29 segni rivelatori di un giocatore sposato di cui dovresti essere consapevole
No one wants to play with a married man. This is a pretty obvious red flag. But sometimes, the signs of a married player aren’t just a wedding ring and photos of their partner on social media.
Chi vuole frequentare altre donne o uomini oltre al proprio coniuge può essere un professionista nel nascondere il proprio stato di coppia.
We want you to avoid getting emotionally tangled up with such people, so we’ve got 29 telltale signs you should be aware of before you start dating one.
29 Telltale Segni di un giocatore sposato You Didn’t Know
It’s not uncommon to come across someone who’s married and wants to improve their love life with one or more partners.
They know that most of us won’t agree to these conditions, and that’s why they keep this information hidden. For this purpose, here are the 29 signs of a married player.
1. They don’t talk much about their vita personale
Let’s start with a clear sign of a married player: they keep their personal life to themselves.
Think about it: you have great communication, and you talk about a lot of different things – your interests, hobbies, and work ma mai sui loro amici, sulla famiglia e sulle altre relazioni.
It’s normal that your partner may not be so open in the beginning, especially if they’re an introvert. However, these things should improve as you go further into your relationship.
But if even after months of dating, they continue keeping things to themselves, it’s an obvious sign they have someone besides you.
2. Scompaiono di tanto in tanto
Leading a double life is manageable, but we can’t ignore the fact that it’s easy to do so. There will always be some omissions.
As your married partner wants first to save their marriage and not the relationship with you, you’ll be the one to break apart.
You’ll see this in the way they, without any notice and for a long time, don’t call or message you. Why? Because they hanno responsabilità nei confronti del coniuge o di eventuali figli.
Forse sono andati in gita con la famiglia per il fine settimana e si sono completamente dimenticati di voi. Vi scriveranno e vi incontreranno solo se avranno abbastanza tempo libero.
3. They don’t take you out to luoghi pubblici
I luoghi pubblici sono un incubo per ogni uomo o donna sposati. Perché? Perché questo è il modo più facile per qualcuno di smascherarli.
Just imagine you go out to a fancy dinner, and they see a coworker or family friend sitting at the table next to you. They won’t just lose their relationship with you, but their marriage will be at risk as well.
However, this might only sometimes be the case. In larger cities, where there are more people and places to go out, it’s practically impossible to run into someone you know if you carefully choose the place you want to go.
4. They haven’t introduced you to their family and friends
If you have been dating for a long time, it’s natural to expect to even accidentally run into their friends or family members.
If they only talk a little about their personal life and don’t introduce you to family and friends, it’s a sign they don’t want a relationship with you or that they’re hiding something.
They are hiding their long-term relationship with someone else. That’s why they won’t introduce you to those close to them because there is a good chance they’ll spill that they’re married.
5. Non vi invitano mai a casa
Non solo non vogliono andare nei luoghi pubblici con voi, ma anche non vi invitano mai a casa loro, even though they’re at your place all the time.
This is maybe okay for the first few weeks, but have you been dating for months and never visited them or received an invitation? That’s a little shady.
Even if you sometimes go out, they’ll always be looking around to see if there’s someone who might recognize you. Their eye contact is never directly on you.
6. Non mostrano mai affetto in pubblico
When a woman or man loves you, they’ll be all over you, and their body language will suggest how much they’ve fallen in love with you.
Se si notano queste cose, ma solo quando siete da soli e mai in pubblico, it’s because they’re afraid someone might see you and expose them. You are lovers, but only in private – never in public.
Some people don’t like showing affection in public and love mantenere il loro amore vita privato, but if you spot other obvious signs of a married player, you’ll know this isn’t the case.
7. Hanno un passato sospetto
Yes, people do change for the better. But most of the time, this is a hard and long process. If your partner has a reputation as a cheat, it’s probably because he is.
We shouldn’t rule out the fact that people can lie, but if you hear bad things about them from different sources, there is a high possibility they are true.
Things get worse if you hear that they’re married and have kids. Dove c'è fumo, c'è fuoco.
