Dê-lhe 3 dias - A magia por detrás deste poderoso conselho para encontros

Okay, I’m sure that almost each and every one of us has heard of the famous relationship advice ‘give him 3 days’ at least once. On the other hand, I am also sure that many of us aren’t sure what it means or how it can affect our relationships.

Percebo porque a primeira vez que a ouvi, também achei que era um disparate. Except it wasn’t nonsense but the best decision I’ve ever made because thanks to this piece of conselhos para encontros, I’m still with my man, and we’ve never been happier.

And that’s why my mission today is to help you understand and embrace this 3-day rule. So, let’s get down to business and help you save yourself or your relationship.

O que é a regra dos 3 dias sem contacto?

A regra dos 3 dias é um simples conselho de namoro que tem ajudado muitas mulheres salvar as suas relações. Basicamente, isto significa que deve dê espaço ao seu homem and time… that you should deixá-lo em paz durante 3 dias.

And ‘nenhum contacto’ means exactly that: NO phone calls and NO text messages. It’s as simple as that.

Yes, I know that you’ll all say now that it’s easier said than done, but believe me, it’s not as heartbreaking as you think. If you use those 3 days wisely, it’ll help your relationship flourish again.

3 razões para lhe dar 3 dias

If you still aren’t convinced that you should give him 3 days, here are 3 reasons that will definitely change your mind.

1. He’ll enjoy having his own space

O que é que acha? Porque é que ele precisa de espaço em primeiro lugar? Of course, it’s because he wants to do things he likes and spend time with his best friends.

It’s not like he’ll create a Tinder profile and start seeing/chatting with other girls. He’ll just dedicate that time to his interests in life, and maybe he’ll even find a new hobby.

He’ll enjoy that sense of freedom and individuality, and he’ll only appreciate you even more for it. Por outras palavras, dar-lhe o espaço vai melhorar a vossa relação de todas as formas possíveis.

2. It’ll give him time to sort out his thoughts and emotions

Por vezes, um homem só precisa de espaço para entrar em contacto com as suas emoções. If he isn’t completely sure how he feels about you, this alone time will help him put his emotions in order.

Also, if he’s been struggling with personal issues, spending some time alone may help him find a way to solve those. In both cases, he and your relationship may benefit from the 3-day nenhum contacto período.

3. He’ll have time to figure out which way he wants your relationship to go

If you’ve had disagreements, if your man has started distancing himself, this alone time will also give him the opportunity to finally decide whether he wants you to be a part of his life or not.

Talvez ele ama-te mesmo mas é medo do compromisso and doesn’t want to engage in a relação séria demasiado cedo. Simplificando, o futuro da vossa relação reside na regra dos 3 dias.

5 benefícios da regra dos 3 dias sem contacto

Existem muitos benefícios deste fantástico conselho para encontros, and you’ll find the most important ones below.

1. You’ll know for sure how he feels about you

Se ele estender a mão no quarto dia e desejar-lhe um bom dia ou simplesmente lhe diz que sente muito a sua falta, então as coisas são bastante claras: ele ama-te sinceramente and doesn’t want to lose you.

On the other hand, if he doesn’t reach out and decides to prolong the no contact period, it’ll be a clear sign of how much (actually, little) he cares for you.

2. It may make him understand that he can’t live without you (or it may not)

Just last night, my boyfriend said that he’ll always be thankful for those 3 days we were ‘separated’ because it was during that time that he understood that he can’t and doesn’t want to live without me.

A verdade é que a regra dos 3 dias é uma daquelas relação de confiança momentos.

If your man understands that you’re the only woman he loves and wants in his life after those 3 days, it’ll make you the happiest woman alive.

On the other hand, if your man decides to give up on you, it’s still a good thing because you’ll finally know the truth. It’ll accelerate your process of accepting the truth and seguir em frente.

3. Evita que pareça desesperado

We’re all different human beings, and we all struggle with inseguranças. They’re simply a part of us, and no matter how confident someone is, there will always be something about them they won’t be confident about.

Unfortunately, sometimes those insecurities make us believe that we’re indigno de amor, and we simply aren’t able to shake them off even when we’re in a relação saudável com outra pessoa.

That’s why we become pegajoso, dependent, and desperate. To avoid that, give him 3 days and show him that you’re perfectly aware of your worth and aren’t afraid to give both him and yourself some space.

4. A oportunidade de redefinir a vossa relação

Passar estes dias separados dar-vos-á tempo para reflectirem sobre os vossos sentimentos e tomarem uma decisão sobre o futuro da vossa relação.

