10 maneiras de conseguir a conclusão de que precisa depois de uma separação

Closure is important. Extremely important. You can’t proceed in your life without getting closure on your past relationship, because it will drag out into every relationship that comes afterward.

Além disso, o flashbacks emocionais you’ll continue getting aren’t going to serve anyone, especially not you.

Those emotions will break you and you’ll want to get back with your ex even though you know that it’s the worst thing that can happen to you.

Por todas estas razões, a conclusão do processo é crucial para o seu futuro.

Mas como é que se faz isso?

How do you simply get closure on someone who meant the world to you? You were convinced that you were going to stay together for the rest of your lives, so what’s happening now isn’t what you planned and it’s breaking you apart. Don’t fear, I’m here to help you.

1. Livra-te das coisas que te fazem lembrar dele

Deite tudo no lixo! Bem, não é bem para o lixo, mas se tiveres muitos brinquedos dele, como ursinhos de peluche, etc., podes doá-los a pessoas menos afortunadas do que tu.

Throw away those photos even though it hurts like hell, but do it. Do it all so you can finally move on in life. You don’t need those mugs and you don’t need to hold on to his hoodies.

2. Nenhum contacto

We’ve all been there; even if we break up with someone, we tend to continue talking to them because it’s hard to tell them goodbye for good.

Mas cortar o contacto between you two helps you to stop thinking about him. In the beginning, it’ll seem like there’s no way you will ever be able to not text him back but believe me, it’s going to be worth it.

I would go as far as to tell you to delete his number and block him on all social media that exists, just so he can’t get back to you. You’re better off without him anyways.

3. Estabelecer limites

It’s very important to set clear boundaries when you break up with someone. If you find yourself at the same party as him, don’t just go up to him to talk but rather ignore him completely.

Se ele se aproximar de si, pode responder educadamente às suas perguntas sem mostrar qualquer tipo de interesse pela sua vida. Y

ou need to make a good impression so he’s able to see what he’s lost but also to keep your own distance from him.

He doesn’t deserve to hear your voice again, so don’t even bother talking to him.

4. Escrever-lhe uma carta

Wait, before you start thinking that I’m crazy, let me tell you that you don’t need para lhe enviar esta carta. It’s all about making a little letting go ritual.

Escreva todas as coisas que o aborrecem e todas as recordações que gostaria de esquecer. Escreva tudo.

When you’re done with it, you can either burn it or seal it in an envelope and read it once again when you think that the time is right.

5. Exprimir as suas emoções através da arte ou do exercício

I don’t know whether you’re an artsy person or not but art can help you a lot.

It’s sadness that makes an artist and not the other way around and you now have all this time on your hands to dedicate to starting a new hobby.

Also, if you’re not interested in art, you can go to the gym! Hitting a punching bag is a really good release for negative emotions. Go for it!

6. Ter uma rotina de auto-cuidado

Talvez todas as manhãs ou todas as noites, ou pelo menos uma vez por semana, dê a si próprio tempo para cuidar de si próprio.

It doesn’t have to be a long routine but just enough to make you feel refreshed and in love with yourself.

Take a bubble bath. Take a walk outside. Put on a face mask and read a book. It’s all about you now.

7. Falar sobre o assunto

Find some friends or family members who can help you cope with this situation that you’re in.

Even if it means talking about him for hours, you’ll feel refreshed after it. Even if it means that you’re going to cry, don’t hold back.

Don’t hold it all inside you because otherwise you are going to explode at one point or another.

Se necessário, pode também procurar ajuda profissional junto de um terapeuta, que o pode ajudar imenso.

8. Foco no futuro

Your past is in the past. You can’t change it, as much as you want to, and this is the right time to start anew.

Make new plans and make sure to follow them through. Focus on all those goals you want to achieve and don’t look back.

You’re becoming a better version of yourself each day. Focus on that.

Há-de entrar alguém na tua vida que te ame, te apoie e te trate bem.

9. Perdoe o seu ex e a si próprio

I’m not crazy. You just can’t really move on until you realize that forgiveness is necessary.

You need to forgive your own mistakes, realize that you have become smarter and better. Your partner’s mistakes are also in the past and you’re not responsible for his actions.

Be aware that you have to let go of your relationship for good because you simply weren’t meant to be with one another.

10. Ir de férias

Ir de férias para outra cidade ou localidade significa deixar o local onde estava a sair com o seu ex e significa fugir até estar totalmente recuperado e curado.

Vá lá e dê-se a esse luxo, porque pode. Porque o mereces.