7 sinais mortais de um homem imaturo e como reconhecê-los
Quero deixar isto bem claro desde o início, porque a maioria das pessoas tem uma ideia totalmente errada sobre este assunto: a maturidade emocional não vem com a idade!
So, if you’re wondering if you’re dealing with an emotionally immature man, you probably have every right to do so. However, you should check out these 7 deadly signs of an immature man just to make sure you’re right before making any moves.
Se o seu parceiro mostrar algum destes sinais de imaturidade emocional, deve pensar em acabar com ele. Yes, relationships are hard work, and you can’t give up the first time you run into an obstacle; however, there is also no point in trying to save something or someone who doesn’t feel the need to be saved.
No final do dia, a sua felicidade e paz de espírito devem ser sempre a sua prioridade. Se alguém o está a afetar de uma forma negativa, deve encontrar uma forma de o excluir da sua vida.
7 sinais mortais de um homem imaturo
Eis os sinais de alerta mais comuns de homens emocionalmente imaturos. Se reconhecer algum deles, diga adeus ao seu homem e deixe-o para trás.
1. Síndrome de Peter Pan
If your man displays childish behavior and clearly shows that he doesn’t have the intention to grow up, it means he has Síndrome de Peter Pan.
The psychotherapist Marni Feuerman LCSW LMFT says, “If your partner is Peter Pan, you might be Wendy. At first, his behavior might have been fun and entertaining. Perhaps you were drawn to him because you felt that he was a ‘challenge’ or someone that you could ‘fix’ or change.”
There is a label for that, too, and it’s called Síndrome de Wendy. It’s when a woman feels obligated to take care of her homem imaturo. Ela comporta-se literalmente como a mãe dele e sente a necessidade de o ajudar a crescer.
The truth is, it’s hard to admit to yourself that your behavior and a vossa relação é tóxica. However, you need to know that the sooner you accept and admit it, the sooner you’ll be able to work on finding the solution to it all.
2. Falta de responsabilidade
Another red flag that shows you don’t have a man by your side but a man-child is his irresponsible behavior. If he can’t stand behind his words and his actions, if he can’t take responsibility for his deeds, that means ele é emocionalmente imaturo.
He’ll never accept and admit his mistakes because he’ll always culpar os outros para eles. If you leave him no option but to admit his wrongdoings, he’ll try to make up an excuse to justify his actions.
You can never expect an apology from this kind of guy because you’ll never get it. In his eyes, he doesn’t make mistakes, and he feels he has no reason to apologize for anything.
The point is that having a healthy and serious conversation or discussion with him is impossible. And without it, without healthy communication, you’ll never be able to build uma relação saudável… It’s a fact.
3. Questões de empenhamento
Já namoram há algum tempo? Ele colocou um rótulo na vossa relação? Ele está completamente comprometido consigo?
If he isn’t, and if he keeps avoiding uma relação de compromisso, it’s obvious that ele tem problemas de compromisso. E, infelizmente, esses problemas são o sinal mais óbvio de imaturidade emocional.
He doesn’t allow you to get too close and get to know him on a deeper level because he’s afraid it may make him vulnerable. He knows it might strengthen your connection, and that is precisely the thing he’s trying to avoid.
4. Padrões de comportamento de um narcisista
Já reparou em alguma características de um narcisista in your man? It’s really the little things, for example, boasting, arrogant and self-centered behavior, selfishness, and the need to be the center of attention.
Se o fez, o facto é que o seu homem tem provavelmente um distúrbio de personalidade narcísica. A verdade é que, por vezes, é muito difícil distinguir o narcisismo da imaturidade emocional.
However, if your man has these narcissistic traits along with these 6 signs of emotional immaturity, he’s definitely an immature person.
5. Questões de dependência
Se reparou que ele tem problemas de ligação e dependência pouco saudáveis com alguns dos seus familiares, amigos ou mesmo colegas de trabalho, isso pode ser outro sinal de imaturidade emocional.
Um homem adulto tem relações saudáveis com todos os que o rodeiam. He doesn’t depend on those closest to him, and he never stays in codependent relationships.
If he distanced himself from his friends or family members when you started dating and focused all of his attention solely on you and your relationship, it’s clear that he has dependency issues.
