9 Consequências terríveis de ser ignorado (e como lidar com elas)

Ser ignorado é, sem dúvida, o pior sentimento, o mais confuso e o mais doloroso de todo o mundo. Deixa efeitos muito maus na nossa saúde mental que são ainda mais intensos se vierem dos nossos entes queridos .

A verdade é que, como seres humanos, somos todos criaturas sociais e todos nós desejamos simplesmente esse sentimento de sermos aceites. Todos nós queremos pertencer a alguém, fazer parte de um grupo ou de um bando.

Todos nós queremos ter aquele pequeno círculo de pessoas que nos aceitam como realmente somos. Todos queremos ter aquele pequeno número de pessoas que simplesmente nos compreendem.

However, that doesn’t mean that we should change who we are just to become a part of someone’s gang. You should never change your identity to fit someone’s standards or some stupid rules that a particular social situation demands.

That’s how you’ll only lose what should be most sacred to each and every one of us; yourself. No fim do dia , that’s the only thing that should be important… To be able to love, embrace, respect, and accept yourself no matter what others think about you .

What Does It Mean When You’re Being Ignored?

When your loved one ignores you or excludes you from their life completely and without any proper reason, it hurts as if they’re tearing your heart piece by piece and then walking on it.

It really has the power to manipulate you into thinking and behaving in a way you would never normally do. Your opinion of yourself changes, and you simply start wondering if maybe you’re the problem.

You start thinking that maybe you’re too clingy and needy, and that’s what made the other person behave in this way towards you. It completely damages your self-image and makes you doubt yourself.

Eu sei que o ostracismo e o sentimento de ser excluído doem mais do que qualquer outra coisa. Mas também sei que nada vale a pena perder o respeito por nós próprios ou a fé que devemos ter sempre em nós próprios.

Também, ignorar as pessoas é uma caraterística dos narcisistas e seres humanos sem alma que são simplesmente incapazes de manter uma relação saudável com outro ser humano. Deixem passar porque é isso que diz sobre eles, e a forma como reagem ao seu tratamento silencioso dirá sobre vocês.

O que é que ser ignorado faz a uma pessoa

O facto é que o tratamento do silêncio está a prejudicar o nosso bem-estar em geral. Provoca sentimentos negativos e deixa consequências tão más para a nossa saúde emocional e mental .

It can ruin a person’s self-esteem completely. It can also lead to a condition called pistanthrophobia (the fear of trusting people), which will make it impossible for a person to maintain any kind of emotional connection or relationship.

Below are a few consequences that ostracism can leave on a person’s health. Take a deep breath and pay close attention to each and every one of them.

A sua autoestima será abalada

The feeling of being ignored hurts us all deeply, and that’s a fact. Whether it’s coming from your best friend , a family member, or a co-worker, it’s totally irrelevant because it still hurts.

The silent treatment can also be pretty confusing, and you’ll probably be looking for some answers. That hunt may lead you to the conclusion that maybe you’re the problem, which is, by the way, the worst possible thing you can conclude in this situation.

Then, you’ll start questioning your autoestima e autoestima. You’ll slowly start killing yourself both mentally and emotionally with such thoughts and such wrong conclusions.

That social pain you’re feeling can also start the inner questioning of your own social skills, and it’ll slowly affect the relationship you have with yourself and all the other people in your life.

A maior ameaça à saúde mental

Ser ignorado por um ente querido é uma enorme ameaça para a sua saúde mental e emocional. It can leave so many negative consequences that you won’t be able to fix for years, and some of them may even be permanent.

As I already said, your self-esteem will suffer for sure. Your social pain will harm your mental health even more than you’ll be aware of.

The silent treatment can also have significant effects on your day-to-day life and the way you connect with other people. It’ll leave you with many insecurities and self-doubts that will really make it hard for you to maintain a healthy relationship with another person.

It increases stress-levels…

Quando se sente excluído ou ignorado por um ente querido, começam a surgir sentimentos negativos. As emoções confusas e negativas que o dominam começam a afetar a sua vida quotidiana.

Quando o seu níveis de stress aumenta, o seu corpo responde a ansiedade e depressão. Sente-se simplesmente incapaz de se concentrar e desmotivado para realizar as suas tarefas e obrigações quotidianas.

Due to that anxiety, depression, or similar mental health disorder, you won’t be able to sleep well. Sleep deprivation can result in physical pain, and all of that will definitely leave very bad consequences on your physical health.

…which leads to more negative emotions

A relação entre o stress e a raiva é muito forte. A maioria das pessoas que sofrem de stress e que passam por situações stressantes ficam zangadas, frustradas e muito hostis.

It’s simply something that most of us can’t affect because we aren’t able to think clearly when we’re under some kind of stress. Our stressors keep piling up to the point that we are no longer able to handle them, and we simply react in an emotional outburst.

