Never waste your time with a man who can’t see your worth. With someone who can’t see how amazing you are, with someone who makes you feel like you are less worthy just because you are not perfect. No one is. Not even he is. And judging people and giving them a hard time just because they don’t fit into our idea of perfection is not okay. Making someone feel worthless is most definitely not okay. And you should never settle for someone who can’t see that you are your own perfection and you should be adored as such.

Never waste your time with a man who makes you stare at an empty screen and throws a tantrum if you don’t reply within seconds. You deserve more than crappy text messages and someone who can’t control his temper. You deserve someone who will be there for you and who will make you feel like you are the reason for their happiness. Someone who will talk to you on the phone till 3 AM and you will know it will be worth it to feel like crap in the morning. You deserve someone who texts you when they see a cute puppy or something that reminds them of you. And you deserve someone who will understand you cannot text back the same second you receive a message.

Never waste your time with a man who believes he is always right. Someone who is brainwashed into thinking that he is the smartest man alive and that he knows everything about everything. A man like that will never appreciate your opinions and he will often belittle them. A man like that doesn’t know how to take the blame if he messes something up, because he is always right. And to him, if he says that he did nothing wrong, he did nothing wrong. Never waste your time with someone who doesn’t appreciate your knowledge and your skills. You worked damn hard for them and you deserve to be acknowledged for them, the same as you would do for your partner. If he is not interested in doing the same for you, he’s not worth it.

Never waste your time with a man who hates to be treated like he treats you. They say that the best way to see what someone is like is to treat them the same way as they treat you. If he is ignoring your needs and you, do the same to him. If he is throwing tantrums for no obvious reason, do the same. And the moment he starts resenting you for it, that is the moment you need to walk away. You see, if a man truly loves you, he will make sure he never treats you like that again, because now he knows how shitty it can be. But a man who only cares about himself will only see that you are not being kind to him like you always have been.

Never waste your time with a man who gaslights you. With someone who makes you question your own sanity and your own memories. Someone whose words are so poisonous that they make you feel like you are on your own, that your friends and family don’t care about you. That’s not love and no matter what he says, trust yourself, trust your gut. And never waste your time, your health or your life with someone who is only playing with you. You know you deserve more.

Never waste your time with a man who is projecting his imperfections onto you. A man who’s accusing you of cheating is a man who cheated before. A man who is accusing you of flirting with other men is a man who flirts often. A man who makes you question your sanity, your knowledge or your skills is a man who is insecure about his. But it’s not your job to fix someone by breaking yourself. If he isn’t capable of dealing with his fears and insecurities in a more mature way, he is not worthy of your help. A relationship with such a man is nothing but a toxic pain in the ass.

And lastly, never waste your time with a man who makes you feel anything less than you deserve. Never waste your time with someone who makes you feel like you are not good enough, like you are not perfect or like you are always to blame. Never waste your time with someone who makes you compare yourself to other women, because he is incapable of being loyal. Never waste your time with a man who makes you feel unlovable, just because he is incapable of loving. You and I both know that we all deserve more than that.