29 señales reveladoras de un jugador casado que deberías conocer
No one wants to play with a married man. This is a pretty obvious red flag. But sometimes, the signs of a married player aren’t just a wedding ring and photos of their partner on social media.
Quienes desean salir con otras mujeres u hombres además de sus cónyuges pueden ser profesionales en ocultar su situación sentimental.
We want you to avoid getting emotionally tangled up with such people, so we’ve got 29 telltale signs you should be aware of before you start dating one.
29 Cuentacuentos Señales de un jugador casado You Didn’t Know
It’s not uncommon to come across someone who’s married and wants to improve their love life with one or more partners.
They know that most of us won’t agree to these conditions, and that’s why they keep this information hidden. For this purpose, here are the 29 signs of a married player.
1. They don’t talk much about their vida personal
Let’s start with a clear sign of a married player: they keep their personal life to themselves.
Think about it: you have great communication, and you talk about a lot of different things – your interests, hobbies, and work pero nunca sobre sus amigos, familia y otras relaciones.
It’s normal that your partner may not be so open in the beginning, especially if they’re an introvert. However, these things should improve as you go further into your relationship.
But if even after months of dating, they continue keeping things to themselves, it’s an obvious sign they have someone besides you.
2. Desaparecen de vez en cuando
Leading a double life is manageable, but we can’t ignore the fact that it’s easy to do so. There will always be some omissions.
As your married partner wants first to save their marriage and not the relationship with you, you’ll be the one to break apart.
You’ll see this in the way they, without any notice and for a long time, don’t call or message you. Why? Because they tienen responsabilidades con su cónyuge o posibles hijos.
Puede que se hayan ido de viaje con la familia durante el fin de semana y se hayan olvidado por completo de ti. Te enviarán mensajes y quedarán contigo solo si tienen tiempo libre.
3. They don’t take you out to lugares públicos
Los lugares públicos son una pesadilla para todo hombre o mujer casado. ¿Por qué? Porque es la forma más fácil de que alguien les descubra.
Just imagine you go out to a fancy dinner, and they see a coworker or family friend sitting at the table next to you. They won’t just lose their relationship with you, but their marriage will be at risk as well.
However, this might only sometimes be the case. In larger cities, where there are more people and places to go out, it’s practically impossible to run into someone you know if you carefully choose the place you want to go.
4. They haven’t introduced you to their family and friends
If you have been dating for a long time, it’s natural to expect to even accidentally run into their friends or family members.
If they only talk a little about their personal life and don’t introduce you to family and friends, it’s a sign they don’t want a relationship with you or that they’re hiding something.
They are hiding their long-term relationship with someone else. That’s why they won’t introduce you to those close to them because there is a good chance they’ll spill that they’re married.
5. Nunca te invitan a casa
No sólo no quieren ir a lugares públicos contigo, sino que nunca te invitan a su casa, even though they’re at your place all the time.
This is maybe okay for the first few weeks, but have you been dating for months and never visited them or received an invitation? That’s a little shady.
Even if you sometimes go out, they’ll always be looking around to see if there’s someone who might recognize you. Their eye contact is never directly on you.
6. Nunca muestran afecto en público
When a woman or man loves you, they’ll be all over you, and their body language will suggest how much they’ve fallen in love with you.
Si detecta estas cosas, pero sólo cuando estéis solos y nunca en público, it’s because they’re afraid someone might see you and expose them. You are lovers, but only in private – never in public.
Some people don’t like showing affection in public and love manteniendo su amar la vida privado, but if you spot other obvious signs of a married player, you’ll know this isn’t the case.
7. Tienen un pasado sospechoso
Yes, people do change for the better. But most of the time, this is a hard and long process. If your partner has a reputation as a cheat, it’s probably because he is.
We shouldn’t rule out the fact that people can lie, but if you hear bad things about them from different sources, there is a high possibility they are true.
Things get worse if you hear that they’re married and have kids. Donde hay humo, hay fuego.