Maybe you’ll both want to slow things down or, on the contrary, maybe you’ll want to take your relationship to the next level. That’s actually irrelevant, but the important thing is that you find a common language and agree on a decision that will really be the best for you and your relationship.

5. It’ll help you understand that some things are or are not meant to be

If you believe in destiny, then you already know that some things are meant to happen… that some people are meant to be together.

If your man comes back after the no contact period, it’ll be a sign that he’s your soulmate and the right one for you. On the flip side, if he doesn’t come back, you’ll know that he wasn’t your destiny and that there is still someone out there, a man who is meant to stay in your life forever.

5 maneiras de lidar com o período de 3 dias sem contacto

Now, the question that probably intrigues you the most is ‘how to deal with the 3-day no contact rule,’ right? Well, don’t worry because I’ve got you covered here too.

1. Concentrar-se na sua própria vida

Utilize este tempo para refletir sobre a sua própria vida. Está feliz e satisfeito com a forma como a sua vida se apresenta atualmente?

Se não for, então faça algo para mudar isso. The fact is, you’ll never truly be happy with another human being as long as you aren’t happy and satisfied with yourself.

2. Passar tempo com os amigos

Don’t wait for a phone call or text back. Sitting at home and waiting for him to reach out to you won’t bring you any good. It won’t change anything, but it may harm your mental health.

Por isso, levanta-te da cama, veste uma roupa bonita e sai com os teus amigos. You’re in a situation where you desperately need the so-called ‘chilling with besties’ therapy.

Your best friends won’t allow you to keep worrying about whether he’ll come back or not. They’ll do everything they can to make you smile, and that’s something you need most right now: a reason to smile and be happy.

3. Tratar-se a si próprio

Guardar o telemóvel. Pára de verificar o telemóvel Pontuação do Snapchat and stop stalking him on social media in general. Don’t think about what the next day will bring, and just try to focus on yourself for a change.

Spoil yourself. Treat yourself to a relaxing wellness day at the spa. Go shopping. Do something you’ve wanted to do for a long time but were never able to find time to do. Just do something nice for yourself… Keep your mind occupied and your soul happy.

4. Reconsiderem a vossa relação

This is especially important if you’re in uma relação à distância. If you see that your man has been distancing himself for a lot of time and can’t even remember the last time he said that he loves you, this is a good time to reassess your relationship.

If you’re aware that it’s not going anywhere, that a vossa relação é profundamente insalubre, you should finish it before it’s too late. Poupe-se a desgostos desnecessários, concentre-se na sua cura e siga em frente.

5. Entrar em contacto com os seus próprios sentimentos

Giving your man space doesn’t mean that he’s the only one who should think about his emotions. É também nesta altura que deve falar consigo próprio e concentrar-se nos seus próprios sentimentos.

Dig deep and try to understand everything that’s going on in your heart. Be honest with yourself… Are you still as in love with your man as you were on your very primeiro encontro? Ele faz-te verdadeiramente feliz? É realmente o homem com quem se imagina no futuro?

A verdade é que os nossos sentimentos podem mudar, e podemos não nos aperceber disso durante muito tempo. Continuamos a viver uma mentira e a fingir que está tudo bem.

Será que a ausência de contacto o fará seguir em frente?

Depende muito. Se o teu homem ama-te verdadeiramente, then this no contact period won’t make him give up on you. He’ll fight and keep fighting for you, no matter how much you persist with nenhum contacto.

On the flip side, if he doesn’t love you enough, the fact is that he won’t wait for you for too long. Portanto, sim, neste caso, a regra de não contacto pode fazer com que ele acabe de vez consigo e siga em frente.

Outra possibilidade é que o seu homem comece a pensar que você seguiu em frente com a sua própria vida por causa da ausência de contacto, o que pode levá-lo a pensar em seguir em frente.

However, the bottom line is that he won’t give up on you easily if his feelings for you are strong and honest.

Reflexões finais

So, what are your thoughts about the ‘give him 3 days’ relationship advice? I honestly believe that it can only positively impact you and your relationship.

After all, you know what they say… Se amas alguém, deixa-o ir. If they love you, they’ll come back, and if they don’t… Well, you’ll finally be free to shift the love you feel for them towards yourself.

A conclusão é que estes conselhos sobre encontros só o podem beneficiar. With it, you’ll finally know exactly where you stand with your guy.