomo che sa come trattare una donna in modo adeguato.

You could be the best-looking guy in the world but trust me, if you don’t pay attention to your clothes and behavior, you’ll never reach your goal.

Andare a caccia di donne anziane

This is one of the most important tips common to almost every potential trophy husband out there. Of course, every rule has an exception and it’s not like this age gap is mandatory.

However, I strongly recommend that you put most of your focus on older women. This might sound brutal but I’ll be honest; they’re an easier prey to catch.

Inoltre, gli anziani sono lusingati di avere una partner più giovane. Dopotutto, la moglie trofeo è anche questo: una ragazza giovane e attraente. sposata con un uomo anziano spesso non molto attraente.

Inoltre, nella maggior parte dei casi, le donne più anziane sanno già cosa vogliono. Con loro i giochi saranno molto meno frequenti.

Finally, as harsh as this might sound, an older woman’s biological clock is ticking. She is more likely to marry you than waste another couple of years, waiting for true love.

Of course, I’m not referring to women old enough to be your grandma. However, if you try and have an age gap between you and your potential partner, it can only make you more desirable.

Incontrare le persone giuste

You might have all the possible qualities needed to become a trophy hubby but if you don’t know how to meet a woman who will fulfill your needs, all of this is in vain.

Soprattutto, bisogna sapere DOVE incontrare queste donne.

Dai, potresti essere l'uomo più affascinante di sempre, potresti avere l'aspetto, la personalità e il cervello tutto in uno.

Tuttavia, a cosa serve tutto questo se rimane una teoria e non si ha mai l'opportunità di realizzarla.

I assure you that you won’t find a woman like this on Tinder or on the dancefloor of your usual club. In fact, even if she does go clubbing, she will always sit in a booth that you have no access to.

This is why it’s crucial for you to mingle with the right people if you want to meet your potential wife. You have to be ‘popular’ and a member of the ‘in’ crowd.

You won’t yet know your potential wife directly. However, you will have to have some important friends who, on the other hand, will have a few acquaintances who fit the profile you’re looking for.

Besides, she will always go out with you if you’re a friend of a friend more than if you’re a complete stranger to her.

I know this probably sounds you like you’re back in high school but this is how things really are in adult life as well.

When I mentioned your popularity, I didn’t mean about you being famous. Instead, I mean about the fact that people simply know you or about you.

Tenere gli occhi sul premio

Now that we’ve covered the basics and the situation in general, it’s about time for something concrete. It’s time to choose your ‘victim’.

You could be the best trophy husband material ever but if you don’t focus only on one woman, you’re doomed. After all, your knowledge serves you for nothing if there is no one you can apply it to.

Pertanto, siate realisti e guardate solo una donna.

Not only that but do everything in your power to create an illusion in which she’s the only one you’re interested in as well. This is the only way she’ll see you as her future trophy husband.

Don’t be too educated

 

As much as you’re this woman’s arm candy, she still plans on spending the rest of her life with you. Therefore, it won’t be enough for you to just be handsome and attractive.

Basically, what I’m trying to say is that you have to have some brains as well. She wants to build a life and a family with you and she’ll only do that if you’re smart.

Besides, this woman also sees you as genetic material and she doesn’t want her potential children to inherit your lack of wisdom, if that’s the case.

La verità è che nessuna donna vuole un ragazzo che non sa letteralmente nulla della vita e che può solo mettere in mostra. È proprio per questo che bisogna avere un'istruzione formale e, soprattutto, una conoscenza generale.

La vostra futura moglie vi porterà a eventi e cene con i suoi amici di successo che vi chiederanno informazioni sulla vostra formazione. Pertanto, dovreste almeno aver completato la scuola di specializzazione.

However, there is a catch here as well. You have to be educated but you can’t be too educated. Remember, she’s the dominant figure here.

She’s the breadwinner and you’re the gold digger. Therefore, she has to be more educated than you. You can’t graduate from medical or law school and expect someone to see you as her future trophy husband.

La vostra formazione dovrebbe esistere solo su un pezzo di carta.

In fact, it would be best if you could graduate with something ‘useless’, e.g. from a grad school that won’t get you a career and a qualification with which you’ll have a hard time finding a decent job.

Le vostre esigenze vengono in secondo piano

Whether you like it or not, from now on and for as long as you’re with this woman, your needs will always come second.

Ti ha scelto per essere il suo status symbol, non per scendere a compromessi con te.

I’m not saying here that you’ll be treated like a slave or that your desires are completely irrelevant. Nevertheless, she is always at the top of everyone’s priority list (especially yours, as her husband).

Il suo benessere è la vostra preoccupazione principale ed è al primo posto, a prescindere da tutto. Questo vale per la sua salute (anche mentale), per i suoi bisogni emotivi e fisici e per le sue abitudini di spesa.

Your future wife has to always feel like she’s the dominant one. You’re a beta man here, while she’s an alpha female.

You’re the one who adapts to her lifestyle, not the other way around. You’re at her beck and call all the time.

Most importantly, it’s your job to make sure she is constantly taken care of. You’re here to spoil her and to fulfill all of her desires.

Rimani in secondo piano

La vostra donna è quella dominante nella vostra storia d'amore e quindi è sempre quella in primo piano e sotto i riflettori.

