Potete lasciarlo andare, ma senza perdono non riuscirete mai ad andare avanti

Da quando lei e il suo ex vi siete lasciati, ha fatto tutto ciò che era in suo potere per buttarlo fuori dal suo sistema.

You played by the rules—you went no contact, cut all possible ties with him, blocked him everywhere.

Not only that—you even stopped talking about him to your friends, you stopped mentioning his name or listening to songs that remind you of him.

You did everything by the book. You didn’t repress your emotions, you grieved and allowed your heart to heal.

You followed every piece of advice you could find. You didn’t jump into new rebound relationships but you didn’t put your guard up either.

Hai smesso di aspettarti di ritornare. Hai ucciso tutte le speranze che voi due possiate risolvere le cose.

Non sei nemmeno alla ricerca di una chiusura. You accepted that it’s the end and don’t obsess over all the could-have- and should-have-beens.

Sembra impressionante, vero? It seems that you let go of this man and that you’re completely cured. Almeno, è così che dovrebbero essere le cose.

However, somehow, you are not getting the desired result. One thing is for sure—you don’t love him anymore.

Nevertheless, you know what’s the problem?

Lo odi ancora. You want to get even and you hope that he’ll suffer the same way you did.

This hatred is eating you alive. It’s overwhelming you the same way your love for him did.After all, it doesn’t really matter what you feel for this guy; the point is that you’re not indifferent toward him.

Il punto fondamentale è che amarlo e odiarlo è la stessa cosa e ha lo stesso effetto. In entrambi i casi, egli è presente nella vostra mente e nel vostro cuore.

In both cases, he still exists inside of you even though he is out of your life physically. Either way, you’re overwhelmed by thoughts of him.

No, I’m not trying to make you feel guilty about this. Who could blame you for feeling this way, after everything this jerk put you through?

I’m just here to ask you to forgive him because it’s the only way for you to truly move on.

You don’t need to forget everything he’s done but you must find the strength to get rid of this bitterness that’s been killing you.

Let’s be real here—you’re not harming your ex in any way by staying angry at him. This man doesn’t have a conscience and he couldn’t care less about the way you feel.

He is not ashamed of what he’s done to you. In fact, he is probably out there, looking for his next victim whose life he is about to destroy.

Pertanto, l'unica persona che state ferendo con questo odio è voi stessi. L'unico a subire le conseguenze di questo pesante rancore siete voi.

Significa che indirettamente, quest'uomo controlla ancora la tua vita. Vuol dire che ha ancora un modo per rendervi infelici e miserabili, senza che lui muova un dito.

Quindi, in pratica, ha vinto, giusto? He’s proven that he is so powerful that he has the ability to be present in you after so much time that he’s been physically absent from your life.

That’s why the only way to remove him forever is to forgive him. It’s to lasciarsi andare dell'odio, della rabbia e del risentimento nello stesso modo in cui avete lasciato andare lui.

No, forgiving him doesn’t equate to giving him a second chance. It doesn’t mean applauding him for his misdeeds and it’s not the green light for him to come back into your life.