Romantic gestures are a universal way of showing your loved one your affection and (unfortunately) not many of us have this innate predisposition to show their partner how much they care about them without solely relying on those three words—’I love you‘.
But, not all hope is lost! It doesn’t matter if you’re a total anti-romantic creature or you’re just looking for new ways to surprise your loved one and refresh your list of romantic gestures, you’ve all come to the right place!
Now, many of us don’t really understand the true meaning of a romantic gesture. We often think that in order to surprise our loved ones and make them feel special, we need to make grand romantic gestures and go out of our way to amaze them. But, this is not true at all.
True love and romantic gestures encompass flexibility, thoughtfulness, sacrifice and effort. A romantic gesture can be going to a grocery store, doing household chores or fixing something for your partner.
Little romantic gestures like asking your partner about their day or paying them a compliment are often the most meaningful and special ones! Remember that romantic gestures are never measured by the amount of money, yet by the amount of your time and love for that they hold. “It’s the little things in life that matter the most!”
In that name, here is the ultimate list of unique romantic gestures that will melt your loved one’s heart and enrich your love life!
TOP 23 UNIQUE ROMANTIC GESTURES FOR BOTH HIM AND HER
1. Make them breakfast
No matter what anyone might think, food really is one of the best ways to almost anyone’s heart—not only a man’s. So if you want to please your partner, one of the ways to do so is to make them their favorite meal.
This doesn’t have to be anything complicated—it can just be a plain sandwich, but it will show them your love.
If this meal is breakfast, it would be nice to take it to them in bed. Besides being romantic and cute, there is also no better way to start a busy day (and this nice gesture will definitely earn you brownie points as well).
2. Take care of them when they’re sick
We all become big crybabies when we are sick (especially men, no matter how tough they pretend to be when it comes to everything else). They have a hard time dealing with any type of illness, and most of them think it’s the end of the world when they just catch a cold or when they have a headache.
Women are braver when it comes to this, but this doesn’t mean that they don’t need special attention during those days. That is why you should show your partner how much you care about them by taking care of them when they are sick.
Every human likes to see that their loved one cares for them, and they’ll immediately feel better if you do something simple for them, like taking them a hot cup of tea or making them soup.
3. Ask them about their day
When your partner comes home after working long hours and after they’ve had an exhausting day, the best thing you can do is show your genuine interest in it.
If you want to make them feel special (especially if you want to make her feel special), you’ll ask them how they spent their day and if anything has happened that they would like to share with you.
I know you sometimes don’t want to listen to them talking about their work, but trust me—it will make them feel a lot better. Of course, if your partner prefers to enjoy a quiet evening and not talk about their day, that’s OK too, and you should respect it.
Just make sure they know you are there for them if they decide to share something with you.
4. Surprise them for their birthday
Another small, romantic gesture you can make for your partner is to surprise them for their birthday. No matter how old they are getting, knowing that you remembered their birthday and that you’ve made an effort to make their day special for them is something which will make them happy.
You don’t have to surprise them with an expensive or fancy gift—just show them that you remembered and surprise them at midnight with their favorite cake, little notes, or something symbolic.
One romantic idea is to dedicate this entire day to them, if that is possible. Just do the things they enjoy doing the most and do your best to please them in every way possible.
Also, you can organize a surprise birthday party where you’ll gather their best friends and jump screaming, ‘Happy Birthday’ as they start approaching the premises.
5. Show them that you worry about them
When you are trying to show your partner you really love them, you can do it by showing that you care about them.
A simple question about if they have gotten home safely or if they have eaten will be more than enough. This way, they’ll know that there exists someone who thinks of them, and that will mean more than anything to them.
Just make sure not to overdo it because after all, you are not their mom or dad.
6. Let them be the little spoon
This one’s specifically oriented toward men. Whenever you and your partner cuddle, someone is always the big spoon, right? And you know how that makes you feel protected and safe? He has you wrapped in his arms, and you feel like nothing bad can happen to you while you lie there like that with him.