8. They don’t like taking pictures
A todo el mundo le gusta capturar un momento agradable con una foto. Las fotografías sirven como recordatorio de lo mucho que disfrutasteis de los momentos que pasasteis juntos.
So there isn’t anything bad about wanting a picture with your partner.
However, if your partner never takes a picture with you and always makes excuses about how they’re camera shy or aren’t photogenic, it’s one of the most common signs of a married player.
Porque cualquier foto de vosotros dos podría servir como prueba de su infidelidad.
9. Sus fines de semana están planeados para otras cosas
When you’re dating a married player, one of the first things you’ll notice is that sus fines de semana son fuera de los límites. El fin de semana es el tiempo libre que utilizamos para disfrutar de nuestra vida y pasarlo con nuestros seres queridos.
Si su pareja nunca encuentra tiempo para usted los fines de semana y sólo toma café con usted en momentos aleatorios durante la semana, hay una razón común para ello.
Por mucho que pienses que esto es amor verdaderosu cónyuge y sus hijos serán siempre su primera prioridad.
10. Les encanta ligar con otras personas
Flirting is a good skill to have. However, if your partner is too good at flirting with you, it’s normal to suspect they have experience in it.
Although good flirting skills don’t mean they are married player, it surely is one of the signs of a capítulo y mujeriego.
Pueden ser extremadamente encantadores, pero eso requiere mucha habilidad y experiencia. Entonces, ¿cómo obtuvieron esta habilidad? No siendo fieles a una sola persona.
Cuando se casan, se asientan y dejan de ser el centro de atención. Les encanta la persecución, y tú eres la presa perfecta.
11. Siempre esconden su teléfono
It’s okay to keep your life private. No one has the right to dig around in your things. But what if they hide ordinary things from you? Things like a simple text message?
Admit that it’s a little suspicious. Maybe they are hiding a romantic text message from their spouse or a missed phone call from their children.
Put yourself in that situation. Would you guard your phone so much if it were a simple text message from your friend or coworker? I don’t think so.
Si no tuvieras nada que ocultar, nunca sentirías la necesidad de esconde tu teléfono, and that’s a fact.
12. Los viste con otra persona
If you’ve been dating for a while now, you might be familiar with their close friends, coworkers, and family members. But what if you randomly see them with someone else you don’t know?
¿Tendrá alguna sospecha, especialmente si detecta otros signos de un jugador casado?
Puede que lleven una doble vida, y que su verdadera vida sea la que tienen con su familia y sus amigos. Lo que tienen contigo es sólo una fase o algo secundario.
Although this might sound harsh, it’s the truth you need to accept.
13. Tienen llamadas telefónicas secretas
You’ll want privacy when you have a business call or when you’re in a crowded room, but if they leave every time they need to make a phone call, it’s a sign they’re hiding something…or someone.
A more suspicious thing to do is if they check who’s calling and pon la llamada en silencio. Okay, maybe they don’t want to be disturbed, but if this happens constantly? I mean, it’s obvious, right?
They don’t want you to know who’s calling them, but they’re also aren’t able to answer the phone because they’ll be exposed.
14. Se duchan antes de salir de tu casa
When you sleep together, it’s normal that you’ll want to take a shower after the action.
But think about it a little: if they shower every time and ONLY at your place, it’s probably because their spouse will suspect they have someone on the side if they come home and immediately take a shower.
Por lo tanto, necesitan limpiar todas las pruebas de sus fechorías antes de volver a casa.
15. Suelen hacer viajes de negocios
Todo el mundo tiene su vida y sus responsabilidades, tanto laborales como con otras personas.
Sin embargo, si usted planea algo y ellos cancela tus planes en el último minuto, diciendo que tienen un viaje de negocios inesperado, it’s a little shady, isn’t it?
Maybe in their case, this ‘‘business trip’’ is a planificar con su familia that they have forgotten. It’s not a problem if this is a one-time thing, but if it happens often, you know the reason why.
16. Nunca pasan la noche
Spending the night with you never happens. They always make an excuse not to spend the night with you, and they always promise that this won’t happen next time.
