18 sinais ocultos de que o seu chefe quer dormir consigo
You got a new job, and everything seems to be going great. However, lately, you can’t ignore the signs your boss wants to sleep with you.
Está mesmo a acontecer, ou está apenas a imaginar coisas? Ele está apenas a ser simpático e acolhedor, ou quer algo mais do que uma relação de trabalho?
After all, you can’t do anything about it until you’re sure what’s really going on!
18 sinais de que o seu chefe quer dormir consigo
Se o seu chefe apresenta a maioria ou todos estes sinais, não há dúvida sobre uma coisa: ele gosta de si e está a tentar levar-te para a cama.
1. Interesse pela sua vida pessoal
One of the first signs your boss wants to sleep with you is his unusual interest in your personal life. I’m not talking about regular, small-talk topics – I’m talking about questões profundas e o facto de ele querer mesmo saber certos pormenores sobre si.
At first, this doesn’t come across as strange. After all, maybe he só quer ser amigo. Mas se pensarmos bem, com o que é que ele se preocupa mais?
That’s right – your love life.
He wants to know whether you’re dating anyone, did you break up with your BF, if you’re married, are in a serious relationship, or if you’re single e prontos para se misturarem.
2. Reuniões privadas
Reuniões a altas horas da noite sem nenhum dos seus colegas de trabalho? Isto soa-lhe familiar? Bem, tenho de vos dizer isto, mas não é assim que a vida profissional deve ser.
You’re probably extremely important to the company. But no matter your position, o seu tempo pessoal é o seu tempo pessoal e ninguém deve telefonar-lhe depois do horário de trabalho.
Of course, it’s one thing if this has happened once or twice due to an emergency. But even then, you shouldn’t have late-night meetings, especially not at a restaurant or anywhere inappropriate.
Este tipo está claramente à procura de formas de se aproximar de si. De facto, estas reuniões privadas são o equivalente a Netflix e chill.
3. Tratamento preferencial
Everyone sees that your boss treats you differently than the rest of your coworkers. Let’s be honest – at first, it didn’t bother you. You could run a little bit late or miss a deadline without suffering the consequences.
No entanto, passado algum tempo, apercebemo-nos de que há algo de suspeito nisso. Para além disso, a maioria dos seus colegas também o vê como um dos sinais óbvios de que o seu chefe quer dormir consigo.
Ele deixa-o escapar com qualquer coisa. Quando chega ao escritório, cumprimenta-o primeiro. Respeita-o mais do que os outros e é mais simpático em geral.
Porque é que acha que isto acontece? E como achas que esta situação faz com que os outros se sintam?
4. Flertar contigo
There is no subtle way to say this: your boss namorisca consigo. O seu linguagem corporal diz isso, o seu sorriso diz isso, e o seu comportamento diz isso.
It even happens when you’re not alone. He teases you and, at first, you could interpret it as a harmless joke, but now, it’s more than obvious that your boss talks to you differently than your coworkers.
His tone of voice changes when you’re around. He has a big smile on his face whenever he sees you, and you’ve caught him checking you out a couple of times.
5. Contacto físico acidental
Are all of those accidental touches really all that accidental? I don’t think so. In fact, they are probably a product of this man’s atração física para si.
Come on, it’s really not necessary for him to whisper in your ear when he’s talking. He doesn’t have to hug you when he sees you. After all, you two are coworkers – a handshake would be more than enough.
This is not just one of the clear signs your boss wants to sleep with you – it’s also oma das primeiras bandeiras vermelhas de assédio sexual. He is invading your personal space, and that’s unacceptable.
That is, if you don’t like it. But even if you enjoy his touches, take your physical contact outside the office and act professional!
6. Contacto fora do escritório
This man wants to hang out with you outside work time, and he doesn’t even try to hide it. He keeps on asking you what you’re doing on the weekend, sends you text messages, and initiates conversation unrelated to your work life.
Of course, he hasn’t convidou-o para um primeiro encontro or anything like that, but it’s clear that he wants to be in your life outside the office.
This sign alone doesn’t have to mean much, under the condition that you’re willing to hang out with him as well. Maybe he just wants to be friends – let’s give him the benefit of the doubt.
However, if he’s pressuring you to spend time with him after work hours, that’s harassment.
7. Contacto visual profundo
The eyes are the windows to the soul. This is especially true in your situation – where your boss is in no position to express his feelings out loud.
