Care donne, possiamo ammettere che gli appuntamenti moderni fanno decisamente schifo?

Uomini che sono pessimi nel mandare messaggi. 

Giocatori.

Uomini che ti fanno pensare troppo. 

Quante di voi, signore, hanno avuto a che fare almeno una volta con questo tipo di uomini o con tipi simili nell'era degli appuntamenti moderni? Uno di troppo, giusto?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this matter and here’s my conclusion: Modern dating SUCKS. Big time. 

Perché gli appuntamenti moderni fanno schifo alle donne?

“Online dating is like being a shopper at a bazaar in Istanbul. You are greeted by several guys who whistle at you, tell you they got the best Turkish carpets and can offer you Turkish tea to buy them. Some people try to win you over by throwing Hollywood song and dance if you’re European or Bollywood song and dance if you’re south Asian or Kpop dances if you’re East Asian. While it is fun to look for some cool items, it’s exhausting to say no to several pushy vendors over and over again. Except, you can explore a bazaar for maybe a couple hours and then do something else that doesn’t involve pushy bazaar vendors. Dating apps are constantly buzzing 24-7.” (Inviato dau/nouseforaname888 su Reddit)

It sucks to deal with men who push your boundaries and then accuse you of playing games just because you’re not interested in them. And there is so much more! Here are a few key points why modern dating sucks for women:

1. È uno schifo avere a che fare con uomini invadenti in continuazione

Some men can be really stubborn and regardless of what you say to them, they’ll keep testing your boundaries. If you ask me, there’s a special place in Hell for such men. 

The more polite you are to them, the less willing they are to accept the fact that you’re not into them. 

When you lose your cool, they accuse you of being a “careless bitch” who only thinks about herself. Some men don’t take No for an answer and that’s what makes modern dating so exhausting! 

2. È uno schifo avere a che fare con i giocatori

Here’s my “favorite” kind – players. They will text you day and night only to lure you in and then they will vanish into thin air. 

Giocare a giochi caldi e freddi è il loro hobby preferito. Troveranno scuse, faranno false promesse e faranno esattamente ciò che pensano possa farvi innamorare di loro. 

Vi perseguiteranno e poi vi costringeranno a pensare che ve lo siete meritato. Avere a che fare con i giocatori è una delle cose peggiori quando si tratta di appuntamenti moderni, perché è uno schifo ENORME!

3. It sucks to deal with men who don’t know how to communicate

Apart from players, there are also men who don’t know how to communicate either virtually or IRL. Such men will bombard you with questions or write a simple “Hi” waiting for you to continue the conversation as if you contacted them first. 

Some men don’t bother replying to longer texts thus leaving you on leggere. Some of them force uninteresting conversations and don’t ask the right questions (read: meaningful questions). Well, it sucks to deal with men who don’t know how to communicate!

4. È uno schifo continuare a sentire che Le donne sono complicate

Le donne sono davvero complicate o sono gli uomini a complicare le cose a causa degli appuntamenti moderni? It sucks to hear that your wishes and needs are complicated for men to understand when it shouldn’t be so. 

I daresay that only low effort men use the word ‘complicated’ to justify their unwillingness to invest in their relationships. Amen. 

5. È uno schifo pensare troppo a tutto.

Care donne, so esattamente come vi sentite:

“I’m so sick of not texting back immediately so that I don’t appear desperate.” 

“I’m so sick of overthinking when he doesn’t text back for hours.” 

“I’m so sick of receiving unsolicited nudes.” 

“I’m so sick of keeping track of who texted first in the last few weeks.” 

“I’m so sick of overthinking whether his profile is real or fake, or whether my text message is too long for him to read.” 

It sucks to overthink everything and that’s why modern dating SUCKS!

6. È uno schifo accontentarsi di poco o pretendere troppo.

Is expecting them to reply to your every text (be it short or long) too much to ask for? Does keeping up with someone’s bullshit means settling for too little? 

Modern dating is forcing us to shift from one extreme to the other. The word ‘balance’ doesn’t exist here. 

Si è costretti ad accontentarsi di poco o a pretendere troppo. Anche essere ripetutamente delusi dalle persone con cui si esce fa molto schifo.

7. It sucks to pretend that modern dating doesn’t suck

And do you know what sucks the most? It’s the fact that we should keep pretending that modern dating doesn’t suck at all. SERIAMENTE? 

Dobbiamo continuare a sprecare il nostro tempo con gli appuntamenti moderni senza mai interrogarci sulle loro conseguenze?

I don’t enjoy it, my friends don’t enjoy it, my colleagues don’t enjoy it, the friends of my friends don’t enjoy it…

Possiamo ammettere che gli appuntamenti moderni fanno decisamente schifo?