Esas excusas suelen basarse en el hecho de que trabajar temprano por la mañana, but how is it possible that they can never make an exception? Maybe they’re late to see their spouse?
17. Tienes un presentimiento
Los buenos viejos intuición, especially when it comes to women’s intuition.
Sometimes, they don’t need to display these common signs of a married player, but you still have this gut feeling that tells you something isn’t right.
Si te encuentras con esta sensación, no hay nada malo en investigar un poco sobre tu pareja. ¿Adónde van? ¿Con quién quedan? ¿De verdad no tienen perfiles en las redes sociales?
18. Son misteriosos
Que oculten su vida privada es una cosa, pero que eviten las preguntas directas es otra.
If they had nothing to hide, they’d answer you straight. However, a married person will always find a way to evitar cualquier pregunta que pueda suponer un riesgo para su doble vida.
They will always answer with a silly phrase like: “If I told you, I’d have to kill you’’ or ‘‘That’s top-secret information’’ and accompany those sentences with a warm smile.
19. Les pillas mintiendo todo el tiempo
Nobody lies as well as a married player. They may be good at hiding things in the beginning when you don’t know each other well, but after some time, you’ll slowly start to realize that this whole thing was a lie.
They’ll start to contradict themselves and get tangled up in their own lies. After some time passes, they won’t be able to distinguish what they’ve told you and what they haven’t.
20. They don’t use redes sociales
One of the main signs of a married player is if they don’t have any social media accounts. It’s the 21st century, and the internet has become an unavoidable thing.
It’s the first option when it comes to communication: do you know anyone who sends an SMS nowadays? No, me neither.
However, they don’t use social media because this will expose them as a married player, and that’s the last thing they want.
They can’t have social media accounts because this will show you they have a ‘‘happy marriage’’ with one or two children.
21. A menudo cancelan tus planes
Los viajes de negocios suelen ser una excusa válida para cancelar los planes, pero si sólo os reunís cuando les viene bien, están llevando una doble vida.
Having a double life isn’t easy these days. On the one hand, they have a spouse and children they need to raise; on the other hand, there is you.
You will always be their second choice because it’s more important to them that they save their marriage than a ‘‘side chick’’ they can easily replace. That’s why they’ll always cancel plans with you and never with them.
22. Te prometen cosas
Las promesas falsas son una táctica común que todo jugador casado utiliza. Estas promesas te cegará, and you won’t be able to see the whole picture and the signs of a married player.
Pero ten cuidado; la mayoría de las veces, son sólo promesas rotas que nunca se cumplirán. Las promesas rotas pueden afectar gravemente no sólo a tu relación, sino también a tu salud mental.
23. Pero nunca planear un futuro contigo
Even though they promise a lot of cute things, like the places you’ll go, the people you’ll meet, and the memories you’ll make, they never actually hablar específicamente de tu futuro.
They don’t have concrete moves and plans with you, and everything is just in the air.
After some time, you’ll probably end up dealing with a lack of self-esteem because you’ll think you aren’t good enough, while the truth is completely the opposite.
24. Sólo envías mensajes si quieren
Sí, reunirse en persona es mucho más importante que enviar mensajes de texto. Sin embargo, si su la comunicación en línea es mínima and you only talk when they want to, it’s a sign they might be married.
This stems from the fact that when they’re not with you, they’re probably with their spouse and children, so texting you can be a huge risk.
Even if they reply to you, they are short answers, mainly about where and when you’ll meet up.
25. They don’t put any effort into your relationship
Will a married player really put any effort into an affair? Yes, you’re right; they probably won’t.
They never make you feel special; you’re always at your place ordering takeout… They always promise you you’ll go on a trip together next weekend, but that never happens.
Después de algún tiempo, te das cuenta de que pusiste un mucho más esfuerzo en tu relación de lo que ellos hicieron nunca.
26. Siempre tienen otras prioridades
It’s normal for adults to have a lot of other things to pay attention to besides a romantic relationship.
It’s normal not to be their number one priority, but if you see that they never have time for you and only meet up when they have unexpected free time, it’s obvious they’re only having an affair with you.
