Amongst the first words we’re taught to speak are ‘hello’ and ‘goodbye’ and people remember to say hello when they enter your life, but they somehow forget to say goodbye on their way out.
Do you know what happens when someone leaves your life without saying goodbye? Well, if you’ve ever been left this way, then you’ll know.
When someone leaves without a goodbye, you’re bound to get broken.
Maybe the leaving part doesn’t even hurt as much as knowing that someone doesn’t want to be with you anymore and that they didn’t have the decency to say what went wrong to your face.
And then you’re left your whole life wondering what went wrong.
When people first enter your life, they greet you with a very confident hello.
Their hello is so strong and so breathtaking and it makes the impression that this person came to stay.
Through the whole time you spend together, they make sure you’re convinced how pure their love is and that they will do anything for you.
And then, when it occurs to them that the time to end the story has come, they leave without a word. They leave like the biggest cowards that they are.
People who leave without a word are the biggest cowards in this world.
When someone walks out of your life without a word, especially if that someone was a person who promised to stay, you can’t help but wonder what went wrong.
When someone leaves you without giving you a proper goodbye, even though you know better, you stay there waiting for closure.
You stay there with a handful of questions that will never be answered.
And nothing haunts us more than the questions we have that we can’t get answers to.
When people leave without a word, they keep waiting for closure and keep hoping that one day the explanation as to why things ended will find its way to them.
But the worst part of it is these two questions: “Can I move on?” and “What if he comes back?”
“Can I move on?” – You’re left wondering if you’re allowed to continue with your life.
You don’t want to be the bad one in this story, you don’t want to let the love go so easily and you don’t want to be the one who ended it, because moving on would mean you’ve made your peace with not having him and you don’t feel ready for that just yet.
“But what if he comes back?” – The moment someone new walks into your life, you wonder if it’s the right thing to engage in a new story when the old one didn’t end.
There is a possibility that he might come back and what then? So you pull back instantly.
You feel like you’re the cheater in the story because the end was never said out loud.
And you miss him so much because you’re waiting for someone who moved on the moment he left your life.
The old story ended a long time ago, regardless of whether you got your last goodbye or not.
To him it ended, it’s you who keeps dragging behind and not giving yourself a chance to move on.
You didn’t get the closure you needed and you’re left hanging. It’s ugly and it hurts and it’s full of insecurities and you didn’t deserve to be left without a goodbye, but you can’t change it.
You shouldn’t be hitting the wall hoping the door to your closure will appear all of a sudden.
If he had the courage to say hello to you, he should’ve had the courage to say goodbye as well.
You don’t show courage by jumping off a cliff or driving a car at the maximum speed.
You show courage by looking the person you promised love to straight in the eye and saying whatever it is that you have to say. You look the person in the eye and you say you’re leaving.
You explain why things are not working out and you make sure you’re firm in your decision. You don’t send mixed signals.
There is no getting back together, there are no ‘what ifs’, there is no giving false hope that maybe the tables might turn in the future.
You gather the courage to walk away decently and to give a decent closure to the story. Everything else is just chicken-delivered.
So, when a man is a coward, when he leaves without a single word, when he can’t give you what you need, be the bigger person than him. Instead of being afraid to move on, instead of following the path that coward, the one who left without a word, trumped for you, be the one to give the final closure to the story.
Instead of being afraid to move on, instead of waiting, accept that the things between you two are over.
Instead of running away from accepting the truth, be the brave one in this story and allow yourself to not wait anymore.
Be the one who says goodbye for both of you and move on with your life.
It will be the best revenge for the one who left without a word and it will be the best thing you have ever done for yourself.