It is never easy to stop loving someone you are head over heels in love with.
Even if he took you for granted and hurt you, you can’t forget all about him overnight.
You will need some time to get over it all and to finally find your own peace.
If you are one of those women who doesn’t know why you can’t stop loving him after all that he did to you, I suggest you read further.
1. You got used to him
When you are in a long-term relationship, it is really easy to get used to your partner.
You feel safe because you know that they will always be there and you know that while you are with them, you will be just fine.
But when you two break up, your whole world falls apart because you got attached to your partner and now you don’t know how to move on alone.
You don’t know how to make yourself happy and satisfied anymore because he was the one who always provided you with that.
No matter how much you want to forget him and stop loving him, you can’t.
You catch yourself thinking about him all the time and no matter what you do, you can’t get him out of your head.
The worst thing is that this process is lengthy and you will have to gather a lot of strength and energy to get over all of this.
2. You still think he is the most perfect man alive
One more reason that prevents you from stopping loving him is your opinion about him.
Even if you are not together and even if he hurt you, you still think he is simply the best.
You believe he is your perfect match and that you will never find a man who is as handsome or smart as he is.
It happens because you have low self-esteem or because you were idolizing him too much.
Whatever the reason, it is neither good nor healthy.
If you continue to think that he is the best man you will ever be with, you surely won’t give anyone else a chance to try be with you.
Maybe so many good guys are walking right next to you while you are holding to the wrong one.
Only when you tell yourself that you should move on and let him go, will you be able to do so.
And only then will you find what you have been looking for such a long time.
3. You still contact his family
If you still have any sort of contact with his family, it is obvious that it will be hard to get over him and stop loving him.
His family will always be on his side and they will tell you all those nice stories about him.
Whatever happened between the two of you will look less awful when you talk to his sister or mother, for example.
They will probably tell you that you should take some time apart, but that they are sure you two belong together.
They will tell you they love you and that they always want you close.
So, having non-stop communication with his family won’t help you a bit to stop loving him.
They will always be there to try to convince you that your place is beside him. If I were you,
I would burn all bridges with him and his family because that is the only way you can succeed in your goal.
4. You believe you are guilty for all the problems in your relationship
If you think that you are the guilty one for all the bad stuff that happened in your relationship, you will always try to save things that simply can’t be saved.
Your relationship, for example.
If something is doomed from the start, there is no way you can do anything to make it better.
So, stopping loving someone while you are blaming yourself for him not being there can be mission impossible.
You will spend a lot of your time and energy to make it all work, but it will never be perfect like you want it.
My advice is to let it all go because it obviously didn’t work out from the beginning.
5. Your main focus is on him
You put him on a pedestal from day one. For you, he was all that you could ever wish for.
You never looked at other men because he was the perfect man for you. But wait. Was he really?
If he really was, you wouldn’t be here now, trying to forget him and stop loving him.
Now you are stuck in a place you don’t want to be in and you are trying your utmost to stop loving the man you are madly in love with.
If you could just turn your focus to something else, it would be much easier to get over him and to forget him as soon as possible.
So, if you want to do that, you need to change your outlook on life and focus on yourself instead.
In that way, you will solve all your problems and you will finally learn to love yourself and put yourself first.
6. You think you are not good enough for someone else
The thing is that you are still in love with him and you believe that you won’t be good for someone else.
You think you are not beautiful or good enough and that nobody will ever love you like he did.
Deep down you know that he didn’t give you the love you deserved, but you still want him close.
You are not letting yourself get over him and as long as you continue thinking in that way, things won’t get better.
My advice is to focus on yourself more and to let go of the one who doesn’t accept you completely.
I started writing just as a hobby, but in the end, I decided that it is something that fulfills me. I find inspiration in life’s everyday problems and every article that I write tells something about my past. In this way, I want to tell women all around the world that even though we are miles away, our pain makes us close. My articles were written to comfort those who need it the most and to tell them that they are not alone. I am a full-time mom, and I like spending time with my son, good people, sunny days and beer.