Instead, he just looks at you. I’m not necessarily talking about creepy looks, even though that could also be the case.
He’s just staring at you and tries to maintain contacto visual. Antes de mais, he can’t take his eyes off you.
But he’s also doing this to check your reaction. He’s throwing the bait, waiting to see if you’ll bite. Will you look away, or will you tease and seduzi-lo de volta?
8. Comportamento excessivamente amigável
A maior parte das vezes, este homem age como se vocês os dois fossem amigos do trabalho. Tem dificuldade em manter uma relação profissional.
Por vezes, perguntamo-nos se ele quer ser o nosso melhor amigo do sexo masculino ou se he’s attracted to you. Well, it’s one thing if this is the only sign he displays.
However, we’ve already talked about his preferential treatment. If he’s so friendly, he’d behave like that towards everyone else – not just you.
But the problem is that sometimes, he’s TOO friendly. The truth is that he’s actually hitting on you under this guise.
9. Interação com as redes sociais
I’ll be honest with you: it’s smarter if your coworkers don’t follow you on social media. This goes for your boss especially.
Those are your private profiles, and your entire company doesn’t have to know every step you take in your personal life. Isto é ainda mais importante se a sua atividade nas redes sociais for bastante elevada.
But this man hasn’t only sent you a friend request on all of your social media profiles. He likes all of your status updates, comments on your photos, and replies to most of your stories.
E, pior ainda, presta especial atenção às suas fotografias de fato de banho ou selfies.
10. Fazer-te elogios
Did You just get a new haircut? He’s the first one to notice it and to compliment it. The same goes with your clothes and makeup.
Estes elogios aren’t necessarily vulgar, so you think he hasn’t crossed the line. Well, he thinks that way as well since he doesn’t stop complimenting you.
E it’s almost always something related to your looks. Raramente presta atenção ao seu desempenho profissional, que é a única coisa que o seu chefe deve elogiar.
Look, every woman likes compliments. However, this doesn’t apply to situations involving some creep you have to spend all of your working hours with.
11. Falar sobre a sua vida pessoal
Remember how I told you that this man is madly interested in your personal life? Well, it doesn’t stop there. In fact, it goes both ways: he shares his private confidences with you as well.
Vá lá, és mesmo a única pessoa que lhe pode dar conselhos sobre literalmente tudo? Ou esta é apenas uma das suas formas sorrateiras de a envolver na vida dele?
Penso que sabe a resposta a esta pergunta.
Este homem é obviamente a tentar criar uma ligação entre vocês os dois. Ele está constantemente a mostrar-te o quanto te aprecia e o quanto confia em ti, para que tu também o aprecies e confies nele.
12. Ofertas ou aumentos
Aqui está um dos sinais claros de que o seu chefe quer dormir consigo. Este homem não pára de lhe dar presentes.
I’m not talking about diamond necklaces, but he’ll pay for your lunch, get you a new pen, or buy you that planner he heard you mention.
However, some bosses don’t stop there. Maybe he’ll even take advantage of his position in the company and give you a raise.
I mean, let’s be honest, it’s not like you don’t need the extra money. But this is not the way to get it. Besides, deep down, you know why you got this raise, and it wasn’t because of your extraordinary work performance.
13. Ciúmes desnecessários
Este homem não é o seu namorado ou marido. No entanto, ele tem claramente um problema em perceber isso.
He doesn’t admit it, but he shows sinais de ciúme when you’re concerned. This goes beyond his interest in your love life – ele fica mesmo louco quando te vê a falar com outro homem no escritório.
É claro que o seu comportamento cria um ambiente de trabalho desagradável e toda a gente o vê. Sem dar por isso, os seus colegas homens deixam de falar consigo porque querem evitar problemas.
And the worst part is that you can’t confront him about it. If you do, he’ll just tell you that he’s preventing an office romance between you and that colleague!
14. Piadas inapropriadas
Who doesn’t enjoy working with people who have a great sense of humor? But let’s not forget that this is a workplace, and, therefore, everyone’s jokes should be appropriate and inoffensive, let alone vulgar.
No entanto, parece que o seu chefe tem dificuldade em ter isto em mente. Em vez disso, o seu humor faz com que todos se sintam desconfortáveis. E adivinha? Todas as piadas dele são dirigidas a si.
I’m not saying that he makes fun of you. Instead, he usually makes indirect remarks and waits for your reaction.
Once again, he’s trying to disguise his real intentions. He wants to see whether it will make you laugh or if you’ll roll your eyes at his immature attempts at humor.
