14 modi per fargli capire che ha bisogno di te

Sometimes, a relationship gets to that point where people forget they need to fight for one another because they’re so sure of their feelings towards each other.

We all get used to having someone next to us, like they’re part of us and there’s no way we can lose that part.

Ma una relazione sana richiede che entrambe le parti continuino a provare e a lavorare insieme affinché la relazione abbia successo.

Tutti noi abbiamo bisogno di essere apprezzati e di sentirci amati e desiderati.

Make the guy you adore realize you’re the one for him – CLICCA QUI.

Sentirsi ignorati, trascurati e non voluti è la cosa più dolorosa da provare in una relazione, soprattutto se teniamo veramente alla nostra persona.

Si dice che la peggiore solitudine sia quella che si prova accanto alla persona che si ama.

E adesso? Vi sentite soli nella vostra relazione?

You found yourself feeling like you’re taken for granted? Or you just entered the relationship and you really want it to work out, to show him that you’re the One for him?

Vi chiedete come fargli capire che ha bisogno di voi?

We gathered games and ways that can make him realize that you’re the one he needs and the one worth fighting for.

Ways that will show him that he’s losing you and that it’s time he steps up his game to keep you around.

Show him that you’re more than just a body

You’re not just someone to keep his bed warm or to help him to get off. You have feelings, you have needs, same as him. Show him that you’re more than just an object in a house.

Invece di rotolarvi nelle lenzuola, ditegli che avete bisogno di parlare dei vostri problemi e delle vostre emozioni.

Dimostrategli che siete migliori amici, amanti e partner per tutta la vita, non solo scopamici.

Gli uomini tendono a dimenticare alcuni benefici dell'avere accanto una donna straordinaria, perché sono talmente presi dal loro stile di vita veloce.

Ma ricordare loro di avere di nuovo queste cose li farà sicuramente rallentare un po' e godere del momento.

Sedetevi con lui e chiedetegli di parlarvi, di ascoltarvi. Dimostrategli che vi fa sentire bene e che avete bisogno del suo abbraccio per sentirvi di nuovo così.

Digli che ti senti solo and taken for granted and that that’s not what love is about. Show him that he can have good times with you, also.

Portategli della birra, mettete il suo film o gioco preferito e guardatelo con lui.

Mettete su una musica che vi ricordi il momento in cui vi siete appena conosciuti e godetevela con lui.

Portatelo a fare un viaggio della memoria che gli ricordi che voi due siete stati prima amici e poi amanti e partner.

Ricordategli la donna di cui si è innamorato e il modo in cui vi trattava.

If he keeps on taking you for granted, maybe it’s time you return him a favor.

Dimostrategli che vi fidate di lui

Uno dei motivi per cui gli uomini si allontanano è mancanza di fiducia or feeling that there isn’t any of it in a relationship.

Maybe he feels bad leaving on business trips without you because he’s worried you’re pissed.

Maybe he’s not able to enjoy the moment because he sees shadows of jealousy everywhere.

Dimostrategli che ha la vostra fiducia. Dimostrategli che vi fidate di lui con il vostro corpo, con le vostre emozioni, con le vostre paure.

There’s no heavier bond than fear and hope. Sharing your biggest emotions and horrors, alongside love, is something no man could turn his head away from.

Suggest that you two take a weekend away once he’s done with work. Or turn off your mobile phones and enjoy each other and the time you stole for you two.

Trascorrete l'intero fine settimana cucinando insieme, ballando e facendo l'amore.

Ricordate le volte in cui passavate ore a parlare a letto? Quando è stata l'ultima volta che l'avete fatto?

Quando è stata l'ultima volta che vi siete aperti l'uno con l'altro? Sfruttate il weekend di fuga per aprirvi di nuovo l'uno con l'altro e per rafforzare il legame che condividete.

Make time for each other—not just you for him

Maybe he’s so used to having you around that he forgot that he actually has to make an effort so that things could stay that way.

Next time he calls you, don’t answer. Take up a new hobby, meet new people.

Show him that he now has to fight to spend time with you, that you’re not a puppy who’d answer the second he calls your name.

Siete una persona che ha bisogno di sentirsi desiderata.

Once he shows interest in fighting for you, work slowly on compromising. Sometimes there’s no easy way to show him that he’s losing you.

If he suggests that you two go on a date and you already have something planned, don’t cancel because of him.

Mostrargli che hai una vita oltre a lui e che hai persone a cui tieni nella tua vita, che lui non è l'unico.

Suggerite invece di spostare l'appuntamento a un altro giorno o a un paio d'ore dopo.

If you keep on making time for him but he does it only when it’s convenient to him, there is no way he will stop taking you for granted.

Mostrare apprezzamento

Proprio come voi avete bisogno di sentirvi apprezzati e amati, anche lui ne ha bisogno. Ma invece di fargli i soliti complimenti, questa volta provate a giocare in modo diverso.

