14 sinais de que ela dorme por aí: Como detetar uma traidora

Getting cheated on is awful, but not knowing about it while it’s happening doesn’t make it any easier. In this case, ignorance is not bliss – quanto mais tempo passar nas tuas costas, pior será a sensação de traição quando descobrires.

Some cheaters never get caught because their partners are determined to stay in the dark. But even if you don’t want to know, there’s always that gut feeling drowning you in uncertainty and doubt. A relationship in which one person is sleeping around isn’t happy.

If you suspect that you might have a cheating girlfriend but you can’t be sure, pay attention to the following warning signs she sleeps around.

Quais são os sinais de que ela Dormir à volta?

Quando a tua namorada te começa a trair, os sinais de alerta podem não ser imediatamente óbvios – at first, her behavior changes, but the way she acts doesn’t seem like a big deal.

Quanto mais tempo se prolonga, mais fácil se torna de detetar. Habituada a não ser apanhada, deixa de ser tão cuidadosa como era no início. At the point when it first occurs to you that your girlfriend just slept with someone else, it’s probably not the first time that it has happened. 

Estes são os sinais de que ela dorme por aí que se pode detetar desde o início.

1. She’s emotionally distant

Emotional distance in a relationship can occur for various reasons. On its own, it’s not a sign of cheating, but it’s almost sempre presente ao lado da infidelidade. It’s often the reason why people start to suspect their partners.

You’ll be able to easily recognize emotional distance because it’s something you can feel. If your girlfriend is withdrawing from you, acts indifferent and doesn’t show you affection, she’s becoming emotionally distant.

Even if she’s not cheating on you, emotional distance is a red flag that something is not right in your relationship and that it needs work.

2. She’s pulling away

Para além de criar distância emocional, um traidor também tentará afastar-se de outras formas. She’ll avoid you and try to escape from you whenever she has the chance. The reasons for this are guilt, shame and fear of getting caught.

When you approach her, she’ll suddenly remember she has something else she has to do. She’ll stop waiting for you to eat together. If you’re in a new relationship and still not very close, she’ll make sure it stays that way.

She’s getting all the companionship she needs from other men. Because she knows that what she’s doing is wrong, she can’t even look at you, let alone admit it to you.

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3. She’s acting weird

If something seems off with her, it’s a good sign that it is. Something is going on. 

Of course, if she’s acting strange, ela pode estar a passar por alguma coisa e não estar a traí-lo de facto. Nenhum destes sinais é, por si só, uma prova definitiva, mas se notar muitos deles, as suas suspeitas podem ser justificadas.

If she’s irritável e se mete em brigas contigo sem motivo, se ela parece no limite and ready to snap at any moment, or if she’s defensivo sempre que lhe fazes uma pergunta, she’s probably hiding something. 

Pay attention to other signs to be able to tell for sure whether or not she’s culpado de batota.

4. She’s obviously lying to you

One of the reasons why you might start to suspect that your girlfriend is hiding something is the way she’s obviamente a mentir-vos.

Quando lhe faz uma pergunta que pode estar de alguma forma relacionada com o seu caso e as suas respostas são um pouco também vago, pode ser a sign that she’s lying.

For example, she says she was out with a coworker, but she won’t tell you who even if you ask. 

Or when she’s talking to a man on the phone and you ask who it was, she says it’s a male friend, but doesn’t give you a name. 

If you ask her where she was after she comes home late, she’ll have an alibi prepared, but it will sound off.

Sometimes you can just tell that someone is lying, but if you’re having trouble with it, here are some dicas sobre como reconhecer a desonestidade. 

Pode saber quando alguém lhe está a mentir utilizando estes três passos.

• Find her baseline

Everyone has their normal behavior – their usual body language, facial expressions, tone of voice, etc. To be able to tell that someone is hiding something, you must first know what they’re usually like.

This shouldn’t be a problem because you already know what your girlfriend is like and how she acts when she’s not lying to you.

• Look for bandeiras vermelhas

When you know what someone’s baseline is, procurar discrepâncias e alterações. Não há sinais universais de mentira que toda a gente mostre, mas há sinais comuns que podem aparecer.

Keep in mind that they are only suspicious if they’re different from the way she normally acts.

Olhos: falta de contacto visual, pestanejar excessivo.

A boca: sorrisos falsos, lábios franzidos.

Microexpressões: súbitos vislumbres de sentimentos verdadeiros que se manifestam no seu rosto por uma fração de segundo.

Corpo: inquieto, a suar.

• Look for multiple signs

Similarly to how it’s impossible to deduce that someone is cheating on you if they change only one thing in their behavior, it’s also best to procurar múltiplos sinais de mentira.