Well, the truth is that your guy would enjoy feeling the same from time to time, no matter how much of a macho man he is. So just let him be the little spoon sometimes. And remember—this doesn’t make him any less of a man.
7. Pay them a compliment
The society has imposed a belief that only women enjoy receiving compliments from their partners, but this couldn’t be more wrong. The fact is that a man also likes to be complimented, especially if those compliments are coming from the woman he loves.
Therefore, if you want to be romantic, consider surprising your partner with a compliment out of nowhere every now and then on social media or in person. You can say something about their looks or personality.
You don’t have to exaggerate or sweet-talk them—just tell them how attractive they are or that they’re well-dressed—whatever you like about them at that specific moment.
8. Tell them you are proud of them
Another romantic gesture you might make for your significant other is to show them how proud you are of them. Never fail to show them how happy you are to have them by your side and how proud you are about the man / woman they have become.
Whatever they do for you, you need to show them you appreciate their efforts. Of course, you can also tell them this, but it’s important to show them that you wouldn’t choose any other guy or a girl over them.
9. Watch a sports game together
If you’re not a huge fan of any particular sport, you would probably never watch a sports game if it was up to you. But your partner probably has a favorite sport and a favorite team and athlete.
They enjoy watching games or sports matches on TV or going to a game to see it live. And they will definitely appreciate it if they see you share the same enthusiasm about their favorite club winning. They’ll love to see you cheer and get excited because of something they enjoy.
You can also surprise them by buying them tickets and accompanying them to watch a game in person. Trust me—they will consider this to be more romantic than anything else, and it is one of the most wonderful ways to show your partner how much you love them.
10. Buy them concert tickets for their favorite band
Another thing your loved one will definitely appreciate is if you buy them concert tickets for their favorite music group. This will be especially nice if you two don’t listen to the same type of music because you’ll show them that you are doing something just to please them, even if that something doesn’t interest you.
You can accompany them to this concert or just buy them the tickets to go with some friends. Your call!
11. Pack them lunch for work
This is one of the best romantic gestures for a wife or husband. Now, I am definitely not saying that you should be the one who does all the cooking if you are living with your partner.
But it would be nice if you could pack them lunch for work from time to time because a homemade meal is always much better than the regular fast food they probably eat at work. This way, they’ll think of you when they get a break and when they eat it.
This will be a sweet gesture because you are showing them you care about them, and at the end of the day, that’s all that really matters.
True romantic gestures don’t only consist of ultimately nice things like a weekend getaway and all those beautiful moments as captured in stock pictures of Shutterstock. Romantic gestures recognized in everyday struggles and tasks have the biggest value.
12. Pay attention to details
The truth is that most of us don’t enjoy big, typical, romantic gestures as seen in movies. Instead, what we do enjoy is for the person we love to pay attention to small things and details which concern us.
Every partner would think you are a ‘jackpot girlfriend/boyfriend’ if you would just buy their favorite chocolate, for example. You need to understand that it’s not about the chocolate itself—it’s about the small romantic gestures; it’s about you knowing what they like and dislike and about you making an effort by getting them something they love.
This one’s especially true for women. So, one of the best romantic gestures to win her heart would be by paying attention to all those little things about her. (Remember that one!)
13. Take them out on a date
It doesn’t matter whether you and your partner are in a long-term relationship or if you two are even married—you can still proceed with going out on dates.
But instead of expecting your partner to take you out, why couldn’t you be the one to surprise them with your own date ideas? And you don’t need to wait for some special occasion, like a birthday, anniversary or Valentine’s Day.
Just arrange a date night, preferably in their favorite restaurant, and take them out. When it gets to the end of the night, surprise them with a small gift. I am sure this will make them swoon because it will make them feel really special.
14. Make them a personalized gift
If you and your partner have been together for ages, I am sure you’ve run out of ideas on what to buy them for their birthday and for other special occasions. You feel like you’ve already bought them everything you could think of, and you don’t know what to do.
But one of the most romantic things you could do is make them a personalized gift.
