Solo perché nessuno sapeva come trattenerti, non significa che tu non sia una custode

Vi sentite un fallimento a causa di una relazione fallita? Molti di noi lo fanno.
Cosa si può fare?

Well, the first step is to stop believing you’re beyond repair or doomed. That’s simply not true.
La seconda cosa è che dovete smettere di provare risentimento per l'altra persona.

Sometimes relationships aren’t about the other person but you.

Of course, the point of a relationship should be both of you, together, but I’m talking about curveballs that life throws at us in the form of a relationship.

If you had a relationship that made you insecure about yourself, the way you look, what you do, how you do it, the way you are… take it as a lesson.

Questo accade spesso dopo le relazioni tossiche, che di solito includono l'abuso verbale: sminuire, svergognare o lasciare cadere casualmente commenti che ovviamente vi feriscono più e più volte.

It’s so easy to fall under someone’s spell – and not just in a romantic sense. It’s easy to start believing what other people think of you. It’s easy to lose a sense of self.

I’m here to tell you that whatever happened to you, whatever is said to or about you, doesn’t define you. If you’ve been left by someone you loved deeply, that doesn’t define you.

It hurts like hell. It’s real. It’s part of you. But it doesn’t define you. You’re not a girl who’s been left. You’re not someone’s pastime or second option.

However, to realize that, you first must believe it yourself. That’s where any healthy relationship starts: with self-love.

In effetti, la maggior parte delle nostre relazioni sono solo lo specchio di ciò che pensiamo di noi stessi e di come ci trattiamo.

In this case, there’s a possibility you already thought you weren’t not good enough even before the first unsuccessful relationship.

You may have been carrying that belief about yourself since you were little, and now it’s manifesting through your romantic relationships. Think about it. Why don’t YOU think you’re worth keeping?

Whatever you come up with can be changed. Our personalities aren’t set in stone. You can be whatever you want, you just have to believe it first.

Il magnetismo che attira le persone e le aiuta a restare insieme è più forte quando entrambi i partner sono autentici.

Men don’t want women to control them. Men want companions. They want a partner in crime. Even when they don’t know it.

If there’s no personality, no authenticity, there’s nothing to pull them in and make them stay.

La cattiva notizia è che non tutte le donne lo capiscono. La buona notizia è che potete sempre cambiare questa situazione iniziando ad amare voi stessi.

Tutti noi abbiamo quel qualcosa di speciale che ci rende una persona da tenere d'occhio. Più vi comportate come voi stessi, maggiore è la possibilità che vi trovi qualcuno a cui piacete per quello che siete.

Once that person comes into your life, you’ll forget that you ever thought about not being a keeper and crying over some half-relationships you had.

Come ho detto prima, a volte le esperienze traumatiche o strazianti servono a ricordarci di noi stessi, a ricordarci i nostri bisogni.

That’s why it’s time to stop thinking about that last person who hurt you and start thinking about why you’re hurt.

I promise you that once you find the source of your pain (that isn’t another person), you’ll find freedom. You’ll be in control of your own emotions.

It doesn’t matter that you’re not a keeper to someone else, what matters is that you genuinely feel good in your own skin.

That’s when good things start to happen. That’s when life finally starts feeling right.
Don’t be afraid to say goodbye to things you know aren’t good for you, even if you’re crying while doing it.

There’s something better waiting for you. There’s someone who’s going to make you feel like you’re the only person in the world and, trust me, that will make up for all the times you felt like you weren’t.