15. Alteração da aparência
Um dos sinais de que o seu chefe quer dormir consigo pode residir no facto de este homem dá o seu melhor para estar no seu melhor. But things haven’t been like this from the start.
When you first got the job, he couldn’t care less how he looked. However, ever since he showed signs of interest in you, everything changed.
Usa sempre uma tonelada de água de colónia, tem roupas diferentes todos os dias e até cortou o cabelo de novo.
What is he trying to do? Well, isn’t it obvious?
He hopes that the tables will turn in his favor. You’ll fall in love with him and accept his game. When that happens, he’ll make the first move on you without fear of being accused of harassment.
16. Falsas promessas
Here’s one of the most common signs your boss wants to sleep with you. Sadly, this is also one of the traps many women easily fall into.
This guy’s power is his position in the company. He can’t court you the usual way. He can’t exactly take you out to dinner or get you flowers.
Por isso, ele joga as suas cartas da melhor maneira possível: ele dá-vos falsas promessas. He hasn’t said it straightforwardly but indirectly. He promises you a promotion or a raise if you sleep with him.
Well, in that case, you can accuse him of blackmail and sexual harassment because that’s exactly what this is!
17. Horários de trabalho sincronizados
If you guys work in shifts, isn’t it strange that os seus e os vossos horários de trabalho acabam sempre por ser os mesmos? And let’s not forget that he’s the one who makes it.
Mesmo que tenha um horário de trabalho fixo, vocês os dois estão sempre juntos no mesmo projeto. Once again, he’s responsible for this arrangement.
As far as he’s concerned, this is the best way to build some kind of connection between you two, especially if you’ve turned down all of his other proposals to hang out after work.
18. O seu instinto
Even though your boss has never actually made a move on you, you just know that he’s been acting unprofessionally. O seu instinto tells you so, and that’s more than enough, especially if his behavior makes you feel uncomfortable.
You know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s enough for him to look at you, and you immediately feel your stomach turn upside down. Even when you two shake hands, you know he’s doing it in a creepy way.
Ou talvez gostes deste homem e sintas que he’s interested in you também? Talvez a química entre vós seja tão forte e intensa que seria impossível ignorá-la.
Seja como for, uma coisa é certa: you’re not imagining things. Trust your intuition because it helps you see things clearly.
Ver também: 12 sinais de que o seu chefe o está a testar (e o que fazer em relação a isso)
Quão comum é dormir com o seu chefe?
Os romances no escritório entre patrões e empregados são, de facto, mais comuns do que se possa pensar. De facto, de acordo com alguns estudos, 1 em cada 3 pessoas já teve algum tipo de relação pessoal com os seus supervisores ou directores.
It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a female boss and a male subordinate or the other way around – these things happen frequently.
Algumas destas relações transformam-se em verdadeiros romances, enquanto muitas delas continuam a ser namoros.
Ver também: 14 sinais seguros de que o seu chefe se preocupa consigo
Como é que se chama quando um patrão dorme com um empregado?
Dormir com alguém com quem se trabalha chama-se confraternização. It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your boss or a coworker – if you work for the same company, that’s an office romance, and in most companies, it’s strictly forbidden.
Como saber se o seu chefe está interessado em si?
If your boss is into you, he’ll give you special treatment over other employees, he’ll call you after work without a particular reason, he’ll find excuses to talk to you, he’ll pay you compliments, or he’ll admit his feelings at the end of the day.
No entanto, há uma grande diferença entre um homem que só quer dormir contigo e um homem cujos sentimentos sejam genuínos. O segundo nunca a colocará numa posição comprometedora ou correrá o risco de perder o seu emprego!
Para terminar:
Now that you’ve seen all the signs your boss wants to sleep with you, you have to ask yourself the most important question: Este tensão sexual faz-te sentir desconfortável, ou gostas?
Remember: you don’t have to do things you feel pressured to do, even if it’s “just harmless” namoro! I don’t care if he’s your boss. If he wants to sleep with you even though you made it very clear you’re not interested, that’s sexual harassment.
Don’t fall for his manipulations and save yourself from this situation one way or another.
No entanto, mesmo que gostas deste homem back, it doesn’t mean that your romance will go smoothly from there. First, you have to check your company’s policy regarding emotional relationships among employees.
Poderá perder o seu emprego por causa desta relação? Mais importante ainda, valerá a pena?