27. Quieren mantener vuestra relación en privado
Tener una relación privada suele ser algo positivo.
Dar prioridad a la intimidad de su relación, a su tranquilidad y a la de su cónyuge por encima de los ojos entrometidos y la validación de extraños significa mantener su relación fuera de las redes sociales.
Sin embargo, si insistir en que su relación siga siendo privada even after you develop into a serious relationship, it might be a sign that they’re married and don’t want to risk getting divorced.
28. Te tratan como a un lateral
If they treat you like a side chick, it’s probably because you are. This is not even the worst thing. If they treat you like this, they most probably tener otros socios también.
No eres una prioridad para ellos; sólo quedáis cuando pueden, apenas os mandáis mensajes y cancelan los planes en el último minuto. ¿De verdad quieres que te traten así?
I know you desperately want to know more about their love interests and how you could fit in, but all these things are an obvious sign they not only have someone else but don’t respect you at all.
29. They say they’re separated
One of the signs they are a married player is if they speak ill about married life, saying that they’re separated or waiting for divorce papers.
Sí, las cosas pueden ser desordenadas y complicadas, pero if they act like they’re married, it’s probably because they are.
Además, si te quieren de verdad, cortarán todos los lazos con su cónyuge, a menos que tengan hijos en común y necesiten mantener el contacto por ellos.
What To Do If You Find Out They’re A Married Player
If you knew they were married, you shouldn’t have gotten involved with them in the first place.
However, if you didn’t know they were married, the best relationship advice I can give you is to forgive yourself and focus on other things,
Cuando te das cuenta de que tu relación no es lo que pensabas que era, sólo tú tienes el poder de determinar qué hacer a continuación. Pero una vez que sabes algo, no puedes desconocerlo.
1. Don’t lie to yourself
Don’t deceive yourself if you want to keep the relationship going. Don’t convince yourself that your partner is awful or that you were destined to be together.
¿Estás preparada para comprometerte a ser su complemento y nada más con los ojos bien abiertos?
Are you ready to live with the fact that you’re causing damage to other people just by being involved in this affair?
2. 2. Perdónate a ti mismo
Puede que no supieras que se habían casado. Puede que hayas aceptado su versión de que estaban divorciados o separados. Han mentido, y su relación puede ser fuente de mucha culpa y humillación para usted.
Intenta perdonarte a ti mismo. It’s not your fault you didn’t recognize the signs earlier.
It’s up to you what you decide to do next. However, sé amable contigo mismo por no darte cuenta de la verdad. Tal vez se dio cuenta de algunas señales de advertencia y tenía algunas sospechas.
Nadie quiere pensar que un ser querido le está mintiendo.
3. Quiérete a ti mismo
Love yourself enough to respect yourself. You’ll probably grieve and have an awful time after the breakup.
Pero esto es mejor que estar con alguien para quien no eres su primera opción. Don’t accept less than you deserve if you truly love yourself.
No eres responsable de lo que hagan. Tú eres responsable de tu propia vida y de tus decisiones.
4. Elige tu jugada
Ahora, ¿qué vas a hacer? ¿Le dirás la verdad? ¿Se lo harás saber a su cónyuge? ¿Cuáles son tus planes y estás preparado para afrontar las consecuencias?
Sólo tú tienes autoridad para decidirlo. Quizá sea un buen momento para pedir ayuda a amigos y expertos de confianza.
Puede que la terapia le ayude a ordenar las distintas emociones que pueda estar sintiendo.
In fact, if you’ve previously found yourself in a relationship of this nature, it may be time to consider the reasons behind your selection of unsuitable partners and how to deal with it.
Reflexiones finales
The signs of a married player can be more or less obvious. However, if you’ve read this article, you’ll be able to spot a married player.
But this isn’t where your journey ends. El verdadero problema viene cuando te das cuenta de esto. Tienes que aprender a lidiar con una situación así.
Your mental stability is the most important part here; try to focus on yourself and learn how to love yourself. It wasn’t your fault; bad people will come and go. The ones that matter will always stay.
