Smettere di avere problemi di relazione con una persona con cui non si ha una relazione

Avere una relazione problematica è terribile.

Being with someone who hurts you every day and not getting along with your partner are two of the things which can stress you out to the point where you simply don’t know where you’re headed with your life anymore.

Inoltre, vi fa sentire infelici e non vedete alcuna via d'uscita da questa situazione.

But let’s face it—no relationship is perfect and we have all had problems with our romantic partner at some point in our life.

Although these problems shouldn’t become standard, the fact is that they are a part of life, even though they don’t make you feel the best.

But you know what shouldn’t be natural and normal? You know what is way worse than having relationship problems with your partner?

It’s having relationship problems with someone you’re not in a relationship with.

Quando ci si trova in questo tipo di situazione, probabilmente si percepiscono tutti i lati negativi di una relazione.

You feel like you are taken, like you can’t flirt with other men and like you can’t meet anyone new. You get the part where the guy you are seeing is jealous.

Ci sono i litigi, le discussioni e le angherie. Ci sono i pianti e le parti fastidiose.

Arriva la parte in cui si confronta con tutte le altre ragazze vicine all'uomo con cui ha una relazione.

Si capisce che ci si aspetta da voi che siate lì per lui ogni volta che ha bisogno della vostra presenza.

You get the part where you know you love this guy, even though he obviously doesn’t love you back because he refuses to label things and because he refuses to commit to you.

E per la maggior parte del tempo, ti senti davvero come se fosse il tuo ragazzo.

Dopo tutto, quando si sta insieme, il tdi voi comportarsi come una vera coppia e avete tutti i problemi di una relazione.

But the difference between this type of a relationship and a real romantic relationship is that you don’t have the good parts.

You don’t have someone to be your partner in any sense of that word. You don’t have someone whose hand you can proudly hold in front of everyone.

You don’t have someone to coccolarsi con te finché non vi addormentate. Qualcuno che vi dia il bacio del buongiorno o che vi mandi il messaggio della buonanotte.

You don’t have someone to go with you to weddings and other important occasions.

You don’t have someone to surprise you on your birthday at midnight. You don’t have someone to celebrate New Year or Valentine’s Day with.

You don’t have someone to wait for you on your doorstep when you get home from work exhausted and tired.

You don’t have someone to take care of when you are sick or just to be there for you when you need someone to talk to.

You don’t have someone who is only yours. You don’t have the faithful and loyal man you need.

You don’t have someone you can introduce to your friends and family. You can’t say that you are in a relationship.

You don’t have your other half or your plus one. No, you don’t have either of these things when you are single either.

But when this is the case, you know that you are on your own in a romantic sense and you don’t have the stress which this almost relationship brings with it.

Sapete anche che siete disponibili per altri uomini e che potete mettervi sul mercato degli appuntamenti ogni volta che ne avete voglia.

Quindi, se pensate che il vostro quasi relazione è degno di tutti i problemi che state vivendo, leggete tutto questo e pensate a tutte le cose negative che vi sta portando e pensate a tutte le cose positive di cui siete privati.

And I’m sure you’ll change your mind.

I’m sure you’ll see that you are wasting your time on someone who doesn’t want to commit to you and that he’ll probably never change his views.

You’ll see that you are actually trapped in a relationship without labels, when that is the last thing you want.

You’ll see that you deserve someone who will proudly call you his girlfriend. That you deserve someone who will be yours and who will love you for real.