Se fa queste 11 cose, non sei più la sua priorità

Durante la "fase del cucciolo", è facile essere #1 per un uomo. Ma cosa succede quando la fase del cucciolo è finita?

What happens when the amusement ends and when we’re left with our true selves?

It’s more than logical that you’ll be a priority at the very beginning of a relationship when everything is still fresh and while the two of you are still unknown to each other.

Tuttavia, dopo un po' di tempo, quando vi abituate l'uno all'altra, gli uomini possono iniziare a darvi per scontate e a trascurarvi facilmente.

Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who didn’t experience this, but if you feel like your man has changed, we bring you 11 signs to see if he doesn’t treat you like a priority anymore.

Ci mette ore a rispondere

In the beginning, you probably texted a lot and you didn’t have to wait longer than a few minutes for his reply.

Ma dopo qualche tempo, i vostri messaggi sono diventati più rari, i messaggi sono diventati più brevi e anche l'amore che vi esprimevate attraverso i messaggi è in qualche modo scomparso.

Now, it takes him a few hours to reply and it doesn’t even make sense to continue the conversation after so much time.

Whatever excuse he might offer, never forget that you can’t be so much busy to be unable to find less than 30 seconds to reply.

It’s not about the time; it’s about priority, you know.

Vedi anche: 11 Signs You’re Someone’s Priority

He Doesn’t Pick Up The Phone When You Call

All'inizio chiamava solo per sentire la tua voce. Parlavate per ore prima di addormentarvi, ma ora tutto questo non c'è più.

Now, he hardly picks up the phone when you call and he doesn’t even call anymore.

Inoltre, non ha più l'abitudine di richiamarti quando vede una chiamata persa.

It’s much easier for him to come up with excuses such as “My phone was on silent”, “I forgot to call you back”, “I was too busy to pick up the phone when you called”.

His excuses are all lies, but what they’re telling you is true—you are no longer his priority.

He Doesn’t Want To Spend Quality Time

Quando avete iniziato, tutto ciò che voleva era passare del tempo da solo con te.

He used every window of opportunity to steal some minutes of your time and he loved planning ‘getaways’ just for the two of you.

Now, he doesn’t even bother to accept the call out—he rather stay in.

It’s just that he doesn’t see the point of going out with you and spending time just with you when there are other people you could hang around with.

Make no mistake: regardless of how long you’ve been together, in order to have a healthy relationship, spending quality time just with you is a must.

In case he’s constantly avoiding this, be smart to figure out what this means.

He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings Anymore

Forse vedervi felici era la sua cosa preferita e faceva di tutto per farvi sorridere.

He did even the impossible in the beginning and now it seems like he doesn’t care about your feelings anymore.

When you try openly to tell him how his actions make you feel or that you’re bugged by something he did, he says something just to brush you off or make you stop talking about it.

Spesso cambia argomento e inizia a parlare di qualcos'altro perché i vostri sentimenti non sono più la sua priorità.

Sceglie di passare il tempo con gli altri piuttosto che con te

When you first started, you had your own rituals and days in the week when you knew you’d be spending time together.

Ora sembra impossibile catturarlo senza altre persone intorno a lui.

Every time you’re supposed to spend time together, there is always someone showing up ‘all of a sudden’ to spend time with you, too.

Quando gli proponete di fare qualcosa con voi, come andare a fare shopping, al cinema o al parco, sceglie di passare quel tempo con qualcun altro.

If he’s choosing to spend time with others instead of spending it with you—you two have a problem.

He Doesn’t Listen When You Talk

Once, maybe a long time ago, you were often flooded by the questions, “How was work?”, “How was your day?”, “How are you feeling?” etc., but now he doesn’t even listen when you talk.

Passate la maggior parte del tempo in silenzio o scorrendo i social media insieme.

Quando si cerca di iniziare un argomento, sembra piuttosto disinteressato ad affrontarlo.

Quando provate a raccontargli com'è andata la giornata o a raccontargli qualcosa di divertente che vi è successo, sembra annoiato o il discorso finisce senza che lui mostri alcun interesse.

Sometimes, he even nods to something you tell him or ask him and later on, he doesn’t do it, telling you he forgot when in reality, he wasn’t paying any attention to it.

If he doesn’t listen when you talk, that’s the ultimate sign he doesn’t see you as his priority anymore.

Trova sempre delle scuse

Before, he was doing everything in his power to get you to like him. Now, it looks like he’s doing everything so you’d fall out of love.

Instead of giving you what you deserve, treating you with respect and being there for you, he just keeps making excuses as to why something can’t be done.

It’s easier to make an excuse than it is to make an actual effort. And when all you get are excuses, it’s a red flag that something is going downhill in your relationship.

Se ne va nel bel mezzo di una discussione

Leaving an argument is okay only if you want to give yourself some time to chill so you’d be able to asses the problem cold-headedly.

But if he’s constantly running away from you in the middle of an argument, that won’t solve the problem, but it will create even bigger ones.

In case he has this habit of leaving in the middle of an argument, it means he doesn’t really care anymore if the problems get solved or not.

He doesn’t care if you two are on good terms or not.

Leaving you in the middle of an argument and leaving things unsolved would never be done by the person to whom you’re a priority.

He’s Cutting You Off When It Comes To Hanging Out With His Friends And Family

You used to hang around a lot with them, but now he doesn’t take you to any family dinners, he doesn’t invite you out with his friends and he plans things with them but doesn’t include you.

This means he’s slowly brushing you off from the people he cares the most and from the people that are his priority.

In case you’re not invited to these gatherings, it means you’re no longer a priority.

Ti abbandona quando hai più bisogno di lui

Una volta era l'uomo che correva a salvarti a qualunque costo.

A prescindere dalla situazione disordinata in cui ci si trovava, si sapeva di poter contare su di lui. Ma ora le cose sono diverse.

If he leaves you alone at the times when you need someone to be there for you, if he doesn’t show up when he promises and if he doesn’t care about your needs anymore, unfortunately, things are not great.

Doesn’t Treat You With Love

Sapete di essere amati o almeno sapevate di esserlo. Ma ora le cose sono cambiate. Non vi sentite più così.

You don’t see yourself in his eyes anymore. And each thing he does seems to be done so he’d push you away.

In the beginning, he did everything to win you over, but now you don’t see a trace of that man anymore.

He doesn’t text you often, he doesn’t call to hear your voice, he doesn’t want to know how your day was, he brushes you off often and you can’t remember the last time he made you feel special.

Perhaps now things seem a bit hopeless, but it doesn’t have to be this way. You have two choices. You can either do something about it or you can walk away.

Potete cercare di ricostruire il vostro rapporto e trovare un modo per riportare tutti quei momenti felici e belli o potete scegliere di allontanarvi da qualcuno che vi ha tolto dalla sua lista di priorità.

Qualunque sia la vostra scelta, ricordate che la decisione spetta solo a voi.

Assicuratevi di prendere la strada che fa voi felice.