You got a new job, and everything seems to be going great. However, lately, you can’t ignore the signs your boss wants to sleep with you.
Is it really happening, or are you just imagining things? Is he just being friendly and welcoming, or does he want something more than a working relationship?
After all, you can’t do anything about it until you’re sure what’s really going on!
18 Signs Your Boss Wants To Sleep With You
If your boss displays most or all of these signs, there is no doubt about one thing: he likes you and is trying to get you into bed.
1. Interest in your personal life
One of the first signs your boss wants to sleep with you is his unusual interest in your personal life. I’m not talking about regular, small-talk topics – I’m talking about deep questions and the fact that he really wants to know certain details about you.
At first, this doesn’t come across as strange. After all, maybe he just wants to be friends. But when you come to think about it, what is it he cares about most?
That’s right – your love life.
He wants to know whether you’re dating anyone, did you break up with your BF, if you’re married, are in a serious relationship, or if you’re single and ready to mingle.
2. Private meetings
Late-night meetings without any of your coworkers? Does this sound familiar? Well, I have to break it to you, but this is not how work-life should look.
You’re probably extremely important to the company. But no matter your position, your personal time is your personal time, and nobody should call you after work hours.
Of course, it’s one thing if this has happened once or twice due to an emergency. But even then, you shouldn’t have late-night meetings, especially not at a restaurant or anywhere inappropriate.
This guy is clearly just looking for ways to get closer to you. In fact, these private meetings are the equivalent to Netflix and chill.
3. Preferential treatment
Everyone sees that your boss treats you differently than the rest of your coworkers. Let’s be honest – at first, it didn’t bother you. You could run a little bit late or miss a deadline without suffering the consequences.
However, after a while, you realize there is something suspicious about it. Besides, most of your colleagues also see it as one of the obvious signs your boss wants to sleep with you.
He lets you get away with anything. When he comes into the office, he greets you first. He respects you more than everyone else and is nicer in general.
Why do you think this is? And how do you think this situation makes others feel?
4. Flirting with you
There is no subtle way to say this: your boss flirts with you. His body language says it, his smile says it, and his behavior says it.
It even happens when you’re not alone. He teases you and, at first, you could interpret it as a harmless joke, but now, it’s more than obvious that your boss talks to you differently than your coworkers.
His tone of voice changes when you’re around. He has a big smile on his face whenever he sees you, and you’ve caught him checking you out a couple of times.
5. Accidental physical contact
Are all of those accidental touches really all that accidental? I don’t think so. In fact, they are probably a product of this man’s physical attraction to you.
Come on, it’s really not necessary for him to whisper in your ear when he’s talking. He doesn’t have to hug you when he sees you. After all, you two are coworkers – a handshake would be more than enough.
This is not just one of the clear signs your boss wants to sleep with you – it’s also one of the first red flags of sexual harassment. He is invading your personal space, and that’s unacceptable.
That is, if you don’t like it. But even if you enjoy his touches, take your physical contact outside the office and act professional!
6. Contact outside of office
This man wants to hang out with you outside work time, and he doesn’t even try to hide it. He keeps on asking you what you’re doing on the weekend, sends you text messages, and initiates conversation unrelated to your work life.
Of course, he hasn’t asked you out on a first date or anything like that, but it’s clear that he wants to be in your life outside the office.
This sign alone doesn’t have to mean much, under the condition that you’re willing to hang out with him as well. Maybe he just wants to be friends – let’s give him the benefit of the doubt.
However, if he’s pressuring you to spend time with him after work hours, that’s harassment.
7. Deep eye contact
The eyes are the windows to the soul. This is especially true in your situation – where your boss is in no position to express his feelings out loud.
Instead, he just looks at you. I’m not necessarily talking about creepy looks, even though that could also be the case.
He’s just staring at you and tries to maintain eye contact. First of all, he can’t take his eyes off you.
But he’s also doing this to check your reaction. He’s throwing the bait, waiting to see if you’ll bite. Will you look away, or will you tease and seduce him back?
8. Overly friendly behavior
Most of the time, this man acts like you two are work BFFs. He has trouble maintaining a professional relationship.
Sometimes, you wonder if he wants to be your best male friend or if he’s attracted to you. Well, it’s one thing if this is the only sign he displays.
However, we’ve already talked about his preferential treatment. If he’s so friendly, he’d behave like that towards everyone else – not just you.
But the problem is that sometimes, he’s TOO friendly. The truth is that he’s actually hitting on you under this guise.
9. Social media interaction
I’ll be honest with you: it’s smarter if your coworkers don’t follow you on social media. This goes for your boss especially.
Those are your private profiles, and your entire company doesn’t have to know every step you take in your personal life. This is even more so if your social media activity is pretty high.
But this man hasn’t only sent you a friend request on all of your social media profiles. He likes all of your status updates, comments on your photos, and replies to most of your stories.
And even worse, he pays special attention to your swimsuit photos or selfies.
10. Paying you compliments
Did You just get a new haircut? He’s the first one to notice it and to compliment it. The same goes with your clothes and makeup.
These compliments aren’t necessarily vulgar, so you think he hasn’t crossed the line. Well, he thinks that way as well since he doesn’t stop complimenting you.
And it’s almost always something related to your looks. He rarely pays attention to your work performance, which is the only thing your boss should compliment you on.
Look, every woman likes compliments. However, this doesn’t apply to situations involving some creep you have to spend all of your working hours with.
11. Talking about his personal life
Remember how I told you that this man is madly interested in your personal life? Well, it doesn’t stop there. In fact, it goes both ways: he shares his private confidences with you as well.
Come on, are you really the only person who can give him advice on literally everything? Or is this just one of his sneaky ways to get you involved in his life?
