Quando é que é necessário cortar o contacto com as pessoas? ( + 7 dicas para o fazer)

Quando se trata de cortar as pessoas, saber quando desempenha um papel importante no seu bem-estar e na qualidade geral da sua vida.

Quer se trate de um familiar, de um amigo próximo ou de qualquer ser humano que destrua continuamente a sua saúde mental, a toxicidade nunca deve ser tolerada.

Today, you’re going to figure out which pessoas tóxicas precisam de ir.

As someone who was forced to cut people out of her life on many occasions, I can honestly say that this will be one of the most life-changing decisions you’ll ever make.

No início, a ideia de um rutura com essa pessoa tóxica pode parecer assustador. What if they keep pestering you? What if they can’t accept no for an answer? What if you regret it?

Deixem-me dizer-vos uma coisa: Tudo isso são pensamentos induzidos pelo medo. They’re perfectly normal, I promise.

To cut people off is serious business. But if this is something you’re legitimately considering, it must mean that you’ve reached your boiling point.

There have to be healthy boundaries to what people are allowed to do to do you. If you feel that someone has crossed them, it’s time to take action.

It doesn’t matter if it’s your high-school sweetheart. It doesn’t matter if it’s a long-time melhor amigo. When you can’t be your true self, and your wellness is in jeopardy, cutting people off is the only solution.

There are types of people who’ll ALWAYS imply that tu‘re the problem. But that’s okay! You don’t want them in your social circle anyway.

If you check off the boxes below, it’s high time to put your own life first and show these people the door.

Quando é que cortar as pessoas é a coisa certa a fazer?

If any of the examples below ring a bell, it’s time to take control of your life and happiness. Take care of your mental health by disposing of anyone making you feel like this:

Quando já não consegues ser o teu verdadeiro eu ao pé deles

Esta é a primeira bandeira vermelha que tem de reconhecer. Quer se trate de um membro da família que está sempre a fazer com que se sinta inadequado ou de um amigo próximo em cuja presença tem constantemente de colocar uma máscara, já chega.

You can’t go through life pretending to be someone you’re not. You can’t keep people around who weigh you down.

Quando sentir uma pressão insuportável para desempenhar um papel só para satisfazer outra pessoa, pergunte a si próprio por quanto tempo.

When will you realize that if you can’t show your true self around a person, they’re not (and never will be) good for you?

Quando estar na sua companhia se torna desgastante e exaustivo

Lately, you’ve been coming to terms with the fact that this person keeps draining you of all your energy.

Estar com eles já não nos faz sentir felizes. Pelo contrário, a sua presença é desgastante e não se lembra da última vez que se sentiu confortável ao pé deles.

O que acabei de descrever NÃO é um reflexo de um relação saudável. Isto é coisa de um indivíduo tóxico cujo veneno o está a arruinar.

Here’s an idea: Stop letting them!

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Quando afectam negativamente a sua autoestima

They never make you feel good about yourself, and when you’re around them, you don’t feel supported. In fact, you never feel worse about yourself than when you’re in their company.

There are people out there who feed on others’ insecurity and lack of self-confidence. This is mostly because they don’t have any themselves, and this makes them feel empowered.

I’ve had people in my life in whose company I always felt at my worst. I’d feel ignorant, incapable, unworthy, and like I couldn’t do or say anything right.

This person was someone I’d known since high school. Today, we’re completely out of touch, and I don’t miss them one bit.

While I don’t wish harm on anyone, there’s no denying that losing certain people makes room for so much air.

Don’t be afraid to take that step. Create distance in your mind and then do it in real life too. Only after letting them go will you realize how much better life is in their absence.

Quando não oferecem nada além de ingratidão e negatividade

As pessoas negativas são as piores. Claro, todos nós temos os nossos dias maus, mas temos de ser capazes de encontrar alguns positividade. Caso contrário, torna-se intoxicantemente mau para todos.

If this sounds familiar, and there’s someone in your life whose ungratefulness and negative attitude weigh you down, step away from them and see how it feels.

My bet is, you’ll experience instant relief. Your mood will improve, your zest for life will return, and you’ll feel a gazillion times better about life. Sometimes, it’s THAT simple.

Quando nos desencorajam em vez de nos encorajarem

Nas relações românticas, bem como em qualquer outra relação significativa da sua vida, o apoio e o encorajamento são vitais.

When you don’t have that, there’s nothing the relationship can thrive on. Two people who love each other should always push the other one to reach their full potential.

Esperar secretamente que o seu ente querido falhe é uma caraterística tóxica que permite que a outra pessoa se sinta melhor do que você.

Don’t let anyone around you dissuade you from your dreams. You deserve someone in your corner who’ll cheer you on, not limit your ambitions and potential.

When you realize that you’re the worst version of yourself around them

It’s time to say goodbye the moment you start feeling like their toxicity is rubbing off on you. Don’t give them the satisfaction of knowing that you’ve fallen under their spell.