8. They don’t like taking pictures
Tutti amano immortalare un bel momento con una foto. Le fotografie servono a ricordare quanto vi siano piaciuti i momenti trascorsi insieme.
So there isn’t anything bad about wanting a picture with your partner.
However, if your partner never takes a picture with you and always makes excuses about how they’re camera shy or aren’t photogenic, it’s one of the most common signs of a married player.
Perché qualsiasi foto di voi due potrebbe servire come prova della sua infedeltà.
9. I loro fine settimana sono programmati per altre cose
When you’re dating a married player, one of the first things you’ll notice is that i loro fine settimana sono off-limits. Il fine settimana è il tempo libero che utilizziamo per goderci la vita e trascorrerlo con i nostri cari.
Se il vostro partner non trova mai tempo per voi nei fine settimana e beve un caffè con voi solo in momenti casuali della settimana, c'è una ragione comune.
Non importa quanto si pensi che questo è vero amoreIl coniuge e i figli saranno sempre la loro priorità.
10. Amano flirtare con altre persone
Flirting is a good skill to have. However, if your partner is too good at flirting with you, it’s normal to suspect they have experience in it.
Although good flirting skills don’t mean they are married player, it surely is one of the signs of a capitolo e un donnaiolo.
Possono essere estremamente affascinanti, ma ciò richiede molta abilità ed esperienza. Quindi, come hanno acquisito questa abilità? Non essendo fedeli a una sola persona.
Quando si sposano, si sistemano e non sono più al centro dell'attenzione. Amano la caccia e voi siete la preda perfetta.
11. Nascondono sempre il telefono
It’s okay to keep your life private. No one has the right to dig around in your things. But what if they hide ordinary things from you? Things like a simple text message?
Admit that it’s a little suspicious. Maybe they are hiding a romantic text message from their spouse or a missed phone call from their children.
Put yourself in that situation. Would you guard your phone so much if it were a simple text message from your friend or coworker? I don’t think so.
Se non si avesse nulla da nascondere, non si sentirebbe mai il bisogno di nascondere il telefono, and that’s a fact.
12. Li avete visti con qualcun altro
If you’ve been dating for a while now, you might be familiar with their close friends, coworkers, and family members. But what if you randomly see them with someone else you don’t know?
Avrete dei sospetti, soprattutto se noterete altri segni di un giocatore sposato?
Forse hanno una doppia vita e la loro vera vita è quella con la famiglia e gli amici. Quello che hanno con voi è solo una fase o una cosa secondaria.
Although this might sound harsh, it’s the truth you need to accept.
13. Hanno telefonate segrete
You’ll want privacy when you have a business call or when you’re in a crowded room, but if they leave every time they need to make a phone call, it’s a sign they’re hiding something…or someone.
A more suspicious thing to do is if they check who’s calling and mettere la chiamata in silenzioso. Okay, maybe they don’t want to be disturbed, but if this happens constantly? I mean, it’s obvious, right?
They don’t want you to know who’s calling them, but they’re also aren’t able to answer the phone because they’ll be exposed.
14. Fanno la doccia prima di uscire da casa vostra
When you sleep together, it’s normal that you’ll want to take a shower after the action.
But think about it a little: if they shower every time and ONLY at your place, it’s probably because their spouse will suspect they have someone on the side if they come home and immediately take a shower.
Quindi, hanno bisogno di ripulire tutte le prove delle loro malefatte prima di tornare a casa.
15. Vanno spesso in viaggio d'affari
Ognuno ha la sua vita e le sue responsabilità, sia verso il lavoro che verso gli altri.
Tuttavia, se si pianifica qualcosa e loro annullare i propri piani all'ultimo minuto, dicendo che hanno un viaggio di lavoro inaspettato, it’s a little shady, isn’t it?
Maybe in their case, this ‘‘business trip’’ is a piano con la propria famiglia that they have forgotten. It’s not a problem if this is a one-time thing, but if it happens often, you know the reason why.
16. Non si fermano mai per la notte
Spending the night with you never happens. They always make an excuse not to spend the night with you, and they always promise that this won’t happen next time.
