33 Grandi ostacoli che non possono essere trascurati

1. Quando un partner si aspetta sempre che voi siate lì per lui ogni volta che ne ha bisogno, ma non pensa mai a fare lo stesso per voi. Dover chiedere tutto è un vero e proprio rifiuto.

2. If they are unable to say they’re sorry. If someone is unable to apologize when they do something wrong, it’s childish and unattractive.

3. Quando il partner sembra avere delle illusioni sulla propria personalità. Si pensa a se stessi come a un tipo di persona, mentre in realtà si è completamente diversi.

4. Quando parlano troppo di loro stessi e non ascoltano mai veramente le vostre storie o qualsiasi cosa abbiate da dire sulla vostra vita. When they don’t let other people speak in general or show no interest in anything unless it has come out of their own mouth.

5. When a partner is too needy. I love being there for my loved one, but if they expect me to be there for them all the time and whine if I’m not, it’s a huge turnoff. Have a life even when they aren’t around, and I intend to keep it that way.

6. Quando dicono cose solo per dirle. Quando fanno promesse perché sembrano buone, ma non fanno mai nulla di ciò che promettono di fare.

7. When they share the most intimate details of your relationship or stuff you’ve told them in confidence with their friends or family.

8. When they stereotype. If someone judges others based on their skin color, sexual orientation, religion, or gender – that’s unacceptable to me.

9. Anche quando giudicano gli altri in modo troppo severo senza guardare prima a se stessi.

10. When you’re excited about something or in a super amazing mood – whether you have a reason for it or not – and they put you down. Perché dovrebbero farlo? Sono infastiditi dalla vostra felicità?

11. When they have low self-esteem it’s a huge turn-off. If you feel like you always have to carefully watch every word you say so you don’t hurt their feelings, that’s way too much drama.

12. When they don’t know how to have an adult conversation or argue in order to resolve an issue. Quando urlano sempre o se ne vanno immaturamente quando le cose vanno male.

13. When they’re so full of themselves and think that you’re lucky to have scored them at all.

14. When they don’t act like you’re a team. Also, when they don’t support you in front of others or don’t defend you if others talk about you behind your back.

15. Quando imbrogliano o pensano che imbrogliare vada bene. Anche la menzogna.

16. When you think about your relationship and realize that you’re the only one making plans and initiating things, and they just let go and don’t really do any work.

17. When they always have to talk or do something. If a person can’t be with you sitting silently and doing nothing from time to time, it just gets annoying.

18. Quando sono eccessivamente negativi. Tutti ci lamentiamo con i nostri partner e condividiamo le nostre emozioni negative, ma avere costantemente un atteggiamento negativo verso tutto è davvero troppo.

19. When they have no clear opinions about anything. It’s okay not to have an opinion on everything, but having no thoughts at all about the world is such a turnoff.

20. Quando parlano troppo dei loro ex. If a partner insists on discussing their past relationships and just goes on and on about them, there’s your red flag right there.

21. When your partner is that kind of person who’s willing to cause a fight intentionally because they are bored at that particular moment and that is their way of bringing a spark and passion into the relationship.

22. When they think it’s okay to call you names. I just find this to be a huge turn-off: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

23. When they don’t give their partner time alone. It’s okay to want to be with that special someone all the time, but if your partner gets mad because you went out with friends, or decided to watch a movie with family, that’s just a huge turnoff.

24. If they don’t have any ambitions in life. Being casual and free I get, but having no ideas and dreams about how your life should look is not attractive. I sure can’t imagine myself in your future if you can’t imagine me there.

25. If they don’t have a sense of humor and don’t know how to take a joke. Taking stuff way too seriously is not fun.

26. Quando masticano troppo forte e non hanno buone maniere quando mangiano o nel loro comportamento in generale.

27. If they are unable to express their emotions at all. Some people can be more of a closed book and that’s fine, ma il fatto di non condividere mai nulla di ciò che provano con voi vi fa sentire completamente esclusi dal loro mondo.

28. When they don’t take care of personal hygiene. Seriously, what’s with that?

29. Quando una persona è così ossessionata dal denaro, o spende troppo per mettersi in mostra o è troppo rigida con i suoi soldi e non paga mai nulla.