Los mayores cobardes son los hombres que se van sin decir una palabra

Amongst the first words we’re taught to speak are ‘hello’ and ‘goodbye’ and people remember to say hello when they enter your life, but they somehow forget to say goodbye on their way out.

Do you know what happens when someone leaves your life without saying goodbye? Well, if you’ve ever been left this way, then you’ll know.

When someone leaves without a goodbye, you’re bound to get broken.

Maybe the leaving part doesn’t even hurt as much as knowing that someone doesn’t want to be with you anymore and that they didn’t have the decency to say what went wrong to your face.

And then you’re left your whole life wondering qué salió mal.

Cuando las personas entran por primera vez en tu vida, te saludan con un hola muy confiado.

Su saludo es tan fuerte y tan impresionante que da la impresión de que esa persona ha venido para quedarse.

Through the whole time you spend together, they make sure you’re convinced how pure their love is and that they will do anything for you.

Y luego, cuando se les ocurre que ha llegado el momento de poner fin a la historia, se van sin decir una palabra. Se van como los mayores cobardes que son.

La gente que se va sin decir una palabra son los mayores cobardes de este mundo.

When someone walks out of your life without a word, especially if that someone was a person who promised to stay, you can’t help but wonder what went wrong.

Cuando alguien te deja sin despedirse como es debido, aunque sabes que no es así, te quedas ahí esperando el cierre.

Te quedas ahí con un puñado de preguntas que nunca tendrán respuesta.

And nothing haunts us more than the questions we have that we can’t get answers to.

Cuando la gente se va sin decir nada, sigue esperando que se cierre el asunto y confía en que algún día le llegue la explicación de por qué las cosas terminaron.

But the worst part of it is these two questions: “Can I move on?” and “What if he comes back?”

“Can I move on?” – You’re left wondering if you’re allowed to continue with your life.

You don’t want to be the bad one in this story, you don’t want to let the love go so easily and you don’t want to be the one who ended it, because moving on would mean you’ve made your peace with not having him and you don’t feel ready for that just yet.

“But what if he comes back?” – The moment someone new walks into your life, you wonder if it’s the right thing to engage in a new story when the old one didn’t end.

Existe la posibilidad de que vuelva, ¿y entonces qué? Así que te retiras al instante.

You feel like you’re the cheater in the story because the end was never said out loud.

And you miss him so much because you’re esperando a alguien que siguió adelante el momento en que salió de tu vida.

La vieja historia terminó hace mucho tiempo, independientemente de si te despediste o no.

To him it ended, it’s you who keeps dragging behind and not giving yourself a chance to move on.

You didn’t get the closure you needed and you’re left hanging. It’s  ugly and it hurts and it’s full of insecurities and you didn’t deserve to be left without a goodbye, but you can’t change it.

You shouldn’t be hitting the wall hoping the door to your closure will appear all of a sudden.

If he had the courage to say hello to you, he should’ve had the courage to say goodbye as well.

You don’t show courage by jumping off a cliff or driving a car at the maximum speed.

You show courage by looking the person you promised love to straight in the eye and saying whatever it is that you have to say. You look the person in the eye and you say you’re leaving.

You explain why things are not working out and you make sure you’re firm in your decision. You don’t send mixed signals.

There is no getting back together, there are no ‘what ifs’, there is no giving false hope that maybe the tables might turn in the future.

Reúnes el valor para irte decentemente y dar un cierre decente a la historia. Todo lo demás es dar el coñazo.

Así que.., cuando un hombre es cobarde, when he leaves without a single word, when he can’t give you what you need, be the bigger person than him. Instead of being afraid to move on, instead of following the path that coward, the one who left without a word, trumped for you, be the one to give the final closure to the story.

En lugar de tener miedo a seguir adelante, en lugar de esperar, acepta que lo vuestro se ha acabado.

En lugar de huir de aceptar la verdad, sé el valiente de esta historia y permítete no esperar más.

Sé tú quien se despida por los dos y sigue adelante con tu vida.

Será la mejor venganza para el que se fue sin decir palabra y será lo mejor que hayas hecho por ti mismo.