Spesso queste scuse si basano sul fatto che lavorare la mattina presto, but how is it possible that they can never make an exception? Maybe they’re late to see their spouse?
17. Avete una sensazione istintiva
Il buon vecchio sensazione istintiva, especially when it comes to women’s intuition.
Sometimes, they don’t need to display these common signs of a married player, but you still have this gut feeling that tells you something isn’t right.
Se si prova questa sensazione, non c'è nulla di male nel fare una piccola ricerca sul proprio partner. Dove vanno? Con chi si incontrano? Davvero non hanno profili sui social media?
18. Sono misteriosi
Il fatto che nascondano la loro vita privata è una cosa, ma evitare le domande dirette è un'altra.
If they had nothing to hide, they’d answer you straight. However, a married person will always find a way to evitare qualsiasi domanda che possa mettere a rischio la loro doppia vita.
They will always answer with a silly phrase like: “If I told you, I’d have to kill you’’ or ‘‘That’s top-secret information’’ and accompany those sentences with a warm smile.
19. Li sorprendi a mentire in continuazione
Nobody lies as well as a married player. They may be good at hiding things in the beginning when you don’t know each other well, but after some time, you’ll slowly start to realize that this whole thing was a lie.
They’ll start to contradict themselves and get tangled up in their own lies. After some time passes, they won’t be able to distinguish what they’ve told you and what they haven’t.
20. They don’t use social media
One of the main signs of a married player is if they don’t have any social media accounts. It’s the 21st century, and the internet has become an unavoidable thing.
It’s the first option when it comes to communication: do you know anyone who sends an SMS nowadays? No, me neither.
However, they don’t use social media because this will expose them as a married player, and that’s the last thing they want.
They can’t have social media accounts because this will show you they have a ‘‘happy marriage’’ with one or two children.
21. Spesso annullano i vostri piani
I viaggi di lavoro sono spesso una scusa valida per cancellare i piani, ma se vi riunite solo quando va bene per loro, stanno conducendo una doppia vita.
Having a double life isn’t easy these days. On the one hand, they have a spouse and children they need to raise; on the other hand, there is you.
You will always be their second choice because it’s more important to them that they save their marriage than a ‘‘side chick’’ they can easily replace. That’s why they’ll always cancel plans with you and never with them.
22. Ti promettono cose
Le false promesse sono una tattica comune a tutti i giocatori sposati. Queste promesse vi accecherà, and you won’t be able to see the whole picture and the signs of a married player.
Ma attenzione: nella maggior parte dei casi si tratta solo di promesse non mantenute che non si realizzeranno mai. Le promesse non mantenute possono compromettere seriamente non solo la vostra relazione, ma anche la vostra salute mentale.
23. Ma non pianificare mai un futuro con te
Even though they promise a lot of cute things, like the places you’ll go, the people you’ll meet, and the memories you’ll make, they never actually parlare in modo specifico del vostro futuro.
They don’t have concrete moves and plans with you, and everything is just in the air.
After some time, you’ll probably end up dealing with a lack of self-esteem because you’ll think you aren’t good enough, while the truth is completely the opposite.
24. Si manda un messaggio solo se si vuole
Sì, incontrarsi di persona è molto più importante che mandare messaggi. Tuttavia, se il vostro la comunicazione online è minima and you only talk when they want to, it’s a sign they might be married.
This stems from the fact that when they’re not with you, they’re probably with their spouse and children, so texting you can be a huge risk.
Even if they reply to you, they are short answers, mainly about where and when you’ll meet up.
25. They don’t put any effort into your relationship
Will a married player really put any effort into an affair? Yes, you’re right; they probably won’t.
They never make you feel special; you’re always at your place ordering takeout… They always promise you you’ll go on a trip together next weekend, but that never happens.
Dopo un po' di tempo, ci si rende conto di aver messo una molto più impegno nella vostra relazione di quanto non ne abbiano mai fatto.
26. Hanno sempre altre priorità
It’s normal for adults to have a lot of other things to pay attention to besides a romantic relationship.
It’s normal not to be their number one priority, but if you see that they never have time for you and only meet up when they have unexpected free time, it’s obvious they’re only having an affair with you.
