What do guys want from women? I’ve spent hours and hours discussing the ultimate questions with my girlfriends. And you know what we came up with? NOTHING.
So, I decided to change my strategy. Instead of talking things through with my own kind, why wouldn’t I ask my male friends to give me the answers?
I knew I could be sure that they’d be completely honest with me. They don’t hit on me and therefore, there is absolutely no need for them to lie in order to deceive me.
This is exactly what I did. I asked five of my friends what they find irresistible in girls. Here is what they revealed.
When she takes over the initiative, Alex (27)
“The thing I hate the most about dating is that a guy is always expected to make the first move. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind approaching women and it’s not that I’m too nervous to do it.
But the truth is that a guy enjoys feeling wanted as well. She doesn’t have to buy me flowers or anything like that but when a girl takes over the initiative, it’s enough to seal the deal.
After all, you girls want equality in everything, right? So, what does it cost you to ask a guy out? Trust me, every single one will be thrilled by your courage.”
The way she looks at me, Dennis (29)
“To be frank, I can’t really explain it. I think it’s the vibration, the chemistry, the energy she sends to me. Call it whatever you like.
She can be the most beautiful girl in the world, she can fulfill every guy’s wildest fantasies and all of my standards, but if she doesn’t have that ‘something’, sorry but I won’t fall for her.
For years, I tried figuring out what this X factor was. Then it hit me: it was the eye contact. You don’t have to have blue or green eyes but you sure do have to look at me in a certain way and I’m all yours.”
When she is not clingy, Benjamin (34)
“It’s not that I don’t want commitment. I’m all for serious relationships. However, what I can’t stand are clingy girls.
What I find irresistible about women is their independence. Have a life of your own and don’t spend all of your free time bugging me.
Give me a chance to miss you. Don’t play mind games and don’t do it on purpose; let it happen because you’re a busy woman with your friends, hobbies and interests.”
Classy but not uptight, John (38)
“If a girl wants to get under my skin, she needs to be relaxed. I can’t stand uptight girls who think they’re princesses.
On the other hand, I don’t want her to be too vulgar. We can be friends but you’re not my best buddy. She has to be a little bit classy as well.
Hearing things like this, you probably assume that I’m looking for the impossible but things are actually pretty simple.
Simply put, I find it irresistible when a girl finds the perfect balance between being a lady you can take to a dinner party and a relaxed girl you can grab pizza and a beer with.”
When she’s confident, Eduardo (40)
“Out of all the things a woman can be, being confident is the thing that drives me crazy about her the most. As soon as I see that a girl knows what she wants and that she is not afraid to get it, I’m knocked off my feet.
I bet you know what I’m talking about. I’m talking about a woman you can’t stay immune to. She doesn’t have to be the hottest girl around but when she walks into the room, all eyes are stuck on her.
This is the kind of woman who is not afraid to own up to her feelings, a woman who won’t play games. Instead, she’ll always be direct about everything.
Trust me, this is a woman who stands out of the crowd. When you’re with her, you don’t have to pretend to be a mind reader; everything is out in the open.”