When people are in love, they often get clingy, especially girls. Even if there is a thin line between being in love and being clingy, guys don’t actually understand that too well. So, when a girl starts to act like she needs him to be with her all the time, he will probably run and won’t look back. Maybe you have also been clingy in your past relationships without even knowing about it and maybe because of that they all were doomed. So here are some signs of a clingy girlfriend and the ways to get rid of those characteristics. So stay tuned!
1. She doesn’t give you enough space
This is something most guys are terrified of. They simply hate when their girlfriend doesn’t leave them any time for themself that they badly need. They hate when she is always there when they talk on the phone, when they text their friends and when they talk to people on the street. You know, nobody likes to be suffocated with love and attention because that is not natural. So even if you love your man and you want to spend some time with him, just remember that maybe he needs some time alone just to organize his thoughts. Trust me, he will be so thankful to you for doing that and your relationship will be healthy and stable.
2. She talks even when he is not interested
The worst thing for a man is a girl who talks for hours over the phone about things that he is not interested in. This can drive every man crazy, so try to make your phone calls short and informative. You can ask your man how his day was or just check up on him but try to avoid a long conversation, especially if you will be the only one talking. Just imagine how you would feel if he kept talking for two hours and didn’t ask you anything. It would suck, right? So why do you think he feels the same? He is just scared to tell you that he doesn’t want to talk to you anymore because in that way he is risking hurting you or even losing you. But if you read between the lines, you will know what to do.
3. She doesn’t have her own life and hates him for having his own
A girl like this wants her man to be dedicated to her 24/7 but that is impossible. I mean, in a normal and healthy relationship, both partners should have their private lives with their friends and family and then enjoy their life together when the right time comes for that. If you see your girl hating you for going out with your friends and she is the one staying at home being bored, you can be sure that she is clingy. So, to prevent your man feeling sorry for you, go out and have some fun. You only have one life so enjoy it while you can. P.S. Girls who have a lot of fun on their own are very attractive to men!
4. She is insecure when hot girls are next to her man
For some reason, a girl like this thinks that all the other girls are way better than she is and she thinks that her boyfriend will leave her if he finds a girl more fun and attractive than her. This is the worst thing that can happen to a girl in a relationship because by thinking like this, she will never make any progress with her self-esteem. In order to feel good in your own skin, you should try to flirt with some good-looking guys when your man isn’t around. After you do that, you will feel better and desirable and you won’t be so clingy because you will realize that there are more cute guys out there, other than your man. And yes, you will start to get a different outlook on life.
5. She doesn’t like when her man spends time with his friends
This is her nightmare, literally. She thinks that by doing this her man will be unfaithful to her because his male friends will make him hit on another girl. That’s why she wants him only for herself because when he is with her he will do everything that she wants. But you need to know that this is not a good foundation for a healthy relationship and that you need to change something if you want to keep your man close. Please bear in mind that you can’t make him love you if he doesn’t feel it and that you will just make things worse if you try and keep him by force. In the end, if the two of you were meant to be together, you will be.
6. She is extremely suspicious
She is suspicious of every girl who enters her man’s life. Well, you know what? The more suspicious you are, the more your man will feel that and wish to end the relationship with you. If he wants to have an affair you won’t be able to forbid him to do so. Only his love for you can stop him so don’t sweat the small stuff. By doing this, you are just doing harm to yourself and thinking about the bad things instead of the good ones. Try to relax because if one man doesn’t respect you and love you it means that he is not the right one for you. So, what you need is to let the wrong one go so that the right one can take his place. And trust me, this attitude will pay off multiple times.
7. She wants to be in touch all the time
This is one of the most important (and irritating) traits of every clingy girlfriend. She will constantly call her man to check up on him and ask him what he is doing. She does this to find out if he is in the company of any girls or if there are only boys around him. Maybe this will be fun for your man at the beginning of a relationship when everything is sweet and nice but as time passes by he will be more irritated by your frequent calls. So, to keep him interested and into you as much as possible don’t check up on him every half an hour. Make him miss you by having super fun with your own friends. It will only be a matter of time before he looks for you just like you were looking for him.