If her body language is completely different than usual, she’s probably hiding something, but if she’s not much different from her baseline, then it’s probably something else.

5. She’s manipulating you

Se a sua namorada o estiver a trair, she’ll do everything she can to stop you from finding out. It’s a given that she’ll be lying, but there are many other ways of manipulation she might resort to if she’s trying to get you off her trail.

Alguns comportamentos manipuladores que pode encontrar são:

• Crying. Ela desata a chorar quando tenta falar com ela sobre algo que possa confirmar as suas suspeitas.

• Shaming. “How could you even think that I’d cheat on you? You’re a horrible person.”

• Emotional blackmail. “If you really loved me, you’d never accuse me of something like that.”

• Blame-shifting. “Maybe you’re the one who’s cheating.”

• Gaslighting. “You’re paranoid, I’d never do something like that. Don’t be crazy.”

E mesmo depois de a apanhar a trair, she’ll try to manipulate you into thinking that what you saw was all in your head.

6. She’s less interested in sex

A maioria dos traidores fica menos interessada em sexo com os seus parceiros depois de começar a dormir com eles. Isto deve-se ao facto de Para as pessoas que traem, o sexo no namoro é muito mais excitante do que o sexo numa relação amorosa.

Most of the time, people who cheat don’t really appreciate their partners, and their view of cheating reflects that. 

Nem todos os traidores são iguais, por isso, dependendo da pessoa, ela pode estar a trair por uma ou mais razões.

• She doesn’t think of sex as a big deal, so she doesn’t understand why you would be hurt if you discovered that she was cheating. Keep in mind that she’s still hiding her affair, which means that she knows that cheating is wrong, but she doesn’t care enough not to do it.

• An opportunistic batoteiro cheats because she doesn’t see why she shouldn’t have sex with someone she’s attracted to if she has a chance. This kind of cheater can have sex with people without involving feelings and is okay with having one-night stands even while in a relationship.

• If she precisa de atenção constante dos homens, she’ll use them to get what she wants. This can lead to her cheating with a lot of guys. Her relationships with them are all about what she can get from them.

• She might say that she’s in love with you, but if she’s cheating on you, ela só gosta do que lhe dás. Maybe she believes that she loves you, but if she did, she’d think about your feelings too.

• Someone who gosta da excitação de andar às escondidas will get the thrill of getting away with something from cheating. If she feels bored in the relationship, she’s cheating to shake things up. This kind of cheater gets bored in todos relação.

It doesn’t really matter why her attitude toward sex makes it easier for her to cheat, but  knowing might help you understand how a sua falta de interesse em sexo é o resultado de ela andar a dormir por aí.

7. A tua vida sexual é diferente

When you do have sex, you’ll notice that it’s different from what you’re used to. If she’s cheating, she’ll either be enthusiastic and experimental or going through the motions without any real feeling.

For example, if she’s not into it, it’s because she’s getting enough sex from others, so she’s only doing it with you because she’s trying to deflect your suspicions. 

It would be weird if she suddenly never wanted sex, so she’s sleeping with you because she doesn’t want you to find out that she’s already had all the sex she wanted.

On the other hand, she might be pulling moves she’s never done before or suggesting things she’d never mentioned before. That’s because she’s done it elsewhere and liked itPor isso, ela quer voltar a fazê-lo. 

Or, if she’s not cheating, she might just want to try something new. As always, keep in mind that her actions don’t always have to mean that she’s cheating.

Even if you notice several signs at the same time, you can’t be sure, so you should always first try talking to her about any concerns you might have.

8. A sua utilização da tecnologia é suspeita

Suspicious use of her cell phone and computer is one of the best indicators that she’s hiding something. This is because if you had access to her text messages or call records, you’d probably be able to immediately know what’s going on.

Aqui estão alguns sinais digitais that she’s trying to keep something on her phone and computer hidden.

• Her phone is always with her or locked.

• She keeps her phone on silent.

• She’s always texting.

• Her use of social media is different. For example, she goes private on some accounts.

• You hear dating app notification sounds or you accidentally notice her using one.

• If her phone rings when you’re around, she doesn’t answer or leaves the room to do it.

• You can’t reach her on the phone at certain times.

• She hides her computer use.

• If you come near her when she’s on the computer, she tabs out of what she was doing or minimizes the window.

• She clears her browser history after using the computer.

• She uses the computer late at night while you sleep.

• She stops using shared devices.

9. Presta especial atenção à sua aparência

Most people in long-term relationships don’t pay as much attention to their physical appearance as they used to when they were single. Se ela começar a preocupar-se mais do que o habitual com a sua aparência, pode ter uma razão.

Paying more attention to her diet and exercise routine might be because she’s trying to lead a healthier life, but it might also be because she wants to look better without clothes on. 

