I believe that there is an ideal person for all of us – our perfect match. I truly believe in soulmates because not so long ago I was in the process of discovering myself and through it, I met mine

I know that this is hard to believe, but your soulmate is out there somewhere and I’m sure he’ll find you. Your paths will cross one day and he’ll be everything you ever asked for.

He’ll be even more than that. He’ll be the prince you dreamed about when you were a little girl. He’ll be that kind-hearted “bad boy” you had a crush on as a teenage girl.

He’ll be a successful and protective man with some serious plans and goals for the future. A man who knows what he wants and how to get it. A man whose priority is to settle down and start his own family. 

He’ll be that man you pray for every night before you go to bed.

One day, I’m sure he’ll come. The only reason he isn’t here yet is because God thinks you need some more time. Some more time for yourself.

You need to work on yourself more. You need to achieve some of your own dreams and goals. You have to build yourself up as an independent woman first.

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Your soulmate will come into your life when it’s time. There are some things you can’t control in life and this is one of them.

So, why bother about things that are out of your control? Why bother about it when you’re not the one who decides about the timing of these things?

I was also focused on finding “the one” my entire life and where did it get me? Nowhere. I only neglected my own needs. I was jealous of every happy couple I saw on the street.

I started to think that maybe the real problem is in me. I was stuck with the constant feeling of not being good enough and I didn’t know how to get rid of it.

I wondered if I’d ever find someone who thinks that I’m good enough – who sees me with completely different eyes. Because God knows my self-image was terrible.

I remember when I was in college, my goals for the future were to get my diploma, find a job I’d enjoy doing, and work hard to become a successful and independent woman.

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I wanted to surround myself with a big circle of friends and somehow repay my parents for their love and everything they’d done for me over the years.

That futile search for a soulmate changed my goals for the future completely. The only thing that was important to me was to find someone who’d love me and stay with me for the rest of my life.

Don’t get me wrong. Having a life partner is important and should be a part of everyone’s goals for the future. But it shouldn’t become your obsession. 

There are so many things you should take care of in your life before you start sharing it with someone else.

One day, I saw some photos of my friends on Instagram. They were enjoying their holiday in the  Maldives. Then I found out that my coworker got a promotion and she became my superior.

That was the day I looked at myself in the mirror and said, “Stop right there, missy. It’s enough. You have to get your life in order and you have to do it now!”

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I also deserved to travel and have fun. I also deserved to progress in my career. That freshman girl was counting on me and I had to make her proud.  

The day I decided to change my thinking was the day my life started getting better in every possible way. I felt more calm and relaxed. I finally felt that feeling of inner peace.

I shifted focus back on myself. I started working on myself. I had to get my self-relationship back on track. Self-care became my priority. I found my life purpose and it wasn’t finding the great guy.

I worked hard to make myself better in every possible way and I did it. I am so damn proud of myself and everything I’ve achieved so far.

I just want to say something in the end to all women who are in a search for that one great guy. Your great guy may come, but he may also leave one day. 

You are the only person you know for sure you’re stuck with for the rest of your life. Try to make it fun, exciting, and interesting by improving yourself.

Stop Worrying About Finding A Great Guy And Focus On Being A Great Woman