10 regole relazionali indispensabili di cui nessuno parla

There are oh-so-many rules out there on how people should behave in relationships: Wait three days to call her, don’t kiss him on your first date, and many, many others.

What’s very weird to me is that other, so much more important rules get overlooked. Every relationship is different, but there are some common sense rules you should follow at all times.

Vi proponiamo un elenco di regole d'oro che non dovreste mai ignorare.

1. Imparare dal proprio passato

Potreste pensare che le vostre relazioni passate debbano essere dimenticate nel momento in cui ne intraprendete una nuova. Non è assolutamente così.

While you shouldn’t dwell on the past or talk too much about it with your partner, you should absolutely learn something from it.

Ogni relazione è unica, ma ci sono molte cose che potete imparare su di voi e che potrebbero aiutarvi a costruire una relazione più felice e sana con una nuova persona.

2. Your partner can’t read your mind

Contate sul fatto che il vostro partner vi conosca così bene da riconoscere, in qualsiasi momento, ciò di cui avete bisogno o che volete.

No matter how much they love you and how much they want to please you, it’s impossible for them to always know what you need at any time.

Dovreste sempre parlare dei vostri sentimenti e dire direttamente tutto ciò che volete o di cui avete bisogno da loro.

Also, if something bothers you or you get angry at them for any reason, don’t wait for them to figure it out on their own, simply tell them.

3. Nessuno può essere perfetto

No one is perfect. There will always be some flaws in your partner’s character.

You have your own flaws, right? Accept that your partner won’t always be able to do the right thing and prepare yourself to forgive them.

Mostrate loro che capite che possono sbagliare e assicuratevi di accettare le loro scuse. Naturalmente, se quello che hanno fatto è qualcosa che potete perdonare.

Also, make sure to forgive yourself and don’t beat yourself up too much if you do something wrong.

4. Pensare bene prima di dire e fare le cose

Words can really be hurtful. Especially when you’re fighting, make sure you don’t say something that would offend your partner, especially if you don’t mean it.

Anche se vi perdonano, le parole rimarranno impresse nella loro mente per sempre.

Qualsiasi cosa si dica o si faccia può essere difficilmente rimangiata, quindi pensateci bene prima di rovinare la vostra relazione.

5. Ci vuole molto tempo per conoscere veramente una persona

You might be thinking that being in a relationship for a couple of months or even a year means that you know your partner perfectly, but that’s really not true.

Ci vogliono anni per conoscere veramente qualcuno.

Per conoscervi veramente dovete aver affrontato molte cose diverse, quindi lasciate un po' di spazio per gli elementi inaspettati che potreste scoprire sul vostro partner.

6. Don’t discuss your relationship in too much detail with others

Talking a bit about your relationship with your friends is fine and expected, but going into too much detail is downright breaking your partner’s trust. No one likes being talked about that way.

You wouldn’t want your partner to discuss everything about you with his friends, right? It’s uncomfortable and embarrassing.

Alcune cose è meglio che rimangano tra voi e il vostro partner.

7. Non smettete mai di dimostrare che ci tenete

As time passes, it can be easy to start taking your partner for granted. Make sure you don’t do this. Continue to do all the lovely things you were doing at the beginning of your relationship.

Always act like they are the most important person in your life and you’d never allow yourself to lose them.

Keep acting like you’re trying to get them to fall for you – that’s the only recipe to keep them forever.

8. Value your partner’s (and your own) personal time

When you love someone, you want to spend a lot of time with them, that’s a given. Make sure you don’t overdo it.

Even though you’d like to be with them all the time, you need to let them have their life without you.

They need to have time for their family, friends, and personal interests. The same goes for you. Just because you met someone amazing doesn’t mean they have to be your whole life.

It’s important to continue to maintain your other relationships and hobbies, and have time apart from your partner.

9. Don’t underestimate the power of thoughtfulness

It’s amazing having someone who listens to you – someone who always remembers the smallest things you mention and then uses them to surprise you.

Trovate sempre un modo per far sentire il vostro partner apprezzato. Le piccole cose possono essere molto utili.

It’s not only the grand gestures that are important in showing love. Being thoughtful every day is what counts the most.

10. Discutere può essere molto salutare

Arguing is not the end of the relationship. One fight doesn’t mean you guys have to split up.

Discutere è un passo molto importante per conoscere meglio il proprio partner e costruire una relazione che piaccia a entrambi.

Make sure you don’t hit under the belt when you fight, and always remember you’re talking to the person you love and who loves you.

It’s unhealthy to keep silent about the things that bother you, and arguing can really clear the energy between you and your partner.