When you are faced with a painful situation like this, it is not easy to function normally.
You will think about the one who got away all the time, and you will try to figure out why that happened and what you could have done differently.
You are desperate in trying to find solutions and you can’t remember the last time you were in such a bad phase of your life.
But what you need to know is that there is no problem that can’t be solved, so if you just put a little bit more effort to get over the man who left you, I am sure you will finally find the peace that you crave so much.
1. Don’t blame yourself
The worst thing you can do is blame yourself for him leaving you. If he really loved you, he would never leave you.
Don’t think about the things that you could have done better because even your best wouldn’t be good enough for him.
You were just one more wrong woman and you would never be happy with him.
So, my dear, don’t blame yourself for him leaving you. See it as a blessing.
You would never get the love you deserve with a selfish man like that.
It is better to be alone than in bad company, so wipe your tears and move on. If you smile at life, your life will smile back at you.
2. Talk to a close friend
Is there anything better than talking with a good friend when something goes wrong? I don’t think so.
I suggest you talk to a friend and to tell them all that lies in your heart.
You will feel better and your friend will know how to help you because they will know the whole story.
Also, spending time with your friend will make you feel relaxed and you won’t think about your ex so much.
When you hear a little good advice, you will feel like you are enough and you will trust your friend when they say that the breakup didn’t happen because of you.
Can you believe how just one good talk to a person who means a lot to you can help you so much?
3. Spend time outside
By spending time outside, you will prevent staying home alone and thinking about him all the time.
If you have a chance, go to a park or someplace near the river that can calm you down. The more time you spend outside, the more relaxed you will feel.
Also, if you have the company of your good friends, it’ll be even better.
They will make you forget him, if only for a while, and you will realize that life is too short to bother your head over things like this.
4. Focus on your needs
When was the last time you properly took care of yourself? It was a long time ago, right?
Well, after all the hell you have been through, it is about time you start thinking about yourself for a change.
Now is the right time to focus on your own needs and to start doing things that make you happy.
So, stop pleasing people and do all those things you always wanted to do but you never had time for them.
I am sure it will help you to forget all about him faster and see that life is full of beautiful things; you should enjoy all of them.
5. Follow the no-contact rule
The most important thing you should do when you don’t want to see him anymore is to block his number and delete him from social media accounts.
You should under no circumstances have any contact with him.
Also, stop talking to his friends because they will probably mention him and even if you don’t ask, they will tell you what he is up to.
They will try to convince you that you two are a perfect match and that you should be together again.
So, whatever you do, don’t talk to them and stay as far away as you can from him.
That is the only way you can forget all about him faster, and focus on yourself and on your life.
6. Get rid of the mementos
I understand that you loved him and that there are so many cute gifts he used to buy to you, but if you want to forget him, you need to get rid of them.
I know that throwing all those things in the trash will awaken some pleasant memories and that it will be hard for you to do that, but that is the only way you can forget him.
It won’t be easy and it won’t happen right away, but you will get over it eventually.
Trust me, one day it will all look like just a bad dream. One day, you will find the love you deserve. One day, you will be truly happy.
7. Don’t start dating until you are ready
Many women make a mistake by starting to date right after a heartbreak.
But that is actually the worst thing you can do, since your feelings are mixed up and you can’t think straight.
That’s why you should give yourself some time to heal.
Don’t jump from one relationship into another. It will only get worse and you will end up hurt.
You should rather be single for some time; only after you go through the entire healing process should you should you start thinking about someone new.
Only in that way will you you avoid getting hurt.
I started writing just as a hobby, but in the end, I decided that it is something that fulfills me. I find inspiration in life’s everyday problems and every article that I write tells something about my past. In this way, I want to tell women all around the world that even though we are miles away, our pain makes us close. My articles were written to comfort those who need it the most and to tell them that they are not alone. I am a full-time mom, and I like spending time with my son, good people, sunny days and beer.