O maior indicador de que ela quer ter uma melhor aparência por algum motivo é se ela mudar a sua rotina habitual.

For example, if she never used to dress up or wear perfume to go out with friends but now she does all of a sudden, it might be a sign that she’s probably meeting someone else – alguém para quem ela quer ficar bem.

10. She’s always busy

Has she recently been working overtime every night? Does her boss make her work on the weekends? Is she always going out with friends? Does she have a new hobby she’s never expressed an interest in before?

If she’s always busy these days, it might be that she’s spending the time she’s not available to meet her affair partner for secret rendezvouses. Ela precisa de desculpas para as suas faltas, por isso está sempre a inventá-las.

À primeira vista, o seu interesse súbito por caminhadas ou cerâmica pode não parecer suspeito, mas uma mudança completa na sua rotina pode ser um dos sinais ocultos de que she’s lost interest in you e está a tentar esconder um caso. Dito isto, aqui estão os locais mais comuns onde os traidores se encontram para ter casos.

Uma ou outra diferença no seu horário é normal, mas quando algo está sempre a surgir, há boas razões para desconfiar. Unless she’s keeping notes of her lies, you’ll notice inconsistencies in her stories about why she’s gone sooner or later.

11. She doesn’t want to spend time with you

Is she reluctant to be around you even when she does find the time? If she stands you up to hang out with her best friend after you haven’t seen each other for a week, she might be avoiding you.

Ela pode sentir-se pouco à vontade para passar tempo consigo se se sentir culpada por o ter traído. Some people have no problems cheating and feel no remorse, but others still have a conscience, even if they’re doing something that they know will hurt others.

Por outro lado, quando ela passa algum tempo consigo, a culpa pode levá-la a ser demasiado simpática e a concordar com tudo o que você quer. Este tipo de comportamento é outro sinal oculto de traição.

12. She has expenses she can’t explain

Reparou em despesas inesperadas nos extractos dos cartões de crédito? Há menos dinheiro nas vossas contas bancárias? O dinheiro tornou-se um problema?

Perguntar-lhe sobre estas despesas fá-la-á ficar na defensiva ou dizer mentiras óbvias. She’ll claim she bought something which is nowhere to be found or pretend that she doesn’t know anything about it.

Fazer batota custa dinheiro, and even if the expenses are mostly covered by her affair partner, you’ll notice an occasional change in her spending habits.

An unexpected large cash withdrawal or an unusual credit card charge would be a good sign that she’s spending money on something she doesn’t want you to know about.

13. O seu comportamento e atitude são diferentes

Em primeiro lugar, a traição é dolorosa para a pessoa que está a ser traída, mas muitas vezes também pode afetar o traidor. 

If she’s cheating because she’s feeling unfulfilled, unhappy or for another reason that goes beyond opportunistic sex, ela pode estar a magoar-se a si própria, para além de o magoar a si.

Whatever her reason for cheating is, it’s not a justification, but it might explain her behavior. If she’s fully aware that what she’s doing is wrong and feels guilty, she’s probably showing signs of low self-esteem and bad conscience.

Por outro lado, ela também pode estar a tentar racionalizar o seu comportamento, culpando-o pela sua vida amorosa infeliz e, por conseguinte, traindo-o. If it seems like she’s mad at you for no reason, it’s because she’s trying to make herself feel better about her actions.

She’s critical and angry at you on the outside because on the inside, she’s blaming you for pushing her to do it to make herself feel better.

14. She doesn’t want to communicate

Talking to someone who doesn’t want to discuss something can be impossible. 

If she’s cheating on you and doesn’t want to deal with it, she might withdraw when you try to interact with her and shut down when you ask her something she doesn’t want to answer.

O engano e a culpa podem facilmente levar a uma falha na comunicação. A culpa e o medo de ser apanhada podem fazer com que ela o bloqueie and only talk to you when it’s absolutely necessary.

For example, when you say something she doesn’t want to talk about, she might pretend she didn’t hear you, ignore you, change the subject or leave the room.

Quando tenta falar com ela sobre os seus problemas, ela pode tentar desviar o assunto, sendo desdenhosa, acusando-o ou virando-lhe as costas, falando de um assunto diferente.

Em conclusão

If you suspect that your wife or girlfriend is cheating on you, there’s probably a reason why you feel that way. Usually there are multiple signs that could indicate that something is going on, and you probably picked up on some of them.

No entanto, se não a apanhar a traí-lo, it’s almost impossible to be sure that what you’ve noticed are definite signs she sleeps around. Be sure before you accuse her and end up breaking up if you’re wrong.Still, if you’ve noticed many of these signs, something is definitely going on. Even if she’s not cheating on you, you should probably look into your relationship and talk to her.