Ditegli che non avevate dubbi sul fatto che avrebbe avuto successo con quel progetto al lavoro. Ditegli che vi piace il modo in cui ti fa sentire al sicuro.

Tell him how you can’t wait to have some time alone with him so you can enjoy his great body.

How you need him to be close and to fall asleep in his strong arms because you’re feeling broken.

Show him that he’s appreciated, that there’s more than one reason you decided to give yourself to him.

Quanto ammirate la sua etica lavorativa e la sua mente. Che ti fa sentire bene e che vuoi che entrambi siate felici.

Tell him ‘thank you’ every once in a while because we get so used to things that people do for us that we start taking them for granted.

Maybe he feels like he’s being taken for granted and that’s the reason he’s pulling away?

Dimostrategli che vedete i suoi sforzi e che li apprezzate.

Uscire senza di lui

You used to go out together all the time, but lately you’re spending all your nights at home watching Netflix and sometimes (rarely, really) making love.

If you want more, if you’re not satisfied with that kind of lifestyle, but you’re not ready to openly admit that to him, show him.

Go out without him. You wanted to watch that movie so badly, but he doesn’t feel like it?

Go alone, go with your friends, don’t settle for staying home with him.

You feel like clubbing, but he doesn’t? Go girl—you were clubbing long before you met him.

Just show him that you don’t need him to accompany you everywhere; show him la vostra indipendenza.

Enjoy your life to the fullest, and keep in mind that you don’t need him to do that.

Yes, it’s amazing if he accompanies you along the way, if he’s next to you when you’re happy, but if he ignores your invitations, make him come to you.

If he’s not interested in leaving the house with you but he’s perfectly fine doing that alone with friends, show him that you can play that ,too.

If he still doesn’t respond, that could be a sign that something is up. He’s either under pressure or depressed but doesn’t know how to open up about that. Or he’s seeing someone else.

L'importante è che tu sappia che meriti di essere felice, anche se questo significa stare senza di lui.

Mostra la tua sicurezza

Confidence is not something we’re naturally given and it’s usually easier to lose it than to gain it. But if you have it, if you’re working hard to keep it, show it off!

You love how your body looks in that tight dress, but you’re worried potrebbe essere geloso? Wear it, and if he doubts you, if he doesn’t trust you, that’s a totally different problem you have.

But if he’s sure of your love, what could possibly go wrong if you remind him how much of an amazing woman he has beside him?

What could possibly go wrong if you show him that you’re still that strong and independent woman he fell in love with?

You have the opportunity to move forward at work, but you’re worried if he’s going to feel threatened by your salary and success? Darling, if you can handle the challenge that’s in front of you, you can handle him too.

Believe in yourself, trust your gut. If it feels right, do it. He will learn to believe in you, too, and maybe it’ll teach him to believe in himself.

Vedrà il modo in cui vi vedete e imparerà a innamorarsi di voi a un livello completamente diverso.

If, by any chance he decides that that’s too much for him and he feels threatened, do you really need that kind of negativity in your life?

Lasciate che a volte si prenda cura di se stesso

Don’t run to his aid if he’s sick or if he’s having problems at work. If he said he can handle it but he only needed to share that with you, let him do it. You’re not his mama di stare sempre intorno a lui.

Let him iron his shirts once in a while or tell him you want him to cook you dinner because he’s so good at it. Little accomplishments can go a long way.

It’s important to remind him that you’re not a dishwasher, cleaning lady and cook made just to serve him.

Tendiamo a fare il passo più lungo della gamba per compiacere le persone che ci circondano e per rendere felici i nostri uomini.

But along the way, we forget that it’s important that we’re happy, too.

That our happiness is as equally important as anybody else’s. So, why not let him take care of himself sometimes? To take care of you?

It’s important that you show him that you trust him with that, without guilt tripping and anger, because men tend to be sensitive about being called ‘irresponsible’.

If you want to show him that you’re independent, why not give him the same chance?

Fate in modo che le persone intorno a lui vi amino

Tu e sua madre andate d'accordo e suo padre pensa che tu sia un dono del cielo? Bene, metà del lavoro è già fatto.

Organizzate un weekend di visita ai suoi genitori per ricordargli che vi amano e che pensano che stiate benissimo insieme.

His friends think you are the best woman out there and that he’s seriously lucky to have you? Make sure he remembers that.

Tell them they can watch the game at your place and bring them snacks, but don’t stay too long. Plan yourself a lady’s night e goderne anche.

Show them all that you have a life outside the relationship—that’s something all men admire: women that are not needy and clingy.

If you already have the love of his people but he’s pulling away, there could be something serious going on.

Perché, davvero, deve essere un tipo speciale di idiota per non vedere da solo quanto sei straordinaria.