Em vez disso, retire-se da equação. No momento em que deixar de se sentir você mesmo, tome medidas e ponha um fim a isso.

Estas pessoas são hábeis em fazer os outros descerem ao seu nível. Isso acontece gradualmente, sem que se dê por isso no início. É por isso que deve confiar sempre no seu instinto.

Quando algo começar a parecer estranho, acredite e resista. Simples assim!

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When you can’t depend on them for ANYTHING

A fiabilidade é muito importante. Merecemos ter à nossa volta pessoas que estejam lá para nos levantarem quando cairmos.

When you think about it, it’s not that much to ask for. You’re always there to lend a helping hand to a loved one in need.

When you promise to do something, you do it. When you’re asked for a favor, you do it, no questions asked. So why would you accept anything less when it comes to you?

If there are people in your life who flake on you, give you false promises, and NEVER show up for you, cut them off. They’ll never be what you need them to be.

Um guia sobre como excluir pessoas da sua vida

Cortar relações com as pessoas requer uma cabeça limpa, uma mente forte e perseverança. Lembre-se, esta é uma decisão de auto-cuidado que é necessária para o seu crescimento pessoal e felicidade.

Aceitar que o distanciamento das pessoas tóxicas é um processo gradual

Tal como uma relação saudável leva tempo a crescer e a tornar-se naquilo que precisa de ser, uma relação tóxica leva tempo a dissolver-se completamente.

Não por culpa sua, claro. Os indivíduos tóxicos são simplesmente demasiado cheios de si para o deixarem ir sem mais nem menos.

Don’t let this stop you from doing the right thing. Stay away from them and create as much distance as you need. Let them plead, beg, and fill your head with nonsense.

Over time, they’ll bore themselves to death, and you’ll finally be able to cut the cord for good.

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Agir de acordo com o que VOCÊ sente, não com o que tentam fazer-lhe sentir

A lot of times, toxic people will attempt to make you feel like you’re at fault for cutting them off. Don’t fall for it.

Conhece-se a si próprio. Sabe o que o seu instinto lhe está a dizer. Faz o que te parece certo, não o que te tentam convencer que é certo.

Esta separação (seja ela de que tipo for) é exatamente o que precisa para começar a sentir-se de novo você mesmo.

Don’t attempt to logically level with them (they’ll NEVER see your point)

Este tipo de pessoas nunca vai perceber o seu ponto de vista (nem querem perceber). A única coisa que lhes interessa é conseguir o que querem e ignorá-lo no processo.

You can try to make them understand you and your feelings all you want, but it’s a futile battle. Don’t fight it.

Instead, be short and clear about how you intend to proceed, and don’t expect them to be rational about it. They’re far too arrogant and self-important for that.

Fazer num local público (para uma sensação de segurança e menos drama)

Terminar um relação tóxica of any kind is always going to be exhausting. While it’s 100% what you need to do, it’s still going to take time and energy out of you.

My advice – do it somewhere public. The reasoning is quite simple, less chance of drama and to provide a sense of safety for you.

Mesmo que comecem a agir de forma excessivamente agressiva, pode sempre levantar-se e ir-se embora. Melhor ainda, ligue a um amigo para o vir buscar e vá fazer qualquer coisa para esquecer esta confusão.

Bloqueie-os em todas as suas contas de redes sociais

Bloqueando-os em redes sociais is every bit as important as blocking them in real life. Resort to ghosting if need be, but don’t let them in your life in any capacity.

Certifique-se de que não o podem contactar, bloqueando-os sempre que possível.

It’ll give you much-needed peace of mind, plus it’s easier getting over someone without them constantly blowing up your phone.

You’re just one click away from scrolling down your feed without worrying whether their name will pop up and ruin your day.

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Don’t fall into their trap and start arguing

They will try to goad you into arguing. DON’T fall for it. A lot of people who are faced with their bad actions will stoop so low and try to make you join them.

This is their final attempt to drag you down with them. Keep a level head and believe in what you’re doing. There’s no explaining something to a person who’s adamant not to get it.

Voltar a cair na toxicidade será tentador e, para o evitar, é necessário reafirmar os seus limites saudáveis e cortar todos os laços com ele.

When you’ve said all you have to say, get up and leave knowing you did the right thing.

Escrever todas as vantagens de os perder para evitar que se aproximem

This is something I did, and I couldn’t recommend it more. For the sake of being brutally honest, I have to say that cutting someone out of your life is in no way easy.

At the end of the day, you’re only human, and guess what? You vontade Sinto emoções contraditórias em relação a este assunto.

This doesn’t mean that your decision wasn’t justified (it 100% was), but perder alguémA pessoa, por mais tóxica que seja, deixa um vazio na sua vida com o qual tem de aprender a viver.

É por isso que é tão importante escrever de que forma o facto de os ter cortado melhorou a sua vida! Ajudar-te-á a manteres-te no caminho certo quando sentires vontade de te aproximares.

It’ll remind you of all the times they sucked the energy right out of you. And it’ll be your saving grace on the days when you start questioning your decision.

