9 terribles consecuencias de ser ignorado (y cómo afrontarlas)
Ser ignorado es sin duda la peor, más confusa y dolorosa sensación del mundo entero. Deja muy malos efectos en nuestra salud mental que son aún más intensos si proviene de nuestros seres queridos .
La verdad es que seres humanos, todos somos criaturas sociales y todos simplemente anhelamos esa sensación de ser aceptados. Todos queremos pertenecer a alguien, formar parte de un grupo o una pandilla.
Todos queremos tener ese pequeño círculo de personas que nos acepte tal y como somos. Todos queremos tener ese pequeño número de personas que simplemente nos entiendan.
However, that doesn’t mean that we should change who we are just to become a part of someone’s gang. You should never change your identity to fit someone’s standards or some stupid rules that a particular social situation demands.
That’s how you’ll only lose what should be most sacred to each and every one of us; yourself. En el fin de la jornada , that’s the only thing that should be important… To be able to love, embrace, respect, and accept yourself no matter what others think about you .
What Does It Mean When You’re Being Ignored?
When your loved one ignores you or excludes you from their life completely and without any proper reason, it hurts as if they’re tearing your heart piece by piece and then walking on it.
It really has the power to manipulate you into thinking and behaving in a way you would never normally do. Your opinion of yourself changes, and you simply start wondering if maybe you’re the problem.
You start thinking that maybe you’re too clingy and needy, and that’s what made the other person behave in this way towards you. It completely damages your self-image and makes you doubt yourself.
Sé que el ostracismo y el sentimiento de exclusión duelen más que cualquier otra cosa. Pero también sé que no hay nada que merezca la pena para perder el respeto por uno mismo o la fe que siempre hay que tener en uno mismo.
También, ignorar a la gente es un rasgo de los narcisistas y seres humanos sin alma que simplemente son incapaces de mantener una relación sana con otro ser humano . Déjalo pasar porque eso es lo que dice de ellos, y cómo reacciones a su trato silencioso dirá de ti.
Qué le hace a una persona ser ignorada
El hecho es que el tratamiento silencioso perjudica nuestro bienestar en general. Provoca sentimientos negativos y deja tan malas consecuencias tanto en nuestra salud emocional como mental .
It can ruin a person’s self-esteem completely. It can also lead to a condition called pistanthrophobia (the fear of trusting people), which will make it impossible for a person to maintain any kind of emotional connection or relationship.
Below are a few consequences that ostracism can leave on a person’s health. Take a deep breath and pay close attention to each and every one of them.
Tu autoestima se tambalea
The feeling of being ignored hurts us all deeply, and that’s a fact. Whether it’s coming from your best friend , a family member, or a co-worker, it’s totally irrelevant because it still hurts.
The silent treatment can also be pretty confusing, and you’ll probably be looking for some answers. That hunt may lead you to the conclusion that maybe you’re the problem, which is, by the way, the worst possible thing you can conclude in this situation.
Then, you’ll start questioning your autoestima y autovaloración. You’ll slowly start killing yourself both mentally and emotionally with such thoughts and such wrong conclusions.
That social pain you’re feeling can also start the inner questioning of your own social skills, and it’ll slowly affect the relationship you have with yourself and all the other people in your life.
La mayor amenaza para la salud mental
Ser ignorado por un amado es una gran amenaza para tu salud mental y emocional. It can leave so many negative consequences that you won’t be able to fix for years, and some of them may even be permanent.
As I already said, your self-esteem will suffer for sure. Your social pain will harm your mental health even more than you’ll be aware of.
The silent treatment can also have significant effects on your day-to-day life and the way you connect with other people. It’ll leave you with many insecurities and self-doubts that will really make it hard for you to maintain a healthy relationship with another person.
It increases stress-levels…
Cuando te sientes excluido o ignorado por un ser querido, empiezan a surgir sentimientos negativos. Te sientes abrumado por tantas emociones negativas y confusas que empiezan a afectar a tu vida cotidiana.
Cuando su niveles de estrés aumentan, su cuerpo responde a ansiedad y depresión. Simplemente se siente incapaz de concentrarse y desmotivado para realizar sus tareas y obligaciones cotidianas.
Due to that anxiety, depression, or similar mental health disorder, you won’t be able to sleep well. Sleep deprivation can result in physical pain, and all of that will definitely leave very bad consequences on your physical health.
…which leads to more negative emotions
El vínculo entre el estrés y la ira es muy fuerte. La mayoría de las personas que sufren estrés y atraviesan situaciones estresantes se enfadan, se frustran y se vuelven muy hostiles.
It’s simply something that most of us can’t affect because we aren’t able to think clearly when we’re under some kind of stress. Our stressors keep piling up to the point that we are no longer able to handle them, and we simply react in an emotional outburst.