If he hasn’t reacted to any of the tactics you have used, then it’s time to sit down and address the issue.

Neither of you is happy and you have to do something about it—together.

Datevi delle priorità e fategli capire perché è necessario.

Trascurare se stessiNon è questo il modo di mantenere una relazione, se si vuole che lui sia soddisfatto e felice.

He’s so used to having you around, so used to you taking care of him, that he has no need to take care of himself or your relationship because he still believes that you will do it.

Show him that you won’t, put yourself first. Instead of going to his parents for the third weekend in a row, go somewhere you always wanted to go, whether alone or with friends.

Stop respecting his wishes if he doesn’t respect yours. If he shows you that he’s hurt, don’t add to the tension.

Calmly try to make him understand that you really need that getaway weekend, that you really need to have some time for yourself and that you really need to feel wanted. And right now, you don’t feel that way.

Lasciategli spazio

Ci sono cose che gli uomini amano fare da soli o con gli amici, come guardare le partite, andare al bar o a pescare (ovvero bere birra e parlare della loro vita di merda).

This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t love you or that he doesn’t appreciate your company—it’s just like shopping or spa days for us.

That’s his time and he wants to enjoy it without worrying whether you’re bored or his friends might say something that farebbe male o di turbare l'utente.

As much as you love him and want to spend time with him, it’s important that you give him space to breathe.

Passare ogni singolo minuto del vostro tempo insieme porterà entrambi a stufarsi l'uno dell'altro e a inutili discussioni perché nessuno dei due ha avuto il tempo di sfogarsi.

And trust me, that’s time important to you as much as it is to him, which leads us to the next number.

Godersi la vita al di fuori della relazione

It’s important for him to see that you’re not depending on him, that you are perfectly fine on your own.

It will make him curious about your time, the life you’re leading outside the relationship.

Take up a new hobby and make new friends who are not connected with your life and who don’t know your partner.

It will be a great opportunity for you to find a way to enjoy yourself more, to talk about things outside the ones you’re always discussing with him and your friends.

Troverete qualcosa di nuovo a cui dedicarvi e che potrebbe risvegliare la passione e accendere il fuoco dentro di voi.

Niente più scuse

Trovare scuse per luiOgni volta che sbaglia e ogni volta che ti fa del male, non farà altro che fargli credere che può darti per scontata.

Stop tolerating his shitty behavior if there is any, because it won’t get any better if you pretend that it’s not there.

Dimostrategli che anche voi avete dei sentimenti e che deve impegnarsi di più con voi.

Se siete arrabbiate perché non vi aiuta in casa o con i bambini, diteglielo.

If you’re upset about him taking your efforts for granted, tell him. He won’t remember it himself, until it’s too late.

Tutte vogliamo rendere felici i nostri uomini e spesso perdoniamo troppe cose per amore.

But remember that it’s okay to love yourself, too. That it’s okay to leave if it becomes too much.

That it’s more than okay to demand the respect you deserve. It will either make him give it to you and appreciate you much more thus making him want to be around you more, or he will snap and leave.

Either way, it’s a happy ending. You will get the man you deserve or get rid of the one you don’t.

Mostrare iniziativa in camera da letto

Il sesso è importante—not as important like the rest of the things on the list, but it still is.

Siate seducenti e fatelo impazzire, stuzzicatelo e fatelo ritornare per avere di più.

If you’ve been doing it the same way for months now, switch it up. Get on top and show him who is the boss. Get him on the edge and get off until he begs for you to come back.

Or completely deny him the act itself, but send him texts so dirty that he will lose his mind. Seduce him and play him until he can’t take it anymore.

Show him what he’s really missing out on, and trust me, he will definitely put some effort in keeping you satisfied.

Play different games with him, such as leaving clothes from the doorway to the bedroom so he knows what’s waiting for him once he enters the room.

Or leave him a note that you’re hiding somewhere naked and he gets to do with you what he wants, once he finds you.

Inviategli delle foto of lingerie and ask him for his opinion on which one you should wear when he gets home, and once he does—wear none of it.

Stuzzicatelo in pubblico, flirtate con lui con messaggi durante cene di lavoro o riunioni di famiglia.

Dimostrategli che lo volete in quel momento e sfidatelo a prendervi.

Don’t let him always have things his way

This is not the 16th century anymore. We fought hard to accomplish the things we have today and, damn, we’re still fighting like crazy.

The time when a man’s word was the ultimate law in a relationship is long gone.

Show him that you’re having none of it. He wants you to go to the game with him, but you don’t feel like it?

Se inizia a pretendere che voi andiate e cerca di fare pressione su di voi per farvi cedere, fermatevi immediatamente.

Avete la vostra volontà e le vostre esigenze. Digli dove lo vuoi.

If you want him to help with the kids, tell him. If you want him under you in bed, push him. He’s not that special to always have things his way.