It’s also another proof of how the silent treatment negatively affects our mental health . O nosso autoestima está sob o ataque dessas explosões frequentes e, na maioria dos casos, resulta em labilidade emocional.

Ignorar é simplesmente uma forma de abuso emocional

Unfortunately, in most cases, when a person is ignoring you, it’s just a form of their manipulation. That’s how they want to control you, which is definitely a form of emotional abuse.

Utilizam os seus sentimentos honestos para poderem controlar o seu comportamento e fazer as coisas que querem que faça. Isso pode realmente deixar um trauma emocional profundo e ter um impacto muito negativo na sua saúde mental.

It’s not impossible to heal after being ignored or neglected by a loved one , but the fact is that it’ll leave indelible emotional traumas.

However, that doesn’t have to necessarily be a bad thing. O seu trauma ficará gravado na sua alma como uma enorme cicatriz que o lembrará de toda a dor que terá de suportar para o resto da sua vida.

It’ll also be there to always remind you how brave and strong a person you are. It’ll also be a great reminder of a lesson you learned… that you should never allow people to ignore or neglect you again.

Anyhow, those emotional traumas can be a huge barrier to your future relationships. That’s why you really need to go through o processo de cura devagar antes de acolher uma nova pessoa na sua vida.

A dor emocional está em sincronia com a dor física

Quando sentimos qualquer tipo de dor emocional, os nossos níveis de stress aumentam, o que deixa alguns efeitos físicos no nosso corpo, como dores de cabeça, estômago nervoso, batimentos cardíacos acelerados, tonturas e náuseas.

There’s a tiny part of our brain called the córtex cingulado anterior whose primary task is to detect different levels of pain. When you’re struggling with a sensação de ser ignored by people who’re close to you, this part immediately activates and results in provoking dor física .

So, it’s perfectly normal if you feel any of the symptoms above. It just means that your heart, body, and mind are struggling hard with the emotional pain, and it has to reflect this in physical pain also.

Pode também levar à perturbação de ansiedade social

Uma das piores consequências que o sentimento de ser ignorado pode deixar numa pessoa é a fobia social. Esta pode realmente levar uma pessoa ao ponto de já não ser capaz de manter qualquer tipo de relação.

A perturbação de ansiedade social manifesta-se por um medo extremo quando se trata de lidar com diferentes situações sociais. Uma pessoa com esta perturbação mental tem dificuldade em conhecer novas pessoas, em manter o contacto visual com os amigos e em falar em frente a um grupo de pessoas.

It’s actually not that difficult to recognize someone who is dealing with social anxiety . Those people show insecurity signals through their body language and their behavior when they’re surrounded by other people.

It can manipulate you into doing something you wouldn’t normally do

When your emotions overwhelm you, it can really make you do things you would never do under normal circumstances… Things that you’ll probably regret afterward.

However, when we’re under such intense emotions, they don’t allow us to think clearly, and during those times, it’s difficult to control our emotions and listen to our mind.

That’s actually the most common mistake of most people. We allow our emotions to control us when we should actually own and control them.

It’s healthy and completely reasonable to express your emotions; however, you should never act out. Don’t allow yourself to be at the mercy of your own emotions. Remember, you have the power, you should be in control.

In the end, it’ll culminate in a toxic, codependent behavior

A maior parte das pessoas que estão a ser ignoradas pelos seus entes queridos procuram a validação de outras pessoas. Encontram alguém que compreenda o que estão a passar e que as ajude a curar-se.

That pushes them into another toxic relationship where they develop a codependent behavior towards “the person who saves them”.

They simply find some kind of comfort in those people, and feel deep gratitude for their understanding and acceptance. They aren’t even aware that they’re jumping into a relationship that will leave even worse consequences on their well-being .

Como reage ao facto de ser ignorado?

Lidar com a sensação de ser ignored isn’t easy at all, especially if you can’t understand what is causing it. You can’t make your loved ones change their behavior towards you, but at the same time, you can’t break up with them forever because of the love you feel for them.

However, there are some things you can do that can definitely make dealing with this awful feeling a lot easier. Remember, you’re the only one who can help yourself heal and you’ll do it with the help of these tips below.

Reconhecer e aceitar a sua situação

The worst thing that a person who’s being ignored can do is deny that it’s happening to them. Denial can really make things even worse and your healing even more complicated.

I know it’s difficult to accept that your best friend or family member or even your loved one is ignoring you, but you really have to open your eyes and accept the truth for your own well-being .

Remember that it’s possible to recover after o tratamento silencioso e seguir em frente com a sua vida. No entanto, funciona only if you’re ready to come to terms with the facts and focus on your healing.

