Un uomo si rifiuta di sacrificare una notte alla settimana per aiutare la moglie con un neonato
Ladies, be honest. Who does more work around the baby, you or your partner? Yeah, that’s what I thought.
Questo nuovo capitolo è incredibile e pieno di gioia, ma anche pieno di notti insonni e di molte sfide. Everything’s easier when you have a devoted man by your side who’s not afraid of dirty diapers and a little screaming creature.
Purtroppo, viviamo ancora in un mondo in cui people think that a man’s only obligation ends with making a baby. Quando la realtà li schiaffeggia e si rendono conto che essere genitori è un lavoro a tempo pieno, vogliono scappare.
Le donne, invece, sono tipi diversi di eroi e possono sopportare molto. Ma questa mamma ha finalmente raggiunto il suo punto di rottura.
Una mamma esausta si lamenta su Reddit
Una donna ha raccontato la sua storia su Reddit hoping other people would confirm her expectations weren’t unreasonable. She recently gave birth to a baby girl and was stunned by her husband’s behavior.
Ha iniziato a spiegare la sua solita routine prima dell'arrivo del bambino:
“Before I was pregnant, he used to go to his soccer games (and, more importantly, the drinking afterward) twice per week, and he went running on Sunday and/or on his day off for hours on end. There used to be weeks when we would only see/talk to each other for a few minutes in bed.”
Quindi, come ci si aspetterebbe, la moglie voleva che trascorresse più tempo con lei e il loro neonato. Ha scritto:
“Since I got pregnant, I asked him to scale back his soccer/drinking to once a week and to plan his runs closer to home so that he’s not gone an entire day. He reluctantly agreed after lots of fighting and drama.”
Un giorno, quando tornò a casa dal lavoro, se ne andò dopo solo due ore. Per lui il barbecue con gli amici era più importante del tempo trascorso con la famiglia.
Since he didn’t come back until 11 p.m., she texted him saying to sleep downstairs so he wouldn’t wake her and the baby up. Una richiesta apparentemente piccola è diventata una grande discussione. A questo punto ha iniziato a lamentarsi di tutto.
“My husband says I’m taking away his freedom”
Suo marito pensava che le aspettative che aveva fossero ingiuste. Lei spiegò:
“Apparently, he believes I take away his freedom when I ask him to let me know when he will be home. He needs to ‘feel the atmosphere of the night’ before he can decide when to come home. I ask him so I at least know something so I can plan my night accordingly, but to him, that is unfair.”
But it didn’t end there. He continued complaining about how sacrificare una sera alla settimana è stato difficile per lui. The baby’s only been with them for one week, and he’s already tired? Poor guy. She continued by writing:
“He has also said that taking care of my needs during pregnancy (so basically giving up one night of soccer and drinking) has pushed him to the edge of burnout. During pregnancy, he threatened to leave me if he would not be allowed to do whatever he wanted once the baby arrived.”
Immaginate l'audacia! Penso che il padre si comporti più come un bambino che come un figlio vero e proprio! Oh, che sorpresa, dobbiamo rinunciare al nostro tempo libero una volta che abbiamo dei figli. Chi se lo aspetterebbe?
People also agreed he’s acting selfish and is not setting his priorities straight. One person commented:
“He’s behaving like this with a 3-week-old child? I’m all for parents finding a way to make both solo and couple social time happen, but the ink on that baby’s birth certificate isn’t even dry yet. Home needs to be his first priority 100% of the time right now.”
I couldn’t agree more! At this point, divorcing him now wouldn’t change anything since she’s living like a single parent either way.
Tuttavia, Non tutti pensano che il padre sia l'unico a sbagliare. Some say that he deserves to have his free time since he’s the one working. Someone wrote:
“IN MY OPINION, you’re both wrong. He seems to work quite a bit, and he needs to take a break from that as well. However, the same courtesy needs to be applied to BOTH of you. If you are a SAHM, and/or you don’t have your own friends, you are relying on HIS interaction with you to be your social fill and that is asking for a lot from a person. He needs to do his part as a parent too, but, realistically, if you both do your part and give each other grace, you both will get your needs taken care of.”
Pensi che questo sia giusto? Perché working shouldn’t be an excuse for not taking care of your family, especially in these important moments. No one wants to be tired but that’s just life. Women are often exhausted but still, no one bothers to ask them if they need a break.
Le mamme danno via tutto e sacrificano il loro corpo, la loro mente e la loro anima. during 9 months of pregnancy and even after. And dads can’t let go of one night with the boys. Talk about disrespect!
Mentre alcuni padri si impegnano al massimo per le loro famiglie, altri Bisogna ricordare agli uomini che anche loro devono prendersi cura dei loro figli. (scioccante, vero?). Tutto è più facile e divertente se fatto in squadra. E la genitorialità non fa eccezione. Alla fine della giornata, Il lavoro di squadra fa funzionare il sogno.
Quindi, la prossima volta che deciderete di avere dei figli, avere una conversazione aperta e onesta con il partner sulle vostre aspettative. Potreste rimanere sorpresi da ciò che qualcuno considera normale e ragionevole.
