Foi abandonado? Aqui estão os 9 melhores passos a dar

Já todos passámos por isso. Sem qualquer razão ou aviso, o nosso parceiro deixa-nos como se nunca tivéssemos significado nada para ele. É uma merda. 

It’s easy for other people to tell you things like “You’ll heal fast, you’ll move on sooner than you think,” or “You’re better off without them anyway, don’t feel bad about it,” but it doesn’t help.

We feel hurt, disappointed, and confused anyway. And no matter how hard we try, we just can’t stop thinking about it and why it happened.

No entanto, a verdade é que, por mais que doa, o tempo vai curar. Mas até que isso aconteça, eis o que deve fazer para que doa menos.

Em primeiro lugar, chorar

You’re allowed to let out your feelings and do whatever you think is going to help you. Cry, break some plates, eat as much chocolate as you want, or anything else that could ease your pain.

Ser abandonado por alguém de quem se gosta dói e o pior que se pode fazer é reprimir esses sentimentos.

Ligue à pessoa em quem mais confia, diga-lhe como se sente e peça-lhe que seja o seu ombro para chorar.

Se acha que merece uma explicação, ligue ao seu ex e peça-lhe para falar sobre o assunto

If you feel like you won’t be able to move on without proper closure, call your new ex-partner and ask him to meet and talk.

As much as it hurts – and I know that it really does – just don’t show him that you’re suffering.

Ask him only to explain his reasons for the breakup, but don’t beg for another chance or be pathetic. Don’t humiliate yourself for someone who doesn’t deserve you at all.

Dedicar mais tempo a si próprio

Dedicate yourself to self-care. Don’t lock yourself in your bedroom, consoling yourself with sweets and wearing pajamas all day long. Don’t do that to yourself.

Estabelecer prioridades amor-próprio novamente. Don’t neglect the relationship you have with yourself. Now would be the worst time to do that. 

Lembra-te: A única pessoa que pode ajudar-te a seguir em frente és tu e só tu.

Reúna os seus amigos e saia

Call your friends and ask them to hang out. Hit the club or, if you aren’t still ready for that just yet, you can keep it low key and have dinner at your favorite restaurant.

Talk with them about the breakup. If some of them are your mutual friends, though, then you might want to avoid that topic in front of them – you never know if they will tell it to your ex.

Don’t badmouth your ex, you’re better than that

Não importa o quanto alguém o magoe, tente sempre ser a pessoa mais importante no final. Because that’s all that matters.

Don’t talk trash about your ex; you’ll probably regret it later. Maybe things have ended badly between you guys, but that person was a part of your life for some time and you should respect it.

Mensagens de texto em estado de embriaguez são um grande NÃO

While you’re out with your friends, of course, you can have a few drinks, if you really think that drowning your sorrows will help.

However, before you go out and get drunk, leave your phone at home or give it to your bestie and tell her that she shouldn’t give it to you, no matter what.

Enviar uma mensagem de texto bêbado ao teu ex seria definitivamente um erro that you’ll regret the next day.

Don’t try to make your ex jealous and hope it’ll bring him back

If you think that flirting with another guy in front of your ex or dating someone new will make your ex jealous and want to reconcile, I hate to break it to you, but it won’t.

You’ll just end up even more disappointed and hurt after it fails. Dedicate this post-breakup time to yourself only.

Faça algo que lhe dê alegria

I bet there’s something or someone that can make you happy every time. Then hang out with those people or do those things. Let it help you heal and forget your ex and the breakup.

Respira e aproveita a tua vida de solteiro da melhor forma possível

Just remember that you enjoyed life and were happy before you even met your ex – and trust me, you’ll be happy again. The right one will come into your life, but until then, embrace and aproveite a sua vida de solteiro. 

Give yourself some time and you’ll see. You’ll fall in love with yourself and life again. This will all be just a part of your past, a scar on your heart, and nothing more.