Sei stato scaricato? Ecco le 9 mosse migliori da fare

Ci siamo passati tutti. Senza alcun motivo o preavviso, il vostro partner vi scarica come se non aveste mai significato nulla per lui. È uno schifo. 

It’s easy for other people to tell you things like “You’ll heal fast, you’ll move on sooner than you think,” or “You’re better off without them anyway, don’t feel bad about it,” but it doesn’t help.

We feel hurt, disappointed, and confused anyway. And no matter how hard we try, we just can’t stop thinking about it and why it happened.

Tuttavia, la verità è che non importa quanto faccia male, il tempo guarirà. Ma finché non succede, ecco cosa fare per ridurre il dolore.

Prima di tutto, gridare

You’re allowed to let out your feelings and do whatever you think is going to help you. Cry, break some plates, eat as much chocolate as you want, or anything else that could ease your pain.

Essere lasciati da qualcuno che si ama fa male e la cosa peggiore per voi sarebbe sopprimere questi sentimenti.

Chiamate la persona di cui vi fidate di più, ditele come vi sentite e chiedetele di essere la vostra spalla su cui piangere.

Se pensate di meritare una spiegazione, chiamate il vostro ex e chiedetegli di parlarne.

If you feel like you won’t be able to move on without proper closure, call your new ex-partner and ask him to meet and talk.

As much as it hurts – and I know that it really does – just don’t show him that you’re suffering.

Ask him only to explain his reasons for the breakup, but don’t beg for another chance or be pathetic. Don’t humiliate yourself for someone who doesn’t deserve you at all.

Dedicare più tempo a se stessi

Dedicate yourself to self-care. Don’t lock yourself in your bedroom, consoling yourself with sweets and wearing pajamas all day long. Don’t do that to yourself.

Definire le priorità amore per se stessi di nuovo. Don’t neglect the relationship you have with yourself. Now would be the worst time to do that. 

Ricordate: L'unica persona che può aiutarvi ad andare avanti siete voi e solo voi.

Radunate i vostri amici e uscite

Call your friends and ask them to hang out. Hit the club or, if you aren’t still ready for that just yet, you can keep it low key and have dinner at your favorite restaurant.

Talk with them about the breakup. If some of them are your mutual friends, though, then you might want to avoid that topic in front of them – you never know if they will tell it to your ex.

Don’t badmouth your ex, you’re better than that

Non importa quanto male vi abbia fatto qualcuno, cercate sempre di essere la persona più grande alla fine. Because that’s all that matters.

Don’t talk trash about your ex; you’ll probably regret it later. Maybe things have ended badly between you guys, but that person was a part of your life for some time and you should respect it.

Gli sms da ubriachi sono un grande NO

While you’re out with your friends, of course, you can have a few drinks, if you really think that drowning your sorrows will help.

However, before you go out and get drunk, leave your phone at home or give it to your bestie and tell her that she shouldn’t give it to you, no matter what.

Inviare al proprio ex un messaggio da ubriachi sarebbe sicuramente un errore that you’ll regret the next day.

Don’t try to make your ex jealous and hope it’ll bring him back

If you think that flirting with another guy in front of your ex or dating someone new will make your ex jealous and want to reconcile, I hate to break it to you, but it won’t.

You’ll just end up even more disappointed and hurt after it fails. Dedicate this post-breakup time to yourself only.

Fate qualcosa che vi porti gioia

I bet there’s something or someone that can make you happy every time. Then hang out with those people or do those things. Let it help you heal and forget your ex and the breakup.

Respira e goditi di nuovo la tua vita da single nel miglior modo possibile.

Just remember that you enjoyed life and were happy before you even met your ex – and trust me, you’ll be happy again. The right one will come into your life, but until then, embrace and godetevi la vostra vita da single. 

Give yourself some time and you’ll see. You’ll fall in love with yourself and life again. This will all be just a part of your past, a scar on your heart, and nothing more.