8. She thinks her partner doesn’t love her as much as she loves him
This happens when a girl is clingy and when she is obsessed with a certain man in her life. Only in this state of mind will she think that her man doesn’t love her as much as she loves him. She never sees all the good stuff but only the bad and with that she is creating bad ideas about her love life. On the other hand, if you really see that your man is neglecting you and that he is canceling your dates at the last minute just so he can go with his friends on a night out, you should know there is something not right. In either case, the best thing would be to sit down and talk to him openly. Maybe he is also keeping some feelings to himself so that if you say something first he will open up to you. If this method doesn’t work, just finish your glass of wine and leave as he is not the one who deserves you.
9. She wants him to commit ASA
When a girl is clingy and needy, she will want her man to herself only. That’s why she will insist on getting married even if she is not quite sure that she is really ready for that. She thinks that she will never find a man who will love her like her partner and that she has to use all means necessary to make him commit to her. She will do crazy things and believe that is the right way to win a guy over. But the truth is that you need to listen to your own heart when it comes to love and not overreact with love bombing. No man likes it, and instead of making him stay, it will just push him far away from you. Guys often get cold feet when confronted with situations like this, so don’t think that you will get him if you keep on doing all these things.
10. She tells everyone on social media that she has met her soulmate
Okay, many girls often post photos with their boyfriends and stuff, but a clingy girlfriend will go one step forward. She will post photos of her man saying that he is the best thing that has ever happened to her and that she would be lost without him. She will tell that to her friends on social media sites and many of them will think she is a pain in the butt because of that. Other people also have their loved ones but they don’t talk about them 24/7 on Facebook. And even if you tell her that she should pump her breaks a bit, she will think you are envious, and she will fight with you. That is how she functions, and you can’t change her. She loves to live in her perfect dream where she will get her Prince Charming and where everything will be fine. She doesn’t actually live in reality and that might be the reason for her strange behavior.
11. She is obsessed with her partner
She believes that the man she has met is her perfect match and that she will never find someone like that. That’s why she becomes so obsessed with him. She will work hard on keeping him close, and even if her partner doesn’t feel good in that relationship, she will convince him to stay because she can make him happy. She is pretty obsessed with him, and she believes that she will fall apart if he leaves. She thinks her whole world will fall apart if another woman seduces him. That’s why she does things that she never thought she will do and in that way, loses her self-esteem. A girl like this actually has a lot to offer, but she lets her love blind her and make her look desperate.
12. She has low self-esteem
One of the reasons a girl is clingy can be her low self-esteem. If she thinks that she is not worthy or good enough, she will do all that it takes to prove to her man the opposite. She will even do all the crazy things she thought she would never try. And she will do all that because of wrong reasons. She doesn’t believe in herself. She doesn’t believe she is beautiful. She thinks she can be replaced with someone better than her and that feeling is eating her alive. But if she believes just a bit more in herself, she wouldn’t feel something like this. If she has more courage to stand up and fight for herself she wouldn’t go through all that she is going through. And in case you are a girl like this, please bear in mind that everything can change in your life if you only change your priorities and your outlook on life.
13. She constantly fights with him
A clingy girl will always fight with her partner because she won’t like it if he pays attention to anyone but her. She will want to be in the spotlight all the time, and if she doesn’t get it, she will be pissed off. The catch is that she has put a lot of effort into her relationship, and if she is not getting the same things back, she will feel disappointed. She will think that her partner will leave her and that he is bored with her. She will make the worst possible scenario in her mind, and she will never give up her negative thoughts. And I must admit that being a girl like this is not easy at all. She has to fight her inner battles, and only rare people can understand her. But she also needs to know that life is in front of her and that she shouldn’t sweat the small stuff.
14. She is not calm when he is not around
A clingy girlfriend won’t be able to be calm if her partner is not there. She will always make the worst possible scenarios about why he is not with her. Every time he goes out with his friends, she will think he is cheating on her, and she will be so frustrated and sad about that. And the most important part is that her partner doesn’t even want to do her any harm. He just wants some free time, but she has different plans about his time. These things can affect a relationship so much, so if you have traits like these, try to calm down a little bit because if you smile to life, be sure that life will smile to you, too. Take it easy. You simply can’t force love to come into your life. It will happen naturally.
15. She thinks every other girl is better than she is
A girl like this thinks that she is not beautiful enough or good enough for her partner and that he will leave her as soon as he finds someone more attractive than her. But she is so wrong because she doesn’t actually see her full potential. She is an amazing and warm person, but in the age of modern dating, things like that are not important for all guys. She learned that on her own skin, but she just needs to learn to believe to others. And even if she gets disappointed, at least she will know how to act the next time she gets in the same situation.