Fundamentos de uma relação gratificante
There are a few things that you can do to make your relationship with your significant other not only last but feel secure and rewarding. Many times, things get overwhelmingly busy and we’re so focused on other aspects of our lives that it becomes difficult to center our thoughts on the things that truly matter. Temos de investir na nossa relação, no entanto, e fazer com que a pessoa que amamos se sinta amada. Aqui estão alguns dos fundamentos e trampolins de uma parceria saudável e significativa.
Reforço positivo. Os estudos demonstraram que os casais felizes recorrem ao reforço positivo, enquanto as uniões infelizes se centram frequentemente no castigo. Aqueles que reforçam o seu estatuto concordando, rindo, aprovando, sorrindo e fornecendo outras formas de feedback positivo tendem a ter laços mais fortes. Tal como sugere a lei da atração, o semelhante atrai o semelhante.Se mantiverem vibrações positivas na vossa parceria, é mais provável que recebam positividade em troca. Se estiver demasiado concentrado na desconfiança e em manter-se reservado, é provável que o seu parceiro sinta essa energia e lhe ofereça o mesmo em troca.
Atenção. We all need to know that we’re wanted, desired, and loved by our partner. It’s human nature. So, we need to devote sufficient attention to the union in order for it to last. Monogamy isn’t easy, and this is why more than half of all marriages end in divorce. Studies have actually suggested that it is statistically more likely for partners to cheat on each other than to remain faithful. That’s the sad reality of the world we live in. And, much of the desire to step outside the partnership stems from lack of attention. It is important to show the relationship is worth your while. Of course, there are a million other important obligations to tend to on a daily basis but, your relationship has to be a top priority. Make sure you’re not only offering attention, but you are receiving it as well. As relações não são unilaterais e ambos os membros têm de estar ativamente empenhados em fazê-las funcionar.
Toque físico. It’s a proven fact—we all need touch. It is important to be affectionate and to show your feelings in a physical way. Doing so will increase the level of attraction between you two, which must be evident for a relationship to last. Pequenos gestos, como dar a mão ou um abraço carinhoso, podem ser muito úteis.
O perdão. We’re all human and we’re bound to make mistakes. Ever hear the saying, ‘Go ahead and judge me—just remember to stay perfect the rest of your life’? It’s because it’s unfair to hold anyone else to a standard we ourselves will never achieve. We wouldn’t want our partner to criticize everything we do and hold a grudge if we make a mistake. So, we too need to be willing to forgive. Nada fará com que uma relação fracasse mais depressa do que castigar com rancor. Plus, when you refuse to forgive, you’re not just hurting the other person but you’re hurting yourself the most. Harboring feelings of ill-will and resentment will take a toll on your health. You must learn to forgive others in order to usher out any negativity and clear the path to lasting happiness.
O inesperado. Grande parte das nossas vidas baseia-se na rotina. Temos responsabilidades diárias em torno das quais giram os nossos horários e, a partir do momento em que acordamos, temos normalmente uma noção geral do rumo que o dia nos vai dar. Por isso, infundir um pouco de espontaneidade numa parceria e agitar um pouco as coisas pode ser divertido. We’ve all been told to ‘expect the unexpected’ but we rarely do. You don’t have to go on a spending spree and buy lavish gifts that are sure to wow your significant other. Something as simple as offering to take care of a task that is typically on the other person’s list can make your bond grow stronger. This is a little token of appreciation and gratitude that will truly go a long way.
While we may believe we all intuitively have what it takes to make a relationship work, at the end of the day actions speak louder than words—saying and doing are two completely different things. Don’t just tell your partner how much they mean to you, show them. Work each day to make your union last.
