People define love differently because it means something different for all of us.
Sure, it is an intense feeling of deep affection toward another human being but what kind of feeling? Is it always a positive feeling?
What if it is one-sided love? Then it doesn’t give us butterflies or make us happy all the time. Then it hurts.
Then love becomes something negative, something awful and painful. Then it becomes the worst feeling in the world.
So, can we define true love? Can we explain true love as it is the same feeling for all people? No, we can’t. We all have our unique definition of that feeling and that’s how it should be.
However, many signs can show if your love isn’t real and here are some of the most important ones.
1. Love shouldn’t feel like a prison
Even though you are in a relationship, you should be able to hang out with your friends or have some time for yourself.
We are all individuals and we all have our needs. Being in a relationship shouldn’t stop you from doing whatever you want to do.
Don’t let your relationship become a prison where you count the days until you’ll finally become free.
2. Love shouldn’t make you lose who you are
Giving up your entire identity for someone won’t help you to make your relationship better, it will only make your partner appreciate you less.
Don’t ever forget who you are and what your values are. You should be able to make your own decisions and choices.
No one knows what’s best for you but yourself. A man who truly loves you will never let you change any part of yourself.
3. Love shouldn’t make you feel incomplete
People say that we all need a soulmate and that we’ll only be able to understand the true meaning of love when we find our other half.
God didn’t make us incomplete, so why do we need to find someone to make us feel complete?
You are whole on your own and you don’t need to find someone else to make you whole. You just need to find a way to understand and discover it.
By discovering that, you’ll fall in love with yourself more.
You’ll appreciate yourself more and you’ll never again settle for someone who doesn’t deserve you just because you thought you needed someone to ‘complete’ you.
4. Love shouldn’t feel like constant doubting
If you doubt your partner’s fidelity all the time, then you have to know that it isn’t real love. If he gives you reasons to constantly doubt his love, then it’s not true love either.
When you find the right person, you’ll know that his love is sincere and he won’t even have to prove it to you.
He’ll spend all of his free time with you and will make you feel loved. He won’t have time for anything else and you’ll never doubt that you are the only woman in his life.
5. Love shouldn’t be conditional
If you’ve chosen to be with one person then you have to be with him no matter what.
You should know that there will be good and bad days and your job is to be there for your loved one through both the bad and good times.
When someone loves you, they’ll love you in all conditions, no matter what. You won’t have to prove or earn that love.
True love is unconditional and that’s what makes it so special.
6. Love shouldn’t make you suffer
A person who truly loves you would never hurt you. Your pain would be his pain and he would hate himself if he ever did something that would cause you suffering.
It’s normal to have some misunderstandings and to argue about things but he’ll never do anything to hurt your feelings.
He will always be careful with his words because he knows that words can hurt more than any weapon.
7. Love shouldn’t make you break up your friendships
Many people would say that it’s not possible to keep your friends while you are in a relationship. This is the worst and saddest part of many relationships.
Your friends are your second family, the people who probably know more about you than your partner does.
You should be more aware of how hanging out with your friends can help you relax and take off the pressure you have from your relationship.
Conclusion
When you find the right person, he will show you what real love should look like and you’ll realize why all your past relationships didn’t succeed.
If you can relate to any of these signs, then maybe you have to re-evaluate your relationship and think about your partner’s love.
Trust me, it’s better to be alone than with the wrong person. That’s how no one will hurt you.
You should stay single until the right one comes along. Let real love find its way to you. You’ll see that it is the most incredible feeling in the world.