It’s also another proof of how the silent treatment negatively affects our mental health . Nuestra autoestima sufre el ataque de esos arrebatos frecuentes y, en la mayoría de los casos, se traduce en labilidad emocional.
Ignorar es simplemente una forma de abuso emocional
Unfortunately, in most cases, when a person is ignoring you, it’s just a form of their manipulation. That’s how they want to control you, which is definitely a form of emotional abuse.
Utilizan tus sentimientos sinceros para poder controlarte para que te comportes y hagas las cosas que ellos quieren que hagas. Realmente puede dejar un profundo trauma emocional y tener un impacto muy negativo en tu salud mental .
It’s not impossible to heal after being ignored or neglected by a loved one , but the fact is that it’ll leave indelible emotional traumas.
However, that doesn’t have to necessarily be a bad thing. Tu trauma se te pegará al alma como una enorme cicatriz que te recordará todo el dolor por el que tienes que pasar el resto de tu vida.
It’ll also be there to always remind you how brave and strong a person you are. It’ll also be a great reminder of a lesson you learned… that you should never allow people to ignore or neglect you again.
Anyhow, those emotional traumas can be a huge barrier to your future relationships. That’s why you really need to go through el proceso de curación lentamente antes de acoger a una nueva persona en tu vida.
El dolor emocional está en sintonía con el dolor físico
Cuando sientes cualquier tipo de dolor emocional, tus niveles de estrés aumentan, lo que deja algunos efectos físicos en tu cuerpo como dolores de cabeza, estómago nervioso, taquicardia, mareos y náuseas.
There’s a tiny part of our brain called the corteza cingulada anterior whose primary task is to detect different levels of pain. When you’re struggling with la sensación de ser ignored by people who’re close to you, this part immediately activates and results in provoking dolor físico .
So, it’s perfectly normal if you feel any of the symptoms above. It just means that your heart, body, and mind are struggling hard with the emotional pain, and it has to reflect this in physical pain also.
También puede provocar un trastorno de ansiedad social
Una de las peores consecuencias que el sentimiento de ser ignorado puede dejar en una persona es la fobia social. Esto realmente puede llevar a una persona hasta el punto de que ya no sea capaz de mantener ningún tipo de relación.
El trastorno de ansiedad social se manifiesta en un miedo extremo a la hora de enfrentarse a diferentes situaciones sociales . Una persona con este trastorno mental tiene problemas para conocer gente nueva, mantener el contacto visual con sus amigos y hablar delante de un grupo de personas.
It’s actually not that difficult to recognize someone who is dealing with social anxiety . Those people show insecurity signals through their body language and their behavior when they’re surrounded by other people.
It can manipulate you into doing something you wouldn’t normally do
When your emotions overwhelm you, it can really make you do things you would never do under normal circumstances… Things that you’ll probably regret afterward.
However, when we’re under such intense emotions, they don’t allow us to think clearly, and during those times, it’s difficult to control our emotions and listen to our mind.
That’s actually the most common mistake of most people. We allow our emotions to control us when we should actually own and control them.
It’s healthy and completely reasonable to express your emotions; however, you should never act out. Don’t allow yourself to be at the mercy of your own emotions. Remember, you have the power, you should be in control.
In the end, it’ll culminate in a toxic, codependent behavior
La mayoría de las personas que son ignoradas por sus seres queridos buscan la validación de otras personas. Encuentran a otra persona que entienda por lo que están pasando y les ayude a curarse.
That pushes them into another toxic relationship where they develop a codependent behavior towards “the person who saves them”.
They simply find some kind of comfort in those people, and feel deep gratitude for their understanding and acceptance. They aren’t even aware that they’re jumping into a relationship that will leave even worse consequences on their well-being .
¿Cómo respondes cuando te ignoran?
Afrontar la sensación de estar ignored isn’t easy at all, especially if you can’t understand what is causing it. You can’t make your loved ones change their behavior towards you, but at the same time, you can’t break up with them forever because of the love you feel for them.
However, there are some things you can do that can definitely make dealing with this awful feeling a lot easier. Remember, you’re the only one who can help yourself heal and you’ll do it with the help of these tips below.
Reconozca y acepte su situación
The worst thing that a person who’s being ignored can do is deny that it’s happening to them. Denial can really make things even worse and your healing even more complicated.
I know it’s difficult to accept that your best friend or family member or even your loved one is ignoring you, but you really have to open your eyes and accept the truth for your own well-being .
Remember that it’s possible to recover after el tratamiento silencioso y seguir adelante con tu vida. Sin embargo, funciona only if you’re ready to come to terms with the facts and focus on your healing.