In the beginning, you’ll enjoy all that attention and affection, but with time, it’ll start bothering you because you’ll feel trapped in your relationship. He’ll invade your personal space and break all of your boundaries, and very soon, you’ll start feeling suffocated.
You may think that it’s all because ele tem medo de a perder, but the truth is, it’s only because of his unhealthy attachment style.
No matter how much you love him, you shouldn’t pretend like you’re okay with it all. Either find a way to make him understand his behavior and change or terminar a sua relação O MAIS RAPIDAMENTE POSSÍVEL.
6. Birras de temperamento
If your man isn’t able to have a healthy discussion with you, if it always ends in him screaming, hitting, or breaking things, it’s a huge red flag he’s emotionally immature.
He isn’t able to deal with his emotions in the right way, and that’s why he can’t have a healthy, serious conversation with you. He lets those emotions out in the worst possible ways, and of course, most of your issues and problems don’t even end up being resolved and dealt with.
O facto lamentável é que, devido às suas birras, a vossa relação pode também tornar-se abusiva e ele pode passar da agressão verbal à agressão física. Se quer evitar esse cenário, termine já a sua relação.
7. Não ser capaz de manter qualquer tipo de relação saudável
Este é o último e provavelmente um dos mais importantes sinais dos 7 sinais mortais de um homem imaturo. If you’ve looked up his past and found out that he was never able to maintain any kind of healthy relationship, especially a romantic relationship, it’s definite… You’re dealing with um gajo emocionalmente imaturo.
And no, don’t even think that you’ll be the one to change him and obrigá-lo a comprometer-se. If all those people and women before you didn’t succeed, you probably won’t either.
You’ll fail because he doesn’t even want to change. He likes his way of life, and he doesn’t see a problem with it.
You’ll only waste your time and fall in love with him deeper, making your pain bigger once you become aware that you don’t have a future with that man.
O que causa a falta de maturidade?
In my opinion, life circumstances are one of the biggest factors when it comes to emotional maturity and growth. If someone has had a hard time in life, especially in their love life, it’ll most definitely reflect in their emotional growth.
They’ll likely have questões de empenhamento e problemas de autoestima, o que resultará num elevado nível de imaturidade.
Another factor is, of course, a person’s character and nature. Some people have childish personalities that don’t allow them to become emotionally mature.
Os traumas de infância são também um fator importante no crescimento emocional.
If someone was emotionally neglected as a child, they’ll probably lack emotional maturity when they grow up. If parents don’t teach their children how to be emotionally mature, it’ll be difficult for them to understand it themselves later on in their lives.
Como é que um homem maduro se comporta?
It’s really not difficult to recognize a man with a high maturity level. The first thing (and probably the most important) you’ll notice is that you can always have a serious conversation with them.
They don’t have commitment issues. If they like a woman, they’ll be direct about it and try hard to win her over.
Os homens emocionalmente maduros apoiam sempre as suas palavras e nunca deixam de cumprir as suas promessas. It’s all because they know the importance of it and how breaking their word and promises can hurt someone they care about.
Mature people also pay a great deal of attention to their self-care, mental health, and self-esteem. They’re perfectly aware of their qualities and flaws, but they never allow their insecurities and imperfections to affect any aspect of their lives.
A partir de que idade é que os homens amadurecem emocionalmente?
Bem, a maioria dos estudos demonstrou que os homens se tornam mental e emocionalmente maduros aos 43 anos. Provavelmente acontece uma vez passam por uma crise de meia-idade porque esse período deixa mudanças significativas num homem.
However, my opinion is that we shouldn’t have such a general outlook on it all. Every human being is different in their own way – every man has a different nature and personality.
O que eu quero dizer é que depende muito do homem. Devido à sua natureza e a algumas circunstâncias da vida, alguns rapazes amadurecem na casa dos 20 anos. Alguns deles só amadurecem realmente depois da crise da meia-idade, e há alguns que, infelizmente, nunca vão crescer.
Para terminar
I hope you didn’t recognize these 7 deadly signs of an immature man in your partner. On the other hand, if you did, my relationship advice is that you should end your relationship ASAP.
It’s not your job to help someone grow up, and you shouldn’t waste your precious time on an immature guy who doesn’t even want to grow up.
You can try to deceive yourself as much as you want, but sooner or later, you’ll understand that you can’t have a healthy adult relationship with an immature person. Deixá-lo, and save yourself from heartbreak before it’s too late.