This present will probably be less expensive than anything else you’ve gotten them in the past, but trust me—they’ll cherish it more. They’ll see that you’ve put an effort into making something especially for them, and they’ll definitely keep this gift with them forever.
15. Give them a relaxing massage
Both you and your partner live busy and stressful lives, and your time together should be an oasis of peace.
That’s why one of the cutest, most romantic gestures to win her/ his heart should definitely be to give them a massage or a back rub after a long day at work. This way, you’ll relax them and show them that you don’t have a problem taking care of them, even if you are also tired from a busy day.
Besides, this is a great introduction to some action in the sheets.
16. Listen to them
One of the most romantic things you can do for your partner is paying attention to the things they’re telling you.
They need to see that you really listen to them carefully and that whatever they’re talking about matters to you.
If they see that you are putting an effort into having meaningful communication with them, they’ll automatically feel closer to you. They’ll know that they can open up to you and that they can share with you everything that’s bothering them.
This way, they’ll sense the enormous love you feel for them, and that is the most romantic thing there is.
17. Initiate sex
Another romantic gesture that you can make if you want to show your partner how much you care for them is to initiate sex, and do your best to please them in bed.
Dear ladies, if you two are one of those couples in which the male initiates sex more often, it’s time for that to change. You need to understand that he can be insecure as well and that there are times when he needs your approval.
By initiating sex, you are showing him that you still find him attractive and that he can still turn you on without doing anything.
You want to spice up your sex life? Skip the romantic atmosphere and the candles because let’s face it—you are the one who likes that more. Break the routine by wearing sexy lingerie or by thinking about some sex games that might be interesting for the two of you.
18. Write them a love letter or a love note
Your partner isn’t as romantic as you would like them to be, and they feel uncomfortable when you two talk about your feelings face-to-face? But you still want to find a way to be romantic in your relationship.
And there exists a solution for that.
You can write your partner a love letter or a love note, full of romantic couple quotes. It doesn’t have to be pathetic, cheesy or too romantic—you can express your feelings in a funny way.
Just leave this letter or note somewhere where they’ll find it. This way, they’ll have the opportunity to read it while they are on their own.
19. Touch them affectionately
Another cute and romantic gesture you can make for your partner is to touch them affectionately without any special reason.
Play with their hair, hug them from behind or just give them a kiss on the cheek.
This doesn’t have to be anything sexual. Instead, it is a way of you showing them affection and the love you feel for them. This way, you’ll show them that you can’t keep your hands off them and that your body has the urge to be close to them.
20. Grab their hand when you’re walking or driving
You can grab hold of your partner’s hand when you’re walking.
The two of you have probably been together for a long time, and you’ve lost the habit of holding hands while you are out in public. But this intimate thing can sometimes be more romantic than anything else. It brings you two closer, and it shows the entire world that you are together.
Also, you can grab your partner’s hand when they are driving. One of their hands is on the steering wheel and that gives you the opportunity to hold the other.
21. Join them in their hobby
Your partner enjoys hiking or fishing? They like taking part in marathons or they enjoy volunteering?
Either way, it will be romantic of you if you accompany them while they’re enjoying their hobby, even if that is not your favorite thing to do.
This shows them that you are not selfish and that you can find the time to do something they like to do. It also shows him that you find their happiness important and that seeing them enjoy themselves is more than enough for you to be happy as well.
22. Surprise him with a movie screening of his favorite movie
You want to spend a nice evening at home together with your partner, but you want to do something different which will make the evening memorable?
If you’ve run out of ideas, here is a great one.
You can surprise them with proposing to watch their favorite movie or TV show. Also, you can order all the takeout food and a gigantic tray of brownies you’ve been craving to eat for months, and enjoy the ultimate Netflix and chill experience.
23. Give them a photo of the two of you together
You want your partner to think of you even when the two of you are not together? Give them a photo of the two of you to carry in their wallet.
You may think this is old-fashioned because they could just have your picture as the background on their phone, but it is actually quite romantic.
You can also frame this photo, and give it them to put on their desk. It shows that you’ve put the effort in to find the photo and to print it out. Trust me—they’ll never want it out of their sight!