I think you know the answer to this question.
This man is obviously trying to build a bond between you two. He is constantly showing you how much he appreciates you and how much he trusts you so you appreciate and trust him back.
12. Gifts or raises
Here is one of the clear signs your boss wants to sleep with you. This man keeps on giving you gifts.
I’m not talking about diamond necklaces, but he’ll pay for your lunch, get you a new pen, or buy you that planner he heard you mention.
However, some bosses don’t stop there. Maybe he’ll even take advantage of his position in the company and give you a raise.
I mean, let’s be honest, it’s not like you don’t need the extra money. But this is not the way to get it. Besides, deep down, you know why you got this raise, and it wasn’t because of your extraordinary work performance.
13. Unnecessary jealousy
This man is not your boyfriend or husband. Nevertheless, he clearly has a problem realizing that.
He doesn’t admit it, but he shows signs of jealousy when you’re concerned. This goes beyond his interest in your love life – he really goes crazy when he sees you talking to another man in the office.
Of course, his behavior creates an unpleasant work environment, and everyone sees it. Before you know it, your male colleagues stop talking to you because they want to stay out of trouble.
And the worst part is that you can’t confront him about it. If you do, he’ll just tell you that he’s preventing an office romance between you and that colleague!
14. Inappropriate jokes
Who doesn’t enjoy working with people who have a great sense of humor? But let’s not forget that this is a workplace, and, therefore, everyone’s jokes should be appropriate and inoffensive, let alone vulgar.
However, it seems that your boss has a problem keeping this in mind. Instead, his humor makes everyone feel uncomfortable. And guess what? All of his jokes are aimed at you.
I’m not saying that he makes fun of you. Instead, he usually makes indirect remarks and waits for your reaction.
Once again, he’s trying to disguise his real intentions. He wants to see whether it will make you laugh or if you’ll roll your eyes at his immature attempts at humor.
15. Change in appearance
One of the signs your boss wants to sleep with you can lie in the fact that this man does his best to look his best. But things haven’t been like this from the start.
When you first got the job, he couldn’t care less how he looked. However, ever since he showed signs of interest in you, everything changed.
He always wears a ton of cologne, has different clothes every day, and he even got a new haircut.
What is he trying to do? Well, isn’t it obvious?
He hopes that the tables will turn in his favor. You’ll fall in love with him and accept his game. When that happens, he’ll make the first move on you without fear of being accused of harassment.
16. False promises
Here’s one of the most common signs your boss wants to sleep with you. Sadly, this is also one of the traps many women easily fall into.
This guy’s power is his position in the company. He can’t court you the usual way. He can’t exactly take you out to dinner or get you flowers.
So, he plays his cards the best way he can: he gives you false promises. He hasn’t said it straightforwardly but indirectly. He promises you a promotion or a raise if you sleep with him.
Well, in that case, you can accuse him of blackmail and sexual harassment because that’s exactly what this is!
17. Synchronized work schedules
If you guys work in shifts, isn’t it strange that his and your work schedules somehow always end up the same? And let’s not forget that he’s the one who makes it.
Even if you have fixed work hours, you two are always stuck together on the same project. Once again, he’s responsible for this arrangement.
As far as he’s concerned, this is the best way to build some kind of connection between you two, especially if you’ve turned down all of his other proposals to hang out after work.
18. Your gut feeling
Even though your boss has never actually made a move on you, you just know that he’s been acting unprofessionally. Your gut feeling tells you so, and that’s more than enough, especially if his behavior makes you feel uncomfortable.
You know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s enough for him to look at you, and you immediately feel your stomach turn upside down. Even when you two shake hands, you know he’s doing it in a creepy way.
Or maybe you like this man and feel that he’s interested in you too? Maybe the chemistry between you is so strong and intense that it would be impossible to ignore.
Either way, one thing is for sure: you’re not imagining things. Trust your intuition because it helps you see things clearly.
See also: 12 Signs Your Boss Is Testing You (And What To Do About It)
How Common Is Sleeping With Your Boss?
Office romances between bosses and employees are actually more common than you might think. In fact, according to some research, 1 out of 3 people have had some kind of personal relationship with their supervisors or managers.
It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about a female boss and a male subordinate or the other way around – these things happen frequently.
Some of these relationships turn into real romances, while a lot of them remain flings.
See also: 14 Sure Signs Your Boss Cares About You
What Is It Called When A Boss Sleeps With An Employee?
Sleeping with someone you work with is called fraternization. It doesn’t matter if we’re talking about your boss or a coworker – if you work for the same company, that’s an office romance, and in most companies, it’s strictly forbidden.
How Do You Know If Your Boss Is Into You?
If your boss is into you, he’ll give you special treatment over other employees, he’ll call you after work without a particular reason, he’ll find excuses to talk to you, he’ll pay you compliments, or he’ll admit his feelings at the end of the day.
However, there is a big difference between a man who just wants to sleep with you and a man whose feelings are genuine. The second one will never put you in a compromising position or risk you losing your job!
To Wrap Up:
Now that you’ve seen all the signs your boss wants to sleep with you, you have to ask yourself the most important question: Does this sexual tension make you feel uncomfortable, or do you enjoy it?
Remember: you don’t have to do things you feel pressured to do, even if it’s “just harmless” flirting! I don’t care if he’s your boss. If he wants to sleep with you even though you made it very clear you’re not interested, that’s sexual harassment.
Don’t fall for his manipulations and save yourself from this situation one way or another.
However, even if you like this man back, it doesn’t mean that your romance will go smoothly from there. First, you have to check your company’s policy regarding emotional relationships among employees.
Could you lose your job over this relationship? More importantly, is it worth it?
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