9 segnali inequivocabili che ti sta usando per superare la sua rottura

La fine di una relazione è difficile, indipendentemente dalla decisione di chi l'ha presa. Superare una rottura è ancora più difficile.

In the period after a breakup, we all feel so strange. There are a lot of mixed feelings and that’s why we can’t think clearly and deal with our emotions in a healthy way.

Purtroppo, alcune persone scelgono il modo peggiore possibile per affrontare una rottura.

Si buttano troppo presto in una nuova relazione, sperando che li aiuti a dimenticare l'ex. Questo vale soprattutto per gli uomini.

They have their men’s pride and that’s why they won’t allow anyone to see them suffering. They want to show their exes that they aren’t hurt and that they can move on.

What they don’t understand is that they lie to themselves that way, too.

If your man does any of these things, then it means that he isn’t being honest with you about his feelings because he’s actually only dating you to get over his ex.

1. Vi ha detto che ha avuto una brutta rottura.

He’ll only tell you the story of his breakup once because he doesn’t want to speak about it much. His ex probably really hurt him and he doesn’t want you to think that he is still suffering because of it.

The breakup is kind of his weak spot because he just can’t make peace with the fact that he was betrayed or left behind.

2. È andato avanti troppo velocemente

Even though he had such a rough breakup, he started dating you only a few days later. It’s not possible for him to have moved on so fast.

Deve riflettere su tutto quello che è successo e affrontare i suoi sentimenti contrastanti per poter andare avanti in modo corretto. E l'unico modo per farlo è stare da solo.

Andare avanti troppo presto non farà altro che amareggiarlo o lasciarlo con qualche problema di fiducia. That’s why you’ll never be able to have a healthy relationship with him.

3. È eccessivamente entusiasta della vostra relazione.

He wants to spend all of his free time with you. Unfortunately, this isn’t because he enjoys spending time with you. It’s because he is afraid of being alone in case his true feelings come to the surface.

Ti manda continuamente messaggi. Ogni giorno organizza qualcosa di nuovo per te. Ti sorprende sul posto di lavoro. In pratica cerca di stare sempre con te solo per convincersi di aver voltato pagina.

4. Continua a parlare della sua ex

Ogni volta che siete in un ristorante in cui è andato con la sua ex, o guardate un film che hanno visto, o fate qualcosa che hanno fatto prima, lui ne parla.

5. Ti paragona costantemente alla sua ex

No matter what you do or wear, it always reminds him of his ex-girlfriend. That’s because he still hasn’t left her in the past.

Iniziate a sentirvi stressati e insicuri. Potreste persino iniziare a confrontarsi con se stessi con lei.

You think that no matter what you do, you’ll never be as pretty as she is or as good as she was. Well, think twice then. If she was so good, they wouldn’t have broken up, would they?.

6. Si comporta in modo strano quando lei è nei paraggi

Whenever you meet his ex somewhere, he starts acting so weird you don’t recognize him. It’s because he still has some unresolved issues with her.

He’s so confused around her that he actually doesn’t know how to behave.

He doesn’t pay attention to you or your feelings because the only thing that’s important to him is showing her that he isn’t suffering because of the breakup, and that he has already moved on.

7. Progetta continuamente avventure per voi due

It’s like we already said. He doesn’t want to think about the breakup or his ex, so he tries to forget about it by doing some exciting and new things with you.

Every day is a new adventure with him because it’s the only way he is able to relax and pretend that everything is fine.

8. Beve per anestetizzare i suoi sentimenti

Beve anche quando nessun altro beve. Iniziate a sentirvi un po' a disagio per questo motivo. Forse temete addirittura che stia diventando dipendente.

You don’t have to be afraid or worried about your own well being. He won’t do you anything. He isn’t an addict.

Beve molto solo per anestetizzare i suoi sentimenti. Lo aiuta a rilassarsi con voi e a dimenticare che prova ancora qualcosa per la sua ex.

9. Ti sta usando come fidanzata trofeo

Gli piace mettervi in mostra, come se foste una sorta di trofeo – especially in front of his ex or some of their mutual friends.

He wants to show them that he has won in the ‘after the breakup’ game, particularly if his ex is still single.

Ragazza sveglia!

You are worth so much more than being his trophy girlfriend. You don’t deserve to be with someone who is using you, you deserve someone who wants to be with you only because he loves you.