Life is a series of stories and each of us has our own story to tell.

But, every story is different—every person is different. If your story is filled with more bad and unhappy moments than happy ones, it’s time to make a change.

And how to make a change?

The only answer you need you will find within yourself. You have to understand that only you have the power to change your life. Only you have the power to put a stop to all the bad stuff that is happening to you.

Along with your will and determination, there’s another skill that will help you in becoming emotionally strong.

The good thing about emotional strength is that it is like a muscle: the more you use it, the stronger it (and you) get.

Here is a list of things that emotionally strong women DON’T do and they never will. Read it and remember it because these things will help you with creating the life you always wanted.

1. They don’t beg for attention

Having emotional strength means having self-worth and self-respect. Women who possess these values don’t have the need to be in the spotlight all the time. They themselves are all they need, and they feel comfortable in their own skin.

2. They don’t let others bring them down

Emotionally strong women completely ignore haters and they couldn’t care less for gossipers. It’s just that they know better than letting words of ‘unimportant’ people get to them. They will eliminate those kinds of people from their surroundings and what’s more important, they will replace them with positive and good people.

3. They never lose their confidence

They are well aware that if they are confident enough and that if they believe they can make their goals come true, they will make them happen. Self-confidence is one of the most important qualities of emotional strength.

4. They are not afraid to love

Women who have grown to possess emotional strength have had their hearts broken, but the difference is that they won’t let that stop them. They will make sure that makes them even stronger. They will learn from their mistakes. If you’ve ever been hurt, it doesn’t have to mean you should keep your distance from love.

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5. They refuse to play the victims

Being emotionally strong means not finding excuses for everything. Don’t play the victim all the time and stop blaming someone else for your problems. You have to stop living in the past, and you have to focus on every new day to come.

6. They are not afraid to say ‘NO’

One of the most important lessons you should learn is how to say ‘NO’. Stop wasting your time with things that are irrelevant to you. Learn to say ‘NO’ and focus on your priorities. Everything else is just a waste of your time.

7. They won’t say no to a challenge

Emotionally strong women will take up a challenge any time of the day because they look at it as an opportunity to learn new things and to grow emotionally. They know that challenges that life serves you happen for a reason. Only when you complete them, you will know why they happened in the first place.

8. They will never do something they don’t want to

If you’d like to keep your emotional balance and common sense intact, you’ll have to do only things you like. Shake off the emotional baggage and commitments which are making you feel like crap.

9. They don’t forget that happiness is a matter of choice

These women know that it’s their choice if they want to be happy or not. And they understand what is it they need to be truly happy. And believe me, they will do everything possible to make their lives happy.

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10. They know the ‘Happy Life Formula’

It’s not rocket science. It’s this simple—they have chosen to live a simple, productive, enthusiastic, challenging, and prosperous life.

11. They don’t waste time

They don’t waste time doing things that are purposeless and irrelevant. They are well aware of their present and that’s why they live every day to the fullest.

12. They are not afraid to ask for help

Of course, you can’t do everything all by yourself. Therefore, every emotionally strong woman will swallow her pride and ask for help when she needs it. They are not afraid to put more effort into doing something than others are.

And that is completely logical: don’t be afraid of putting effort into things you want and don’t be afraid to keep trying because it will pay off in the end.

13. They are not happy living a mediocre life

Emotionally strong women don’t settle for mediocre. They will give all they’ve got and they will ask the same in return.

14. They don’t lose it when they are not in control

Think about all those moments you’ve overreacted to situations which were not that important. Every time you get the feeling of blood boiling in your veins ready to explode, stop and ask yourself: “Is this situation really worth getting upset about?” In most of the cases, you’ll come to understand that the answer is—NO!

15. They will never give up

Lastly and most importantly, emotionally strong women will never give up on anything. Being emotionally strong means facing the troubles you’re having, learning from your mistakes, living at the moment (day after day—no matter how shitty it is), and NEVER, EVER giving up!

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