Os maiores cobardes são os homens que partem sem uma palavra

Amongst the first words we’re taught to speak are ‘hello’ and ‘goodbye’ and people remember to say hello when they enter your life, but they somehow forget to say goodbye on their way out.

Do you know what happens when someone leaves your life without saying goodbye? Well, if you’ve ever been left this way, then you’ll know.

When someone leaves without a goodbye, you’re bound to get broken.

Maybe the leaving part doesn’t even hurt as much as knowing that someone doesn’t want to be with you anymore and that they didn’t have the decency to say what went wrong to your face.

And then you’re left your whole life wondering o que correu mal.

Quando as pessoas entram na nossa vida pela primeira vez, cumprimentam-nos com um olá muito confiante.

O seu olá é tão forte e tão arrebatador que dá a impressão de que essa pessoa veio para ficar.

Through the whole time you spend together, they make sure you’re convinced how pure their love is and that they will do anything for you.

E depois, quando lhes ocorre que chegou a altura de acabar a história, vão-se embora sem uma palavra. Vão-se embora como os maiores cobardes que são.

As pessoas que se vão embora sem dizer uma palavra são os maiores cobardes deste mundo.

When someone walks out of your life without a word, especially if that someone was a person who promised to stay, you can’t help but wonder what went wrong.

Quando alguém nos deixa sem nos dar um adeus adequado, apesar de sabermos que não é assim, ficamos lá à espera de ser encerrado.

Fica-se lá com uma mão-cheia de perguntas que nunca terão resposta.

And nothing haunts us more than the questions we have that we can’t get answers to.

Quando as pessoas partem sem dizer uma palavra, continuam à espera de um desfecho e continuam a esperar que um dia a explicação do porquê do fim das coisas chegue até elas.

But the worst part of it is these two questions: “Can I move on?” and “What if he comes back?”

“Can I move on?” – You’re left wondering if you’re allowed to continue with your life.

You don’t want to be the bad one in this story, you don’t want to let the love go so easily and you don’t want to be the one who ended it, because moving on would mean you’ve made your peace with not having him and you don’t feel ready for that just yet.

“But what if he comes back?” – The moment someone new walks into your life, you wonder if it’s the right thing to engage in a new story when the old one didn’t end.

Há a possibilidade de ele voltar e depois? Então, recua-se imediatamente.

You feel like you’re the cheater in the story because the end was never said out loud.

And you miss him so much because you’re à espera de alguém que tenha seguido em frente no momento em que ele saiu da tua vida.

A velha história terminou há muito tempo, independentemente de ter tido ou não o seu último adeus.

To him it ended, it’s you who keeps dragging behind and not giving yourself a chance to move on.

You didn’t get the closure you needed and you’re left hanging. It’s  ugly and it hurts and it’s full of insecurities and you didn’t deserve to be left without a goodbye, but you can’t change it.

You shouldn’t be hitting the wall hoping the door to your closure will appear all of a sudden.

If he had the courage to say hello to you, he should’ve had the courage to say goodbye as well.

You don’t show courage by jumping off a cliff or driving a car at the maximum speed.

You show courage by looking the person you promised love to straight in the eye and saying whatever it is that you have to say. You look the person in the eye and you say you’re leaving.

You explain why things are not working out and you make sure you’re firm in your decision. You don’t send mixed signals.

There is no getting back together, there are no ‘what ifs’, there is no giving false hope that maybe the tables might turn in the future.

Reúne a coragem de se afastar decentemente e de dar um fecho decente à história. Tudo o resto é apenas uma entrega de galinha.

Então, quando um homem é um cobarde, when he leaves without a single word, when he can’t give you what you need, be the bigger person than him. Instead of being afraid to move on, instead of following the path that coward, the one who left without a word, trumped for you, be the one to give the final closure to the story.

Em vez de ter medo de seguir em frente, em vez de esperar, aceite que as coisas entre vocês dois acabaram.

Em vez de fugir de aceitar a verdade, seja o corajoso desta história e permita-se não esperar mais.

Seja ele a despedir-se de ambos e a seguir em frente com a sua vida.

Será a melhor vingança para aquele que partiu sem uma palavra e será a melhor coisa que alguma vez fez por si próprio.