I 6 modi migliori per staccarsi da una persona cara disfunzionale

Una relazione è fondamentalmente un banco di prova per vedere se vale la pena di restare a lungo con questa persona.

Chances are that, right now, it’s not half as challenging as it could potentially become if you’re still together a few years down the line.

Con il progredire della vostra relazione, ci sono questioni importanti da discutere, decisioni importanti da prendere che riguardano entrambi e molti sacrifici e compromessi all'orizzonte.

So before all that happens, it really shouldn’t be that hard. La vostra relazione non deve mai essere la causa principale della vostra instabilità emotiva o la cosa che vi rende nervosi e ansiosi.

Dovrebbe essere un rifugio sicuro, una vacanza dal mondo e un luogo dove andare che sia solo vostro.

Un luogo dove rilassarsi, respirare di nuovo e godere della presenza di un essere umano a cui si vuole bene e che si rispetta.

And when that isn’t the case, and when that very person is the cause of your distress and unhappiness, it’s time to reassess if this is really worth it. If this person is making it difficult now, how much worse will it get in a few years?

I say – don’t take your chances. Life isn’t a picnic. There are so many factors that determine whether you’ll make it or not, so don’t let the dysfunction of this person be one of them.

You’re supposed to be a team. You’re supposed to feel safe and protected around this person, all the while knowing he’s got your back and vice versa.

Sure, things will not always be as peachy as they are now, but at least you’ve got each other!

Se il vostro partner is causing you anxiety, distress and/or making you unhappy, it’s time to detach yourself from this situation and find yourself somebody who’s going to bring you peace of mind.

Ecco alcuni modi infallibili per staccarsi dalla persona amata disfunzionale e rendere la propria vita di nuovo piacevole!

Commit to breaking it off and don’t let his persuasion make you stay

Decide that it’s time to call it quits, and don’t go back on your promise to yourself. Once you’ve made this decision, stick by it and find the best way to break it off.

Don’t catch him off guard; rather make plans to meet up (preferably in a café or somewhere with people around) and tell him in advance there’s something serious you need to discuss.

Don’t let his charms persuade you to stay.

Make your case, and stick by what you said. Don’t let him downplay your issues and unhappiness; tell him you can no longer remain with him.

Give him time to process it and don’t rush things. When there’s nothing left to say, get up and leave, wishing him well.

Non prolungare il processo (essere chiari e tempestivi)

When you’ve decided that you’re going to do this, don’t keep making excuses and postponing it. You’re doing yourself a huge disservice.

Make a clean break. The sooner you’re able to sit down and talk, the better. If you stay with him any longer than you want to, you’re only going to resent him more.

Fatelo per voi stessi, ma anche per il suo bene. Anche lui merita di conoscere il suo la relazione è finita .

Trovare sostegno nella famiglia e negli amici

There’s nothing like a solid support system when you’re going through something like this. Inform them of what’s going on and call them anytime you’re feeling bad or unhappy.

Let them keep your spirits up while you’re going through this breakup and don’t shy away from venting to them.

It’s important to create a safety net for yourself, because you know you’ll eventually need it.

They can cheer you up when you’re feeling down, and keep you company when loneliness kicks in.

With their support, it’s going to be easier and less painful.

Don’t stay friends with your ex

Non importa quanto sia amichevole la vostra rottura, non promettete di rimanere amici.

Dovete mantenere una distanza di sicurezza per un po' di tempo, per poter guarire davvero da questa situazione. Vedere il suo volto regolarmente lo renderà impossibile.

Perhaps with time, you’re going to be able to be pleasant with each other and be okay with seeing him without feeling bad, but definitely not yet. Give it time and keep your distance.

Per il vostro bene.

You don’t need a man nella vostra vita con cui avete appena rotto a causa dei suoi problemi.

Ciò di cui avete bisogno è una cerchia sana e stabile di amici e parenti stretti. Solo il tempo ci dirà se potrete essere amichevoli in futuro.

You don’t need to be his savior (let him figure his shit out)

The last thing you need is to save him from himself. That is no longer your job. You may wish him well and hope he gets better, but you definitely shouldn’t play a role in it.

He needs to figure his shit out himself. Until he realizes how he can be better for both himself and his potential partner, you shouldn’t feel the need to help him figure it out.

He’s a mature grown up and he needs to learn how to act like it. It’s his responsibility and nobody else’s.

Trovate modi positivi per trascorrere il vostro nuovo tempo libero

Now that you’re out of that dysfunctional relationship, you’ll find you’ve got so much free time on your hands!

Potete trovare un hobby che vi tenga occupati (yoga, palestra, sport, ecc.). Oppure potete passare più tempo con le persone più care.

It’s all up to you. You’ll meet lots of new people and stay so busy that you’ll barely have time to think about your ex.

Tenersi occupati post rottura è prioritario.

For as long as you’re still feeling nostalgic and jaded, keep doing things that will distract you.

With time, you’ll forget all about him and start feeling like a brand new person, and that’s the whole point!