On the other hand, you will stay in the background. You’re there to support her emotionally and to give her the encouragement she needs.

You’re there to patiently wait for her to get home after a long day, there to make her feel more confident and to make her life easier.

Basically, you’re not visible to the rest of the world until the moment comes when she needs you to be. You’re at her disposal and are always ready for her to call your name and ask for your help.

Dedicatele tutta la vostra attenzione

When you’re dating other girls, most of the time, you probably pretend to be hard to get, even though you’re interested and maybe you’ve even fallen in love.

I know you do this in order to test her feelings and to make her chase you more. Well, when you’re trying to become a trophy hubby, this will all be a part of the past.

Non ci sono giochi e non c'è manipolazione o aspettativa che sia l'altra parte a fare la prima mossa.

This woman is self-sufficient. She is successful and she chose you to be a part of her life; you’re not here because she needs you.

Therefore, I can assure you that she won’t be begging for your attention. She won’t be asking for your love unless you give it her on your own.

What I’m trying to advise you here is to give your wife your undivided attention. After all, you know how busy she is during the day.

Quindi, vuole vedere la relazione con voi come il suo porto sicuro. Vuole sentirsi a casa ogni volta che vi vede.

Well, it’s your job to provide her with these feelings. When necessary, be her best friend who will listen to her problems. Or be her funny trophy husband who will make her laugh and chase away her worries.

Either way, it’s important that she knows you’re always there, no matter what.

Don’t sign a prenup

Yes, it’s quite possible for you to eventually fall in love with your wife. However, let’s be honest; you’re initially doing this because you’re a gold digger who wants money.

You don’t want to be a full-time breadwinner but at the same time, you aspire to have a lavish life. What better way to do so than by marrying someone who has the money you need?

However, what happens when it comes to divorce? No, you shouldn’t be thinking about it right from the start but it really is a real possibility. After all, many couples go their separate ways, let alone your kind of couples.

Your wife might get tired of you, she might want to replace you with a younger model or maybe one day you’ll have enough of this arrangement.

Whatever happens, the crucial thing here is never to sign a prenup. Otherwise, you’re signing away your rights and you’ll end up with nothing once you two are over.

Se la vostra futura moglie insiste per un accordo prematrimoniale prima del matrimonio, comportatevi in modo offensivo. Ribaltate la situazione e accusatela di vedervi come uno status symbol invece che come l'uomo che ama.

Assumere il ruolo di papà casalingo

Uno dei modi sicuri per tenere questa donna al proprio fianco è avere dei figli con lei. In questo modo, anche se vi separate, ci sarà sempre qualcosa che vi lega per il resto della vostra vita.

As a new dad, you don’t have a full-time job; we’ve already established that. Well, this is why you should take on the role of a stay-at-home dad.

It’s your job to become the best dad ever. Your kids’ mom will be busy and physically absent from their lives most of the time.

Therefore, it’s your job to try and replace her as much as you can by being a devoted and committed father.

Prendetevi cura del vostro aspetto con la chirurgia plastica

 

We’ve already discussed the importance of your good looks. However, if you plan to stay with this woman for the rest of your life (which is your goal), eventually, you’ll start growing old.

Your body will change, you’ll get wrinkles and you’ll even go bald. Nevertheless, don’t forget that it’s your job to create an illusion here, an illusion of a forever young, attractive, funny husband.

This means that you should keep on taking care of your appearance for as long as you breathe. Don’t dare to think that your job is done the moment you say your vows!

Therefore, you’ll probably need to undergo some plastic surgery and aesthetic procedures to remain looking as young as possible.

Non è una cosa da cui si dovrebbe cercare di scappare. Inoltre, sua moglie la finanzierà, quindi perché non sfruttare le opportunità che la vita le ha offerto?

Rendetela orgogliosa

When I say that your wife wants to show you off, I’m not only talking about your looks. She wants to brag about your personality and fancy lifestyle as well.

Besides, just because you don’t have an actual career, it doesn’t mean that you should spend your entire life doing nothing.

Dovete invece dimostrarle che avete un ruolo attivo nella vostra vita, facendo qualcosa di utile nel vostro tempo libero.

The best thing you can do about this is get involved in charity work. This will show her and the rest of the world that you’re a kind person who is not only spending someone else’s money.

You could instead direct a non-profit organization. Don’t worry, this doesn’t need to take up a lot of your spare time; it will just give off a better impression of you.

Besides, what’s even more important is that it will make your wife proud.

Esempi celebri di mariti trofeo:

Amal Clooney (avvocato per i diritti umani) e George Clooney (famoso attore)

Hannah Bagshawe (ex responsabile delle pubbliche relazioni di Mergermarket Ltd.) e Eddie Redmayne (che ha interpretato Stephen Hawking in La teoria del tutto)

La principessa Vittoria di Svezia e Daniel Westling (ex personal trainer)

Per concludere:

I’ll be honest with you here’ being a trophy husband isn’t for everyone. Some men simply can’t do it, despite all the advantages that come along with it.

However, there are more and more men who don’t mind being involved with an alpha woman.

If you choose this path through life, don’t feel any less of a man and don’t be intimidated by your better half. Just follow the steps mentioned above and you’re good to go!