Eventually, you’ll realize how liberated and profoundly happy you are without them. Until then, this move will keep you sane.

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20 citações de "cortar as pessoas" para o ajudar a livrar-se do drama

Estas citações épicas sobre o corte de relações com pessoas tóxicas resumem na perfeição a razão pela qual cortar relações com pessoas más é uma cura e muito mais do que necessário.

1. “Save your skin from the corrosive acids from the mouths of toxic people. Someone who just helped you to speak evil about another person can later help another person to speak evil about you.”―Israelmore Ayivor

2. “Always remember that you were once alone, and the crowd you see in your life today are just as unnecessary as when you were alone.”―Michael Bassey Johnson

3. “Cutting people out of your life doesn’t mean you hate them, it simply means you respect yourself. Not everyone is meant to stay.”―Unknown

4. “Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”―John Mark Green

5. “People appear like angels until you hear them speak. You must not rush to judge people by the color of their cloaks, but by the content of their words!”―Israelmore Ayivor

6. “No matter how valuable you are and your ideas, fools will certainly play both of you down, so exclude yourselves from the inflammatory environs of fools.”―Michael Bassey Johnson

7. “Don’t let toxic people infect you with the fear of giving and receiving one of the most powerful forces in this world… LOVE!”―Yvonne Pierre

8. “It’s no good to physically distance yourself from someone in your life if you’re just gonna let them live in your mind.”―Curtis Tyrone Jones

9. “Toxic people choose to judge you and treat you badly, based on their assumptions and perceptions they have about you, not based on what you did or said. You will defend yourself to people whom you will never be right. It is not what you did, but it is what they think of you.”―De philosopher DJ Kyos

10. “The idea is quite simple, stay a light year away from people who make you feel less about yourself.”―Mohith Agadi

11. “I found peace of mind when I walked away from small fights not worth fighting. I stopped fighting for people who gossiped about me. I stopped fighting for those who didn’t respect me. I quit worrying about those who wouldn’t value me for being me.”―Dana Arcuri

12. “How you choose to feel today should not be dependent on others.”―Anthon St. Maarten

13. “Don’t confuse ‘familiar’ with ‘acceptable.’ Toxic relationships can fool you like that.”―Steve Maraboli

14. “The best emotional relief is not venting our problems; that only fuels the pain. It is focusing on something else, taking control of our lives and staying away from people that keep reminding us about our problems.”―Rodolfo Peon

15. “We don’t get to choose our family, but we can choose our friends. With courage, we can weed out narcissistic people. We can focus on those who do appreciate us, love us, and treat us with respect.”―Dana Arcuri

16. “I am worth more than these excuses. I am worth more than this inconsistent, unhealthy, disappointing dynamic. I am worthy of finding someone that is never going to allow us to settle into this toxic, distorted version of love.”―Liz Newman

17. “If you’ve ever met an energy vampire (and you probably have), you’ll get the distinct feeling that this person has an intense need to prey off the vitality of others. There is a kind of acute neediness present in energy vampires which can be quite overwhelming and depleting to those they come in contact with.”―Mateo Sol

18. “If you are going to hide and you will not stand against the work of the bad people, you have given them an endorsement.”―Israelmore Ayivor

19. “May you reach that level within, where you no longer allow your past or people with toxic intentions to negatively affect or condition you.”―Lalah Delia

20. “You will meet a lot of people in your life; some will laugh with you, others will laugh at you; some will love to clean your mess, others will love to mess you up! Love all, but choose carefully the one who stays close to you forever!”―Israelmore Ayivor

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Nunca se sinta culpado por cortar com pessoas tóxicas

As long as there are people in your life whose presence ruins your self-worth, you’ll never be able to breathe.

NUNCA te deves sentir mal por te defenderes e por colocares as tuas necessidades em primeiro lugar. Esta é sempre a decisão correcta.

Durante algum tempo, este foi um comprimido difícil de engolir para mim. Estava sempre a questionar todos os meus passos e a pensar se o que sentia era de alguma forma auto-infligido. Estava a ser fraca e a ter medo de estar sozinha.

Here’s the thing about loneliness, though: Getting rid of bad people will NEVER fazer-nos sentir sozinhos. Muito pelo contrário, só irá aumentar a sua vida.

Cut people out when that feels like the only thing left to do. You don’t owe them a thing. Be strong and assertive, and never let your fears control you. Don’t be a bystander in the story of your life.

Don’t think about them, and never wonder how they’re doing. Why would you? They never thought about you, and they most certainly aren’t now.

When you realize how toxic people erode your life, it’ll become harder to allow them in.

With time, you’ll start fiercely protecting your peace, and that will result in your social circle becoming a safe haven.

You’ll finally be able to ser felizFaça o que for melhor para si e respire! Tudo o que tens de fazer é decidir-te.

Value yourself over someone else’s dysfunction, and let this be a year where prioritizing your happiness trumps ALL else.

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