Dar um passo atrás

Before you confront the person who’s ignoring you, or actually before you try to confront them, you should take a step back and try to understand what made them behave this way.

You should try to understand what caused them to give you the silent treatment . Maybe, you aren’t the problem at all, but still, it would be good to know the causes before you start working on the issue.

Dizer à outra pessoa como se sente

Even though your thoughts are completely messed up, you clearly know what you feel. You’re feeling sad, and you’re definitely feeling angry at the person who’s ignoring you without any reason.

Don’t ever suprimir as suas emoções. Deixe sair tudo o que sente porque, mais cedo ou mais tarde, as suas emoções virão à tona com ou sem a sua vontade.

You also have every right to confront the other side because their behavior is totally unfair and intolerable. Warn them that their behavior is ruining your relationship. If they don’t want to talk with you in person, you can confront them through social media .

It’s completely normal to feel a whole range of emotions…

Being ignored hurts, and it can put us on a real emotional rollercoaster. Whatever you’re feeling right now, trust me, all those emotions are completely normal and justified.

Accept all your negative emotions and own each and every one of them. Even though we would all want it more than anything else, you simply can’t command your heart to feel or not to feel something.

Mas deve aceitá-los e processá-los todos lentamente

You need to come to terms with the situation you’re currently in and accept all your emotions. Also, you need to focus on your emotional health and process your feelings one by one.

Lean into your heart and identify your emotions. Trust me, there is something you can learn from each emotion you’re currently feeling, and you should focus precisely on those lessons.

Don’t ever judge yourself for your situation because that will provoke more negative emotions . You need to find a way to vent somehow. Tem de encontrar uma forma de processar todas as suas emoções da forma mais saudável e produtiva possível.

Não reagir de forma exagerada

If your loved one is giving you the silent treatment , you shouldn’t immediately conclude that it’s their way of ending things with you. It’ll lead you to some hasty decisions and actions that you’ll regret later for sure.

Give them time, and if they love you, they’ll come back with a good explanation for their behavior, and they’ll be begging on their knees for your forgiveness.

Even though that awful feeling of being ignored hurts like hell, you shouldn’t allow it to make you a drama queen. And, overreacting can make things even more complicated indeed.

Concentre-se no seu próprio bem-estar

Deve simplesmente esquecer a outra pessoa e deixar de investigar as razões do seu comportamento em relação a si. Deve concentrar-se apenas em si e na sua própria saúde emocional e mental.

Even though this might mean that you’re losing the other person forever, you should really focus on the only person who will never leave nor give up on you. You precisa de se concentrar em si próprioDê a si próprio tempo para sofrer e, finalmente, para sarar.

Simplesmente, deixe-o ir

I know that this entire situation is provoking very uncomfortable, negative feelings, but you shouldn’t let those feelings control you. Overreacting and lashing out won’t fix your situation, and it definitely won’t make the other person change their behavior towards you.

Deve apenas tentar comunicar com ele de uma forma saudável e avisá-lo dos efeitos que o seu comportamento tem na vossa relação.

If they continue to ignore you even after that, then things will be pretty clear; they don’t love you nor do they want to be a part of your life anymore.

Deve facilitar-lhes a vida e romper primeiro. If someone directly shows that they don’t want you in their life, don’t humiliate yourself… get out of their life with dignity.

Procurar apoio

It would be great to have someone who’ll be there for you and help you cope with all of this. You should turn to a best friend or a family member and seek support from those people who truly love you.

You need to find a vent that would help you clear your thoughts and force your mind to stop worrying. Don’t allow the social pain to completely ruin your mental and emotional health.

Uma nota final

A sensação de estar ignorado por uma pessoa que significa algo para si tem um efeito realmente destrutivo efeito sobre o seu saúde mental e no seu bem-estar in general. It definitely leaves negative, long-lasting consequences on a person’s health that can’t be fixed so easily.

I’ve been in your place, and trust me, I get you honestly. I still have the emotional traumas, or ‘my scars’, as I like to call them to remind me of all the pain and struggling I went through.

However, I managed to get through it all on my own, and I’m sure you will also. Here are a few things that helped me cope with the silent treatment and I hope it’ll be helpful to you, too.

O conselho mais importante para si é que nunca permita que ninguém o subestime e o faça duvidar de si próprio. If someone doesn’t want to see your value, you should break up with them and cut them out of your life because they truly don’t deserve to be a part of it.

I’m not saying that it was easy, but sometimes God puts us through some difficult times and brings some bad people into our lives to teach us that we should appreciate those people who bring nothing but happiness to our lives more.

It’s very comforting to know that you have a best friend or a family member who can help you get through it all and make your healing less painful, but even if you don’t have that one person, you have yourself, and that’s perfectly enough. Por vezes, temos de ser os nossos próprios heróis.