27. Vogliono mantenere privata la vostra relazione
Avere una relazione privata è spesso una buona cosa.
Dare la priorità all'intimità della vostra relazione, alla vostra tranquillità e a quella del vostro coniuge rispetto agli occhi ficcanaso e alle conferme degli estranei significa tenere la vostra relazione lontana dai social media.
Tuttavia, se si tratta di insistere affinché la vostra relazione rimanga privata even after you develop into a serious relationship, it might be a sign that they’re married and don’t want to risk getting divorced.
28. Ti trattano come un pezzo laterale
If they treat you like a side chick, it’s probably because you are. This is not even the worst thing. If they treat you like this, they most probably avere altri partner anche.
Non siete una priorità per loro; vi vedete solo quando possono, non vi mandate quasi mai messaggi e cancellano i piani all'ultimo minuto. È davvero così che volete essere trattati?
I know you desperately want to know more about their love interests and how you could fit in, but all these things are an obvious sign they not only have someone else but don’t respect you at all.
29. They say they’re separated
One of the signs they are a married player is if they speak ill about married life, saying that they’re separated or waiting for divorce papers.
Sì, le cose possono essere disordinate e complicate, ma if they act like they’re married, it’s probably because they are.
Inoltre, se vi amano davvero, taglieranno tutti i legami con il loro coniuge, a meno che non abbiano dei figli insieme e abbiano bisogno di tenersi in contatto a causa loro.
What To Do If You Find Out They’re A Married Player
If you knew they were married, you shouldn’t have gotten involved with them in the first place.
However, if you didn’t know they were married, the best relationship advice I can give you is to forgive yourself and focus on other things,
Quando vi rendete conto che la vostra relazione non è come pensavate, solo voi avete il potere di decidere cosa fare dopo. Ma una volta che sapete qualcosa, non potete più disconoscerla.
1. Don’t lie to yourself
Don’t deceive yourself if you want to keep the relationship going. Don’t convince yourself that your partner is awful or that you were destined to be together.
Sei pronta ad impegnarti ad essere la sua spalla e nient'altro con gli occhi ben aperti?
Are you ready to live with the fact that you’re causing damage to other people just by being involved in this affair?
2. Perdonare se stessi
Forse non eravate a conoscenza del loro matrimonio. Potreste aver accettato il loro racconto di essere divorziati o separati. Loro hanno mentito e la vostra relazione può essere fonte di grande senso di colpa e umiliazione per voi.
Cercate di perdonare voi stessi. It’s not your fault you didn’t recognize the signs earlier.
It’s up to you what you decide to do next. However, siate gentili con voi stessi per non aver capito la verità. Forse avete notato qualche segnale d'allarme e avete avuto qualche sospetto.
Nessuno vuole pensare che una persona cara gli stia mentendo.
3. Amare se stessi
Love yourself enough to respect yourself. You’ll probably grieve and have an awful time after the breakup.
Ma questo è meglio che stare con qualcuno per il quale non siete la prima scelta. Don’t accept less than you deserve if you truly love yourself.
Non siete responsabili di ciò che fanno. Siete responsabili della vostra vita e delle vostre decisioni.
4. Scegliere la mossa
Ora, cosa farete? Gli direte la verità? Lo farete sapere al coniuge? Quali sono i vostri piani e siete pronti a gestire le conseguenze?
Solo voi avete l'autorità per deciderlo. Forse è il momento giusto per chiedere l'aiuto di amici fidati ed esperti.
La terapia può aiutarvi a risolvere le varie emozioni che provate.
In fact, if you’ve previously found yourself in a relationship of this nature, it may be time to consider the reasons behind your selection of unsuitable partners and how to deal with it.
Pensieri finali
The signs of a married player can be more or less obvious. However, if you’ve read this article, you’ll be able to spot a married player.
But this isn’t where your journey ends. Il vero problema viene dopo aver realizzato questo. Dovete imparare a gestire una situazione come questa.
Your mental stability is the most important part here; try to focus on yourself and learn how to love yourself. It wasn’t your fault; bad people will come and go. The ones that matter will always stay.