Dar un paso atrás
Before you confront the person who’s ignoring you, or actually before you try to confront them, you should take a step back and try to understand what made them behave this way.
You should try to understand what caused them to give you the silent treatment . Maybe, you aren’t the problem at all, but still, it would be good to know the causes before you start working on the issue.
Haz saber a la otra persona cómo te sientes
Even though your thoughts are completely messed up, you clearly know what you feel. You’re feeling sad, and you’re definitely feeling angry at the person who’s ignoring you without any reason.
Don’t ever reprimir sus emociones. Deja salir todo lo que sientes porque tarde o temprano, tus emociones aflorarán con o sin tu voluntad.
You also have every right to confront the other side because their behavior is totally unfair and intolerable. Warn them that their behavior is ruining your relationship. If they don’t want to talk with you in person, you can confront them through social media .
It’s completely normal to feel a whole range of emotions…
Being ignored hurts, and it can put us on a real emotional rollercoaster. Whatever you’re feeling right now, trust me, all those emotions are completely normal and justified.
Accept all your negative emotions and own each and every one of them. Even though we would all want it more than anything else, you simply can’t command your heart to feel or not to feel something.
Pero debes aceptarlas y procesarlas poco a poco.
You need to come to terms with the situation you’re currently in and accept all your emotions. Also, you need to focus on your emotional health and process your feelings one by one.
Lean into your heart and identify your emotions. Trust me, there is something you can learn from each emotion you’re currently feeling, and you should focus precisely on those lessons.
Don’t ever judge yourself for your situation because that will provoke more negative emotions . You need to find a way to vent somehow. Realmente necesitas encontrar una manera de procesar todas tus emociones de la forma más sana y productiva.
NO reaccione de forma exagerada
If your loved one is giving you the silent treatment , you shouldn’t immediately conclude that it’s their way of ending things with you. It’ll lead you to some hasty decisions and actions that you’ll regret later for sure.
Give them time, and if they love you, they’ll come back with a good explanation for their behavior, and they’ll be begging on their knees for your forgiveness.
Even though that awful feeling of being ignored hurts like hell, you shouldn’t allow it to make you a drama queen. And, overreacting can make things even more complicated indeed.
Concéntrese en su propio bienestar
Simplemente debes olvidarte de la otra persona y dejar de investigar las razones de su comportamiento hacia ti. Solo debes centrarte en ti y en tu propia salud emocional y mental .
Even though this might mean that you’re losing the other person forever, you should really focus on the only person who will never leave nor give up on you. You necesitas centrarte en ti mismoDate tiempo para llorar y, finalmente, para curarte.
Simplemente suéltalo
I know that this entire situation is provoking very uncomfortable, negative feelings, but you shouldn’t let those feelings control you. Overreacting and lashing out won’t fix your situation, and it definitely won’t make the other person change their behavior towards you.
Sólo debes intentar comunicarte con ellos de forma sana y advertirles de los efectos que su comportamiento tiene en vuestra relación.
If they continue to ignore you even after that, then things will be pretty clear; they don’t love you nor do they want to be a part of your life anymore.
Debes facilitarles las cosas y romper primero. If someone directly shows that they don’t want you in their life, don’t humiliate yourself… get out of their life with dignity.
Buscar apoyo
It would be great to have someone who’ll be there for you and help you cope with all of this. You should turn to a best friend or a family member and seek support from those people who truly love you.
You need to find a vent that would help you clear your thoughts and force your mind to stop worrying. Don’t allow the social pain to completely ruin your mental and emotional health.
Nota final
La sensación de estar ignorado por una persona que significa algo para ti tiene un efecto realmente destructivo. efecto sobre su salud mental y en su bienestar in general. It definitely leaves negative, long-lasting consequences on a person’s health that can’t be fixed so easily.
I’ve been in your place, and trust me, I get you honestly. I still have the emotional traumas, or ‘my scars’, as I like to call them to remind me of all the pain and struggling I went through.
However, I managed to get through it all on my own, and I’m sure you will also. Here are a few things that helped me cope with the silent treatment and I hope it’ll be helpful to you, too.
El consejo más importante para ti es que nunca permitas que nadie te subestime y te haga dudar de ti misma. If someone doesn’t want to see your value, you should break up with them and cut them out of your life because they truly don’t deserve to be a part of it.
I’m not saying that it was easy, but sometimes God puts us through some difficult times and brings some bad people into our lives to teach us that we should appreciate those people who bring nothing but happiness to our lives more.
It’s very comforting to know that you have a best friend or a family member who can help you get through it all and make your healing less painful, but even if you don’t have that one person, you have yourself, and that’s perfectly enough. A veces, necesitas ser tu propio héroe.
